Ideal wife in terms of men

“I have the perfect wife!» I wonder how many men can boast of such an asset in a narrow circle of friends? And is it generally accepted for representatives of the stronger half of humanity to talk about their legal spouses with admiration and undisguised delight? After all, such sincerity is often considered a manifestation of weakness, and men are called henpecked. But most women who are in a truly happy marriage consider themselves exactly like that - perfect life partners. A popular and rather hackneyed expression that defines what an ideal wife should be, in the opinion of a man, sounds something like this: "In bed - a slut, in the kitchen - a goddess!" Well, not only is this narrow, mundane and primitive, but it is also somehow humiliating both for the stronger half of humanity and for us, beautiful ladies. After all, according to this slogan, our real and potential husbands are not interested in anything except two animal passions - sex and food. Is it possible that nothing has changed in the male consciousness in the millennia that have passed since man became a rational being? Is it possible that lust and the desire to eat deliciously still determine the entire meaning of their existence? What should we do then? Master the intricacies of housekeeping from school, and then look for ways to liberate ourselves in bed, in order to live up to the title of super-wife in the understanding of the future spouse?

Results of sociological surveys among men

To find out what the ideal should belife partner through the eyes of a man and what exactly is the key to a happy marriage and strong relationships in the family, German sociologists together with psychologists conducted a survey among representatives of the stronger sex of the country aged 25 to 50 years. During the processing of its results, specialists found out that for the average man, in a future chosen one, as a rule, three main qualities are important:

Ability to cook, it's not for nothing that people'sthe wisdom that the way to the heart of the chosen one lies through his stomach. These representatives of the stronger sex only once again confirmed the well-known truth. Therefore, ladies, do not rely on a wide range of semi-finished products and an abundance of fast food restaurants. Cook at home!

Sexuality, because attractiveappearance and an ideal figure in combination with a certain kind of emancipation and willingness to experiment in bed deprive the representatives of the stronger sex of the desire to seek something new on the side. So, girls and women, feed the spouse with different goodies, and themselves run for fitness and courses of stripplastic!

Admiration for your man. Yes, here the strong sex proved to be not the best side: they, like selfish children, need constant admiration for their person. In addition, any man, regardless of his age, wants his wife to compliment him, show maternal love and take care of him. And if you do not know how, then immediately go to the lessons of oratory, where they will surely teach the art of flattery.

And there is no need to make “scary eyes” when you seestale socks scattered everywhere or hearing naive questions in the morning on the eternal topic of lost trousers, T-shirts, and so on. Of course, the ideal wife always knows where and what is, even if for this she needs to thoroughly comprehend the deductive method of Mr. Holmes. Most of the surveyed representatives of the stronger sex assure that if the chosen one has all these virtues, then no man will ever part with her. I wonder if such qualities of the ideal wife do not frighten German Fraus? True, the men there are much more pedantic. Perhaps they do not scatter dirty socks, and neatly put their things in the closet. Therefore, it is somewhat easier for German women to be a dream woman than for us. Judging by the conclusions, they do not even need to be smart. But let's not take such conclusions at face value and instead turn to the images of ideal women of the past, described in detail in fiction.

Transformation of male representations of perfection

In Margaret Mitchell's bestseller, such a companionlife is outlined quite clearly. A southern lady of that time was obliged to eat like a bird, to perceive any stupidity of a man as the ultimate truth, to always look at him with admiration and admiration, to demonstrate her own helplessness in every possible way and carefully hide her existing intelligence. Only in this case could the girl count on a happy marriage. But on her fragile shoulders fell the worries about the maintenance of a huge estate and a large number of slaves, and in order to do everything correctly, ingenuity, intelligence, the ability to instantly navigate in any circumstances and strength of character were required. After all, it was considered impermissible to involve a spouse in such "unmanly" affairs. Indeed, why tire him with women's problems? By the way, even giving birth to a child, a southern woman had to do it as quietly as possible so as not to disturb the peace of her husband. And remember our literary compatriot, Natasha Rostova. At the end of the novel, the author turned the lively, spontaneous and charming young girl into a heavy lady, concerned about the health of her numerous offspring, completely dissolved in household chores and the interests of her husband. Yes, yes, this is exactly what an ideal wife should be like, according to Leo Tolstoy. And he expressed the opinion of his male contemporaries! But do not rush to sigh dejectedly, dear girls, and hastily hide your smart books away in the closet, preparing for the arrival of the young man who is destined to become your husband. True, you should not greet him with profound conclusions about the meaning of life instead of a delicious dinner either. The good old truth about the golden mean is also appropriate in the case of the concept of the "ideal wife". In addition, there is a clear transformation of this image in the minds of today's men. So what has changed since those distant times? Firstly, the fair sex has won the right not to hide its own intelligence, has reached great heights in all spheres of social life and has received the opportunity to develop. Secondly, most of us have learned to correctly balance between career growth and family. So how to adapt reality to what modern men call the concept of "an ideal wife"? Let's move away from stereotypes and not take seriously the statement about a slut and a divine cook in one person. Representatives of the strong half of humanity, fortunately, are not at all as simple as it may seem, based on such an interpretation of the image of an ideal life partner. If we take into account the results of numerous sociological surveys, then the dream wife in the eyes of a man should:

be beautiful, have intelligence and intelligence, do not crack like a magpie, do not have problems with every night's migraine and critical days that have come at an awful time;
be able to inspire and serve as a source of inspiration, maintain in the husband the conviction that he is the most intelligent, the most beautiful and the most successful;
to embody the true femininity in the form of purity, kindness and infinite patience.

Here they are, the basic rules of an ideal wife.As you can see, some things have changed in the male consciousness since the times of Scarlett and Natasha Rostova. It is pleasing that the stronger sex acknowledges that we have intelligence, but culinary skills are completely absent from the list above (unless, of course, they are hidden under the general phrase "true feminine principle"). The vanity is also pleased by the pleasant need to serve as a muse for the beloved man in all his endeavors. But in fact, these three rules contain many generalizations, and if you examine each of them more specifically, you will get a whole set of unspoken laws of behavior, containing at least ten main articles.

Commandments of the ideal companion of life

And no one said that to become for your ownthe chosen one as the woman of his life will be so easy! The path to perfection is thorny and difficult, but it is still possible to overcome it if you have a great desire for this, supported by sincere love. Remember the simple truth: only a wise woman can find true family happiness. So, maybe it's time to take the first steps yourself, and not wait for them from your partner? And here are 10 commandments of an ideal wife to tell you where to start.

Learn to be different, because you know how to surprise a maneven ten to fifteen years after the wedding - this is "aerobatics" of marriage. Do not be afraid to change both externally and internally. Hairstyle, hair color, makeup, style - all this should not remain in a static state, even if once selected image you are very well.

In addition to appearance, you also need to change internally.Don't freeze for long in the role of a super-housewife or mother of your children, don't sacrifice family happiness on the altar of work, even if it brings in a good income, don't become only an inventive mistress, languidly waiting for her husband in bed and offering sex for dinner. Act, play and transform, be unpredictable, a woman of mystery, if you want.

Perceive your man exactly whathe is in fact, because to be able to properly assess real opportunities is more important than loving ephemeral perspectives. Therefore, do not expect that the stamp in the passport opens before you unlimited opportunities for making adjustments to the image of the spouse. Instead of trying to correct his shortcomings, concentrate on the merits and cultivate them.

Become a reliable man for the man anda quiet harbor, of which he so dreams. In time to put a shoulder and stubbornly meet a failure in business, health problems, or even some crisis moment - that's what the notorious "in sorrow and in joy" means. Experienced together, adversities uniquely rally the family and make the man take a special look at his wife, who was close at a difficult time.

Know how to love yourself. Find time to practice your own appearance and figure, grow spiritually, comprehend new horizons. After all, the wife-cook or wife-housekeeper - it's very convenient, but unbearably fresh. And men love the feeling of flight, so they are quite capable of going to his search for another woman.

Do not try to avoid quarrels and conflicts with the family. After all, your compliance in the desire to preserve the appearance of peace can grow a tyrant in the wife. Therefore, it is necessary to be able to find out the relationship, but do it in a civilized manner and not with children. Remember, in any sop should avoid categorical and excursions into the history of past misdeeds of the spouse.

Do not give sex an optional role. Certainly, over time, the old passions will subside, but if you approach the process non-trivially and somewhat diversify it, then it is still possible to ignite the flame of love. Do not forget that for a man the satisfaction of sexual needs is a vital necessity and does not depend on how many children you have and the concerns associated with them.

Do not try to replace your husband betterfriend. Of course, over time, the spouses, so to speak, "sprout" into each other and become native people. But do not dissolve in the interests of the whole man. Do not forget about your own personality and always emphasize your femininity and sexuality. And if the husband offers you to arrange a sit-and-talk in the kitchen, then ask him to buy not beer, but champagne. After a glass of sparkling drink in the thin hand of his beloved wife can excite the imagination with the prospects of a passionate night.

Do not neglect the role of keeper of the homehearth. Always meet the spouse neatly dressed, smiling and in good spirits. Do not leave in the apartment the chaos of children's toys and the mountains of dirty dishes in the sink. Feed your husband a delicious dinner, and do it every night, because he has the right to reinforce his strength after a busy day's work. Remember that the house, smelling of pies and filled with a sense of peace, always want to return.

It is necessary to be able to listen to your spouse, beattentive to what he tells you. Yes, and do not hesitate to talk on topics that concern you. Dialogue, especially flavored with a cup of fragrant evening tea, helps get rid of the stress accumulated during the day and gives an opportunity to better understand each other. Affinity spiritual promotes harmony in sexual relations.

Do not constantly cultivate in a manfeeling that the wife is sacrificing herself to the family. In the end, he will want to free you and yourself from such a yoke. But we should not only take from the man everything he can offer you, without giving anything in return and demanding another star from the sky. This approach will soon weary and embitter your husband, which will lead to scandal and divorce. Therefore, try to give yourself away easily, but do not forget to take from your beloved what is due, in other words, look for a balance.

Here they are, the 10 commandments of the ideal wife.As you can see, this is not only a guide to achieving harmony in the family, but also a colossal work on yourself, a path to improving your inner self and a kind of restructuring of self-awareness. The emotional side of relationships is a purely female prerogative, so it depends on you what the "weather in the house" will be. But everyone knows that both sun and rain are necessary for a good harvest. So it is in the family - a few whims, a few tears and a sea of warmth in combination and the right dosage will give excellent shoots in the form of strong and reliable relationships, generously watered with sincere love.