Mum of the famous rapper Timati is now at leastfamous than her son. Some time ago, Simon Yunusova started blogging in her Instagram on the topic of raising children. The famous grandmother of Alisa Timurovna tells both about her own experience and about the various techniques she uses in her granddaughter's education. Subscribers are simply delighted with the advice of a woman who brought up Timati himself and now brings up his daughter. Alisa loves watching almost all the country. In her two and a half years the girl is very developed: she knows how to swim, knows the letters, figures, geometric figures, the names of fruits, vegetables and much more. The Woman's Day edition has gathered for you the best recommendations for raising children from Simona, so that your baby grows the same smart and active, like Timati's daughter.
A photo: @ simona280The child does not need to be accustomed to expensive and beautiful life It is very important to explain to the child that much depends on his efforts. It is not necessary to identify the well-being of parents with their own. It is necessary to accustom to the fact that life is different and you have to be ready for this. We need to cultivate a respectful attitude to people, regardless of their financial situation. Children copy us, so any actions and words should be carefully thought out, which we, such and they. It is necessary to explain that hard work is worth every success, and most importantly, in my opinion, to teach a person not to suffer from the fact that the neighbor has something that you do not. The main task of an adult is to instill in the child the habit of living in harmony with oneself and be able to enjoy everything that surrounds him. In other words, to teach to be happy, and to teach to a beautiful life, in my opinion, it is not worth it, to good and without training get used very quickly. Develop children in children. Children need to be taught what is useful in everyday life, then there will not be many problems in the adult life ... Now I have a girl, and therefore a lot of thinking about this topic. I do not want to write banalities about the fact that a girl should be a neat and good housewife, that's so clear ... But how to make it so that routine work is fun? An example from life: in my childhood, rubbed floors to make them shine. The case is terribly boring and boring, but my dad suggested doing this to music, and the work turned into an exciting activity! Helping to cook dinner at a time when everyone is chasing along the street is also not the sweetest, but when I was shown how the dough was "breathing" in my hands (for those who do not know when the yeast dough starts to mix, it bubbles and it seems that in the hands of a living organism) - this is a fabulous feeling! By the way, since then, I love cooking ... Now I can say with certainty that in children it is necessary to develop a creative beginning, and then any work becomes interesting and not a burden.
Фото:@ simona280 Respect the choice and opinion of your child My dad was a musician, a real communist and an incorrigible romantic who sincerely believed in the idea and that everyone can change the world with their good deeds ... ideal society ... My mother was a restorer. Grabar's workshop is still located on the territory of the temple in Kadashi. Mom survived 38 years old, the arrest, execution of her father, rehabilitation and much more ... She was a religious person and, to put it mildly, did not really share the romantic aspirations of her husband, but the main thing in our family was respect for the opinion of both. None of my parents ever indulge in sarcasm about the ideals of the other! Perhaps that is why they managed to live such a long life together in love ... I really want my parents' little great-granddaughter to know the history of her country. I would like to have time to tell Alice about our family, so that she herself builds causal relationships, that is, she just learns to think, and that people on her way will definitely meet people who will respect her choice. There are no easy children Are there easy children? I have not met! There are different temperaments on which the behavior of the child depends. Temperament cannot be brought up, much less changed. I've never met people with only one type of trait. Most often we observe mixed options, but you can always notice a dominant predominance. I would treat introverted children with great attention, since external complaisance and calmness have nothing to do with their inner world. Both the silent and the chatterboxes personally cause the same alarm in me, since these are two sides of the same coin. Now I rely on personal experience. I spent my childhood sitting on the edge of a constantly erupting volcano! It was very difficult emotionally, nevertheless close and understandable. Temperament, like the color of hair, eyes, is given to us from birth, we simply inherit its features from our parents. Alice will not be a comfortable child for sure! Well, baby, welcome to our cholero-sanguine family with elements of melancholy! From “princesses” young ladies who are not adapted to life grow up At all times there were canons of beauty that women aspired to. I’m definitely not talking about that! For me it is always much more attractive than the standard - charisma and style! Alice is dressed the way everyone in our family likes it! The same goes for her haircut. Finally, I don't like it when girls are told that they are princesses. In my opinion, out of the "princesses" grow up not adapted to life, exalted young ladies, for whom a broken nail or a pimple that has jumped up is a reason for hysteria. It is better to be a sorceress who will make other people happy with her abilities.
A photo: @ simona280The question of the school should be approached responsibly. This story is the answer to questions about attitudes toward school. I was 11 years old, I loved reading and literature lessons. Somehow they asked us to write an essay. The whole evening I tried, I was very interested, I clearly remember the feeling of the creative process. In the morning I flew to school to share my work. After reading, the teacher said that it is written off or written by someone adult. The children laughed after the teacher, I received "two". I remember it forever, and I closed up for a very long time. In the eighth grade the school was replaced, where I met quite other teachers who supported me and helped to believe in myself. Probably, none of them is dead, but I always think about these people with great gratitude and warmth! The question of the school should be approached very responsibly. Search for yourself, get acquainted with teachers, talk with the parents of children who are already studying, and keep your hand on the pulse all the time, because children do not always share what is happening in their lives. I'm for not looking for a school, but the personality of a teacher! Learning to swim in the oceanWhat is different about swimming in the pool from swimming in the ocean? It seems to be nothing for a floating baby, but no! I think that the child is frightened by the volume when there are no borders. It took a lot of effort to get Alice to start trusting me. Glasses and fish, which are very interesting to observe, also helped, surprisingly warm water, which is much more comfortable than in the outdoor pool.
Photo:@ simona280 Teaching Your Child to Play with Dignity It is important to learn a lot about a child's inner problems by watching or participating in play. Alice has strong leadership qualities. I see that it will be difficult for her to experience losses. The attitude to victories and failures in the future will determine the success and what conclusions a person will draw from this. The kid must be psychologically prepared for both victories and defeats. It seems to me that teaching a person to lose with dignity is a very important skill! In fact, the time to think appeared only now, but then ... Then I instinctively believed in my children for no reason. For all my youthful ambition and perfectionism, it's amazing that my sons turned into people who know how to take a punch! Children imitate our actions and reactions more than our words. Therefore, you need to start with yourself! You need to talk to a child in a human language My sons began to speak quite early, but Alice surpassed all expectations, maybe because a girl? It is almost impossible to predict in advance how your child's speech will develop. This process is very individual, like everything related to development. From 1 to 3 years old, active speech begins to develop. During this period, understanding what adults say is much more than the ability to pronounce ... From two months, Alice and I "gagged" in every way, and I am sure that this is a very important moment of unity when a child begins to speak the same language with an adult. To be honest, this is unforgettable for me. Then you need to constantly talk with the baby, even if relatives and friends are twisting at the temple. The child distinguishes intonations and very soon begins to understand the meaning. You need to speak slowly, clearly, so that the baby can see your articulation, so it is easier to understand. We often asked Alice to repeat the words, even if something inarticulate sounded in response, we always praised her. I have already mentioned more than once that I am categorically against such words: bo-bo, pee-pee, yum-yum, and so on. This slows down the development of speech, you need to speak with a person in a human language! Now Alice's stream of consciousness is ahead of speech capabilities, so we stop her and ask her to repeat it again more slowly, thus giving time to think about the phrase. I really love retelling. In my opinion, this develops the ability to speak. Recently, we have reached the stage - the clarification of the grammatical structure (stress, gender, endings, etc.). And here you should not be touched by the wrong cute words ... I think that the task of an adult is to correct mistakes in time and tactfully ... And I never cease to be amazed at what happens to a person just 2 years from birth! We also started talking in our sleep, and this is also progress!
Photo:@ simona280 Learn, feel free to broadcast your emotions I do not know who Alice will become, but my task is to teach her, feel free to broadcast her emotions. This is a very important skill that gets rid of many psychological and, as a result, physical illnesses. What is needed for this? Nothing special! Just stand by your side and show by your example that nothing is impossible and scary! It's always more interesting to take part on your own than to watch others do! Children under three years old should not be punished To keep a child happy, he needs to be brought up, and this is impossible without setting certain boundaries. “Good” and “bad” depend on our personal experience. The baby simply does not have this experience. Watch your children, and you will see: what is interesting is good for them! Putting your finger in the outlet, touching the iron, getting into a puddle, etc. What could be the reaction of an adult? My kids loved to paint on the wallpaper. We lived with my grandmother, and in my absence they were constantly punished for this. They did not offer an alternative, but simply scolded. The consequence of this punishment was a complete and irrevocable refusal to paint. What if one of them could become an artist? In families where they are often punished, anxious children can grow up, obeying force and unable to make decisions. Or children who subsequently do not hear anyone and do not obey the rules, this is how a child's protest is expressed! I am not a supporter of allowing everything, I suggest thinking what we can offer in return, how to distract the child without suppressing the individual. Of course, some behavior needs a clear and decisive prohibition (for example, aggression). It is very helpful to discuss actions from an early age. It is important for a child to understand why they are angry and why they are unhappy with them. My opinion is that it is not worth punishing at all up to 3 years, we must look for another way. In conclusion, I want to say: for myself, I found a way when a child feels that his parents are proud of him, this can become a much more motivating factor than all the punishments. Checked! Adults should not interfere in children's quarrels One day, Alice, dad and uncle and I went to the kids club. Parents watch, drink tea, and children play at this time. At two years old, the child is just beginning to learn to interact in a group, and this difficult path does not do without conflicts. Alice was playing, at this time an older girl came up and tried to take away the toy. It didn't work out, and then, naturally, the girl hit Alice. There was a heart-rending roar ... The children have a normal, healthy, primitive communal manner of communication. The one who is stronger wins. The youngest child is still a passive participant in the quarrel, and the older one provokes it. This process should not be interfered with, this is how the “I” is formed. In an amicable way, adults should observe, but not interfere (within reasonable limits). By the way, after talking with her mother, the girl apologized to Alice.
A photo: @ simona280To successfully accustom to the pot, the child must be ready. Of course, the topic is not the most aesthetic, but there are many questions, so I will tell you what I know. I was young, but very responsibly preparing for the appearance of children. I read, went to all sorts of courses, talked with interesting and authoritative parents with many children. "Plant" began directly in the hospital, after each feeding held above the basin. Very soon it began to seem that it was already working out, but in fact, I was just instinctively catching the process! Having gained experience, I can say that any fanaticism disables the ability to soberly assess the situation! In order to successfully accustom to the pot, the child must be ready. How to understand this? The baby can stay dry for more than two hours, emptying occurs at about the same time, wakes up dry after a day's sleep. All this suggests that the nervous system is already ready to control the process, that is, the child can tolerate. Alice, we bought the most common pot, in my opinion, this should not be a toy. To accustom best in the warm season. We just stopped wearing diapers during the day. You can also put water in a rubber toy and hold it over the pot, show what the teddy does. Every time when Alisa did it, we praised her, but if she happened to pass, they did not scold him for sure! By the way, the fear of the pot often develops in those children who are screaming because of unsuccessful attempts. And also include your instinct, and you will feel when it's time to plant, even if the baby has played and does not ask. If the child does not succeed, do not give up and lose your patience. All children are very individual and develop in their rhythm. It is worthwhile to nurture accuracy, showing a personal example. Up to six years, children equally absorb good and bad. When my sons were small, they, like most children, did not like to clean toys and clean things up. I methodically and systematically forced them to do it. We cleaned and hung out together, I often had nerves, it was easier to do myself. After putting the children to bed, I began to scold myself, that I gave up again, that I did not have the patience, and the next day everything was repeated again. Many years passed when I came to visit my sons, I can not hold back the widest smile! This order does not even have me! Adults are an example, and what children see is recorded on the subcortex ... The child does not have a congenital inaccuracy gene. Conclusion do it yourself and do not despair. Maybe you will be happy in 30 years!
