A novel with a married man. After reading this phrase, some women discontentedly shrugged their shoulders (wives), someone grinned: they swam, we know! (mistress). Anyway, a relationship with a married man is familiar to many. Who on one side of the barricades, who on the other, and someone just was a witness of a love triangle. And this question is so scrupulous that it is impossible to say unequivocally: the wife is good, and her mistress is a bitch. It's not always the same. And if the position of the wife was considered by psychologists more than once (she was either scolded for not giving something to her husband in marriage, or was sorry), today we will try to explain the behavior of the mistress in the novel with a married man. What is it driving? What reason should a woman have to cross public opinion? Is the mistress so heartless and impudent as she is described in many TV shows?
Relationship with a married man for love
In these networks all fall: from young seventeen-year-old girls to mature ladies. Why? The answer is very simple and trivial: I want love, and a relationship with a married man is quite capable of meeting this need. A young girl, before she left school, dreams of becoming an adult. But how to do that? Fall in love. One-year-olds seem to her obsessed with sex, stupid (of course, because they also just came out from behind the school desk) and insecure. But a mature man wins at first sight. He does not giggle nervously over every joke, does not try to kiss, does not save money on it. Plus, he is already an accomplished man, who strikes with his intelligence and intelligence. The very embodiment of a dream. And one insignificant minus in a sequence of pluses - he is married. But this slippery moment neatly bypasses the man himself. He either does not talk about his marital status from the very beginning (until he realizes that the girl is ripe), or is justified by the fact that he married before he met his dream (or coercion). A married man turns into a real psychologist in order to justify his girlfriend a blue stamp in his passport and cover up his love affairs before his wife. The very same girl rushes between feelings and social norms. After all, every mother teaches her child that romances with married men do not lead to good. But love does its job: every evening the girl is going to give her turn to the beloved from the gate, sees him - and can not force herself to part with it. Plus, the man himself begins to "feed" the girl with promises and stories about the unhappy family life. The romance with a married man in a young girl continues, as a rule, not for long. Then either:
- the girl grows up and tears the relationship itself;
- for her parents do this, who noticed the daughter in shameful communication (she did not learn how to lie, as her partner did);
- the man himself breaks the connection when he sees that the girl is too much in love and will soon begin to make demands and do stupid things;
- the girl still does stupid things, the wife learns about the relationship of her husband and puts him before the choice that he takes in favor of the existing family.
These are the most common options for completionromance with a married man from a young girl. However, each rule has its own exceptions, and a relationship with a married man can lead the couple quite another way. As for a mature woman, she is pushed to a romance with a married man hope to be loved. As a rule, this is a divorced woman (we will talk about the relationship with married ladies a little later), which has already despaired of finding its happiness. And here he is handsome and clever. And nothing that's married. Hence, socks will not have to be washed. Very often women come into such relations, who were deceived by their spouses. And it does not matter who put the point in the exhausted marriage - the husband who went to another, or the wife, who exposed the traitor by the door. After a certain time the woman starts to think: how good was that bitch-lover! And money to her, and love, and tenderness, but to me only dirty pans and the smell of fumes. A little more, and the divorced woman will no longer strive to marry. She will want that sweet life without problems, which lived razluchnitsa. And the stamp in the passport? What for? Again wait at night for the unfaithful? Listening to clumsy excuses and washing the collars of lipstick? No sooner said than done. How long to look for a man who is not free, tired of marriage? As a rule, a similar affair with a married man can drag on for many years. The woman will be completely satisfied with the status of the mistress, because she is either not sure of herself, or she knows from personal experience that it is better to be in this role, when a man comes to you shaved, in a good mood, with flowers. A disease, bristles and bad mood leaves the legal half. A man is also quite happy with this connection. A divorced woman does not require fur and diamonds. Always waiting. Yes, and talk with her about what, in contrast to the random girls shot in a bar. Now let's consider not less common, but more "thought out" novels with married men. What if you have a relationship with a married man?
Relationship on settlement
Oh, these greedy women! On what only they will not go for the sake of profit! They often think that an affair with a rich man is the easiest way to make money. Especially if it's a very wealthy person who can solve all your problems with one credit card. And the fact that this "wallet on the legs" is married - it does not matter. And in these cases, there are novels with married in all genres of Mexican TV series and romance novels. The insidious seducer places the nets. The man willingly gets into them. Well, if the "exemplary family man" does not fall in love with a mistress. Then there is a profitable mutual settlement. But often the quiet domestic wife looks on the background of a bright and daring mistress fresh and uninteresting. The man unwittingly begins to compare his two women and makes a choice in favor of a new passion. He so wants a blast of passions, delicate dressing gowns instead of washed robes, intoxicating wine instead of tea with mint and full-fledged multi-hour sex instead of sluggish execution of marital duties! And the hero of the love triangle begins to rush about like a horse on a leash. Then to his wife (there is more familiar, you can walk unshaven and in extended family cowards, spend hours lying on your favorite crocked couch), then to your mistress (for another portion of unearthly love, passion and assurances of one's own superiority). He even likes this situation. Both women please him, trying to prove that she is the best. A man and happy to try. After eating your wife's pies, go to your mistress, and vice versa.
The situation becomes a turning point when ...
- At the wife patience comes to an end, and she exposes the traitor with things behind the door
Her husband jauntily runs to his mistress,making excuses for himself that he did not throw anyone. He was kicked out, so the responsibility for a divorce lies only with his wife! In the first months, life seems to him a paradise. Very often a man does not admit to his mistress, that his departure was initiated by his wife. He declares that he left himself for the sake of big and bright love. Therefore, the passion perceives the situation as a personal victory over the wife of a loved one, and in every way pleases the man, waiting for the logical completion of the relationship - a march to the registrar. However, in seventy of a hundred percent such novels with married men end with the return of the prodigal husband home. Mistress turns from an unearthly fairy into a completely earthly woman with wrinkles, pimples, bad mood, critical days. The man is increasingly missing home, pies with cabbage, which never learned to prepare a new passion. According to the favorite-carved sofa, repeating the shape of his body. According to his wife, who took him as he is, before which you do not need to draw your belly and constantly seem smart and strong. All unearthly passion now seems to him far-fetched and superfluous. The man just gets tired of the bustle and returns to where he is warm and comfortable. Although there are exceptions to the rules. Sometimes new families find themselves strong, and the man remains with his mistress.
- Mistress decides to reverse the situation and gets in touch with the man's wife, begins to tell intimate details, pressure on the psyche
In this case everything depends on the wisdom andpatience of the wife. Enough of her strength not to respond to provocation? The man will stay in the family. Will she start hysterical? Provokes a divorce. When two women join the fight, any funds are used. Especially the favorite of them is pregnancy. And pregnant is not necessarily a mistress. Wives also like to keep a man in the family in such a way that they put the opponent in an incredible shock: she was told by her lover that she had not slept with his wife for a long time, but in reality it turned out that she was very much awake, quite regularly. Another weapon is children. The wife asks not to leave the family, until a son or daughter grows up, so as not to injure the child's psyche. The man remains. Passion for a mistress sooner or later ceases, and everything falls into place.
- The man himself decides to leave the family
This happens when the change precededdisappointment in the former partner. To submit immediately to divorce a man lacks the spirit, especially since everyone around him says that in the family, love is not the main thing. And that's why he's got a craze on the side. And in most cases falls in love with a new passion with all the ensuing consequences: divorce, a new marriage. It happens that the novel on the side is a detonator to the divorce, but it does not end with a new marriage. A man, having tasted freedom, decides not to create families with a mistress, believing that such a family life will not be much better than the old one. What if a married man and a married woman met? Relations continue or stop?
The romance of a married woman
If a married man and married meetthe woman, the novel, as a rule, proceeds silently, lasts long and does not represent any threat for their families. These relations are the most honest of all of the above. Partners do not lie at least to each other. They are already family people, and as a rule, they need only a new connection. Nobody plans to ruin another's family, to earn money on a sexual partner. A married woman helps a lover hide the traces of a recent date, advises which one to give a gift to his wife on March 8 and the birthday. Such a relationship usually only strengthens families. And if one of the partners (for example, a man) decide to terminate the relationship, it is guaranteed to be a married woman not to run for a lover or tell his wife the details of adultery revenge. Maybe she would like to do it, but the affair with the married man and her casts a shadow. Probably, that's why many men are looking for mistresses of women who are already married.
Of course, many may object: they say, all cynically described very much. And where are the feelings? Passion? When do all three lovers of the love triangle love and can not share roles? Yes you are right. Novels with married people are first of all relations. And very uneasy for those who enter into them. Agree, it is difficult to remain indifferent when you know that, after parting with you, your beloved goes to another woman. And she will be hugged, kissed, and at night she goes to bed in the same bed. It's not easy to spend all holidays and weekends alone. Hide your relationship with a married man from relatives and colleagues. See how your beloved goes to the balcony to talk with his legal wife. And try to believe that he loves you, not his wife. Although all the facts indicate the opposite. We advise you to read: