An affair with a married man.After reading this phrase, some women shrugged their shoulders in displeasure (wives), some chuckled: we've been there, we know! (mistress). One way or another, many are familiar with a relationship with a married man. Some are on one side of the barricades, some are on the other, and some have simply witnessed a love triangle. Moreover, this issue is so sensitive that it is impossible to say unequivocally: the wife is good, and the mistress is a bitch. It happens in different ways. And if the wife's position has been considered by psychologists more than once (she was either scolded for not giving something to her husband in marriage, or pitied), then today we will try to explain the behavior of a mistress in an affair with a married man. What drives her? What reason should a woman have to step over public opinion? Is a mistress really as heartless and impudent as she is described in many TV series?

Relationship with a married man for love

These networks include everyone:from young seventeen-year-old girls to mature ladies. Why? The answer is very simple and banal: you want love, and a relationship with a married man is quite capable of satisfying this need. A young girl, not having left school, dreams of becoming an adult. But how to do this? Fall in love. Her peers seem to her to be obsessed with sex, stupid (naturally, because they also just left their school desks) and unsure of themselves. But a mature man conquers at first sight. He does not giggle nervously at every joke, does not try to climb in for a kiss, does not save money on it. Plus, he is already an accomplished person who amazes with his prudence and intelligence. The very embodiment of a dream. And one insignificant minus in a series of pluses - he is married. But this slippery moment is carefully avoided by the man himself. He either does not talk about his marital status from the very beginning (until he understands that the girl is mature), or justifies himself by saying that he got married before he met his dream (or under duress). A married man turns into a real psychologist in order to justify the blue stamp in his passport to his girlfriend and cover up his love affairs to his wife. The girl herself is torn between feelings and social norms. After all, every mother teaches her child that affairs with married men do not lead to anything good. But love does its job: every evening the girl gathers the strength to give her beloved the cold shoulder, sees him - and cannot force herself to break up with him. Plus, the man himself begins to "feed" the girl with promises and stories about his unhappy family life. As a rule, a young girl's affair with a married man does not last long. Then either:

• the girl grows up and tears the relationship itself;
• for her parents do this, who noticed the daughter in shameful communication (she did not learn how to lie, as her partner did);
• the man himself breaks the connection when he sees that the girl is too much in love and will soon begin to make demands and do stupid things;
• the girl still does stupid things, the wife learns about the relationship of her husband and puts him before the choice that he takes in favor of the existing family.

These are the most common completion options.an affair with a married man for a young girl. However, every rule has its exceptions, and a relationship with a married man can lead a couple in a completely different direction. As for a mature woman, she is pushed into an affair with a married man by the hope of being loved. As a rule, this is a divorced woman (we will talk about affairs with married ladies a little later), who has already despaired of finding her happiness. And here he is - a handsome and smart man. And it doesn't matter that he is married. So, there is no need to wash socks. Very often, women who themselves were previously deceived by their spouses enter into such relationships. And it does not matter who put an end to the exhausted marriage - the husband who left for another, or the wife who threw the traitor out the door. After a certain time, the woman begins to think: how good it was for that bitch-lover! She had money, and love, and tenderness, and I only have dirty pots and the smell of fumes. A little more, and the divorced woman will no longer be eager to get married. She will want that sweet life without problems that the homewrecker lived. And the stamp in the passport? Why? Wait for the unfaithful one at night again? Listen to inept excuses and wash lipstick off collars? No sooner said than done. How long does it take to look for a married man who is tired of marriage? As a rule, such an affair with a married man can drag on for many years. The woman will be quite happy with the status of a mistress, since she is either unsure of herself, or knows from personal experience that it is better to be in this role when a man comes to you shaved, in a good mood, with flowers. And she leaves illnesses, stubble and bad mood to his legitimate half. A man is also quite happy with such a relationship. A divorced woman does not demand furs and diamonds. She is always waiting. And there is something to talk about with her, unlike random girls picked up in a bar. Now let's look at the no less common, but more "thoughtful" romances with married men.What to do if you are in a relationship with a married man?

Relationship on settlement

Oh, these greedy women!What will they not do for the sake of profit! They often think that an affair with a rich man is the easiest way to make money. Especially if we are talking about a very wealthy person who can solve all your problems with one credit card. And the fact that this "wallet on legs" is married is not a problem. And in these cases, affairs with married men proceed in all genres of Mexican TV series and romance novels. The insidious seductress sets the net. The man willingly falls into them. It is good if the "exemplary family man" does not fall in love with his mistress. Then there is a profitable mutual settlement. But often a quiet home wife looks bland and uninteresting against the background of a bright and daring mistress. The man involuntarily begins to compare his two women and makes a choice in favor of a new passion. He wants so much an explosion of passion, lacy peignoirs instead of washed-out dressing gowns, heady wine instead of mint tea and full-fledged, hours-long sex instead of sluggish performance of marital duties! And the hero of the love triangle begins to rush about like a horse on a leash. Now to his wife (it is more familiar there, you can walk around unshaven and in stretched boxer shorts, lie for hours on your favorite sagging sofa), then to his mistress (for another portion of unearthly love, passion and assurances of his own superiority). He even likes this situation. Both women please him, trying to prove that she is the best. And the man is happy to try. After eating his wife's pies, he goes to his mistress, and vice versa.

The situation becomes a turning point when...

• At the wife patience comes to an end, and she exposes the traitor with things behind the door

The husband runs briskly to his mistress,justifying himself by saying that he himself has never left anyone. He was kicked out, so the responsibility for the divorce lies solely with his wife! In the first months, life seems like paradise to him. Very often, a man does not admit to his mistress that his departure was initiated by his wife. He declares that he left himself for the sake of great and bright love. Therefore, the passion perceives the situation as a personal victory over the wife of her beloved, and pleases the man in every possible way, waiting for the logical conclusion of the relationship - a trip to the registry office. However, in seventy percent out of a hundred, such affairs with married men end with the return of the prodigal spouse home. The mistress turns from an unearthly fairy into a completely earthly woman with wrinkles, pimples, a bad mood, critical days. The man increasingly misses home, cabbage pies, which the new passion never learned to cook. His favorite sagging sofa, repeating the shape of his body. For a wife who accepted him as he is, in front of whom he does not need to suck in his stomach and constantly seem smart and strong. All unearthly passion now seems far-fetched and unnecessary to him. A man simply gets tired of the hustle and bustle and returns to where he feels warm and cozy. Although there are exceptions to the rule. Sometimes new families turn out to be strong, and a man stays with his mistress.

• Mistress decides to reverse the situation and gets in touch with the man's wife, begins to tell intimate details, pressure on the psyche

In this case, everything depends on wisdom andthe wife's patience. Will she have enough strength not to react to provocations? The man will stay in the family. Will he start to get hysterical? He will provoke a divorce. When two women enter into a fight, any means are used. The most favorite of them is pregnancy. And it is not necessarily the mistress who gets pregnant. Wives also like to keep a man in the family in this way, which subjects the opponent to incredible shock: the lover told her that he has not slept with his wife for a long time, but in fact it turned out that he does sleep with her, and quite regularly. Another weapon is children. The wife asks not to leave the family until the son or daughter grows up, so as not to traumatize the child's psyche. The man stays. The passion for the mistress sooner or later subsides, and everything falls into place.

• The man himself decides to leave the family

This happens when the betrayal was preceded bydisappointment in the previous partner. The man does not have the courage to file for divorce immediately, especially since everyone around him says that love is not the most important thing in a family. So he starts an affair on the side. And in most cases, he falls in love with a new passion with all the ensuing consequences: divorce, a new marriage. It happens that an affair on the side is a detonator for divorce, but it never ends in a new marriage. The man, having tasted freedom, decides not to start a family with his mistress, believing that such a family life will not be much better than the old one.What to do if a married man and a married woman meet? Should the relationship continue or end?

The romance of a married woman

If a married man and a married woman meetwoman, then the affair, as a rule, proceeds quietly, lasts a long time and does not pose any threat to their families. These relationships are the most honest of all the above. The partners do not lie at least to each other. They are already family people, and, as a rule, they only need variety from a new relationship. No one plans to destroy someone else's family, make money on a sexual partner. A married woman helps her lover hide the traces of a recent date, advises what gift to give his wife for March 8 and her birthday. Such a relationship usually only strengthens families. And if one of the partners (let's say, a man) decides to break off the relationship, then a married woman is guaranteed not to run after her lover or tell his wife the details of adultery out of revenge. Maybe she would like to do this, but an affair with a married man casts a shadow on her too. Perhaps this is why many men look for women who are already married as mistresses.

Afterword

Of course, many may object:They say, everything is described very cynically. Where are the feelings? Passion? When all three participants of a love triangle love and cannot divide the roles among themselves? Yes, you are right. Romances with married men are, first of all, relationships. And very difficult for those who enter into them. Agree, it is difficult to remain indifferent when you know that, having broken up with you, your loved one goes to another woman. And will hug her, kiss her, and at night will go to sleep in the same bed. It is not easy to spend all the holidays and weekends alone. To hide your relationship with a married man from family and colleagues. To see how your loved one goes out onto the balcony to talk to his legal wife. And try to believe that he loves you, and not his wife. Although all the facts say otherwise. We recommend reading:

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