Mum of the famous rapper Timati is now at leastfamous than her son. Some time ago, Simon Yunusova started blogging in her Instagram on the topic of raising children. The famous grandmother of Alisa Timurovna tells both about her own experience and about the various techniques she uses in her granddaughter's education. Subscribers are simply delighted with the advice of a woman who brought up Timati himself and now brings up his daughter. Alisa loves watching almost all the country. In her two and a half years the girl is very developed: she knows how to swim, knows the letters, figures, geometric figures, the names of fruits, vegetables and much more. The Woman's Day edition has gathered for you the best recommendations for raising children from Simona, so that your baby grows the same smart and active, like Timati's daughter.
A photo: @ simona280The child does not need to be accustomed to expensive and beautiful life It is very important to explain to the child that much depends on his efforts. It is not necessary to identify the well-being of parents with their own. It is necessary to accustom to the fact that life is different and you have to be ready for this. We need to cultivate a respectful attitude to people, regardless of their financial situation. Children copy us, so any actions and words should be carefully thought out, which we, such and they. It is necessary to explain that hard work is worth every success, and most importantly, in my opinion, to teach a person not to suffer from the fact that the neighbor has something that you do not. The main task of an adult is to instill in the child the habit of living in harmony with oneself and be able to enjoy everything that surrounds him. In other words, to teach to be happy, and to teach to a beautiful life, in my opinion, it is not worth it, to good and without training get used very quickly. Develop children in children. Children need to be taught what is useful in everyday life, then there will not be many problems in the adult life ... Now I have a girl, and therefore a lot of thinking about this topic. I do not want to write banalities about the fact that a girl should be a neat and good housewife, that's so clear ... But how to make it so that routine work is fun? An example from life: in my childhood, rubbed floors to make them shine. The case is terribly boring and boring, but my dad suggested doing this to music, and the work turned into an exciting activity! Helping to cook dinner at a time when everyone is chasing along the street is also not the sweetest, but when I was shown how the dough was "breathing" in my hands (for those who do not know when the yeast dough starts to mix, it bubbles and it seems that in the hands of a living organism) - this is a fabulous feeling! By the way, since then, I love cooking ... Now I can say with certainty that in children it is necessary to develop a creative beginning, and then any work becomes interesting and not a burden.
A photo: @ simona280Enjoy the choice and opinion of your childMy dad was a musician, a real communist and an incorrigible romantic who sincerely believed in the idea and that every person with his good deeds can change the world ... He was an atheist, as it should be for people who chose to believe in themselves an ideal society ... My mother was a restorer. Master Grabar is still in the territory of the temple in Kadashi. Mum survived the 38th year, the arrest, the shooting of her father, rehabilitation and much more ... She was a believing person and, to put it mildly, did not very much share the romantic aspirations of her husband, but the main thing in our family was respect for the opinion of both. None of my parents ever allowed himself sarcasm about the ideals of another! Perhaps that's why they managed to live in love such a long life together ... I really want my grandmother's little granddaughter to know the history of her country. I want to have time to tell Alisa about our family, so that she herself has built cause-effect relations, that is, she has just learned to think, and that people who respect her choice meet on her way. Do not light children have light children? I have not met! There is a different temperament on which the child's behavior depends. Temperament can not be brought up, much less changed. I've never met people with only one type of traits. Most often we see mixed variants, but we can always notice a dominating predominance. I would treat the introverted children with great attention, since the external complacency and tranquility have nothing to do with their inner world. Both silent people and chatterers personally cause me the same alarm, since these are two sides of the same coin. I now rely on personal experience. I spent my children's children sitting on the edge of a constantly erupting volcano! It was very hard emotionally, nevertheless close and understandable. Temperament, like the color of the hair, the eye, is given to us from birth, we simply inherit its traits from the parents. Comfortable child Alice will not be exactly! Well, baby, welcome to our cholera-sanguine family with elements of melancholy! From the "princesses" grow up not adapted to life ladies. For all time there were canons of beauty, to which women aspired. I'm definitely not talking about this! For me, it's always much more attractive than the standard - charisma and style! Alice is dressed in the way that all members of our family like without exception! The same applies to haircuts. And finally, I do not like when girls are told that they are princesses. In my opinion, from the "princesses" grow up not adapted to life, exalted young ladies, for whom a broken nail or jumped pimple is an excuse for hysteria. Better be a sorceress who will make other people happy with her abilities.
A photo: @ simona280The question of the school should be approached responsibly. This story is the answer to questions about attitudes toward school. I was 11 years old, I loved reading and literature lessons. Somehow they asked us to write an essay. The whole evening I tried, I was very interested, I clearly remember the feeling of the creative process. In the morning I flew to school to share my work. After reading, the teacher said that it is written off or written by someone adult. The children laughed after the teacher, I received "two". I remember it forever, and I closed up for a very long time. In the eighth grade the school was replaced, where I met quite other teachers who supported me and helped to believe in myself. Probably, none of them is dead, but I always think about these people with great gratitude and warmth! The question of the school should be approached very responsibly. Search for yourself, get acquainted with teachers, talk with the parents of children who are already studying, and keep your hand on the pulse all the time, because children do not always share what is happening in their lives. I'm for not looking for a school, but the personality of a teacher! Learning to swim in the oceanWhat is different about swimming in the pool from swimming in the ocean? It seems to be nothing for a floating baby, but no! I think that the child is frightened by the volume when there are no borders. It took a lot of effort to get Alice to start trusting me. Glasses and fish, which are very interesting to observe, also helped, surprisingly warm water, which is much more comfortable than in the outdoor pool.
A photo: @ simona280 It is important to teach a child to adequately lose Watching the game or participating in it, you can learn a lot about the internal problems of the child. Alisa has strong leadership qualities. I see that it will be hard to experience losses. The relationship to victories and failures in the future will determine success and what conclusions the person will make from it. The kid must be prepared psychologically both for victories and for defeats. It seems to me, to teach a person worthy of losing - this is a very important skill! In fact, time to think appeared only now, but then ... Then I instinctively believed in my children for no reason. With all my youthful ambition and perfectionism, it's amazing that my sons turned into people who know how to hold a blow! Children imitate our actions and reactions more than words. Therefore, we must start with ourselves! With the child need to talk in the human language My sons began to talk quite early, but Alice exceeded all expectations, maybe because the girl? In advance, it is almost impossible to predict how your child's speech will develop. This process is very individual, like everything related to development. From 1 to 3 years, the formation of active speech is taking place. During this period, the understanding of what the adults say is much more than the ability to pronounce ... Since two months Alisa and I have "agukali" in every way, and I'm sure this is a very important moment of unity , when the child begins to speak with an adult in one language. To be honest, for me it's unforgettable. Further with the kid it is necessary constantly to talk, even if relatives and friends twist at a temple. The child distinguishes between intonations and very soon begins to understand the meaning. It is necessary to speak slowly, clearly, so that the baby sees your articulation, so it is easier to understand. We often asked Alice to repeat the words, even if there was something inarticulate in response, always praised. I have already mentioned more than once that categorically against such words: bo-bo, pi-pi, yum-yum and so on. This inhibits the development of speech, it is necessary to speak with a human being in human language! Alisa now has a stream of consciousness ahead of speech possibilities, so we stop her and ask her to repeat again more slowly, thus giving time to think over the phrase. I really like retelling. In my opinion, it develops the ability to speak. Recently we have reached the stage - the refinement of the grammatical structure (stresses, gender, endings, etc.). And then you should not be touched by the wrong nice little words ... I think that the task of an adult is to correct mistakes on time and tactfully ... And I do not cease to be amazed at what happens to a person in just 2 years from birth! And we started talking in a dream, and this is also progress!
A photo: @ simona280Each, do not hesitate to broadcast your emotionsI do not know who Alice will become, but my task is to teach her, without embarrassment, to broadcast her emotions. This is a very important skill that relieves many psychological and, as a consequence, physical diseases. What is needed for this? Nothing special! Just stand by your side and with your own example show that nothing is impossible and terrible! It's always more interesting to take part yourself than to look like others do! Up to three years of age, children are not to be punished. To be happy, the child needs to be educated, and this is impossible without the establishment of certain boundaries. "Good" and "bad" depend on our personal experience. The kid does not have this experience. Follow your children and you will see: for them it's good that is interesting! Put your finger in the socket, touch the iron, climb into a puddle, etc. What kind of reaction can an adult have? My children loved to draw on wallpaper. We lived with my grandmother, and in my absence they were constantly punished for it. They did not offer an alternative, but simply scolded. The consequence of this punishment was a complete and irrevocable refusal to paint. And suddenly, one of them could become an artist? In families, where often punished, can grow up anxious children who are subordinate to power and are not able to make decisions. Or children who subsequently do not hear anybody and do not obey the rules, so the child's protest is expressed! I'm not a supporter of everything, I suggest that we can offer in return how to distract a child without suppressing individuality. Of course, some behavior needs a clear and decisive ban (for example, aggression). It is very useful to discuss actions from an early age. It is important for the child to understand why they are angry and why they are unhappy. My opinion is that it is not worthwhile to punish up to 3 years, it is necessary to look for another way. In conclusion, I want to say: for myself, I found this way, when a child feels that his parents are proud of him, this can become a much more motivating factor than all punishments. Adults should not interfere with children's quarrels. Once, Alice and I, our father and uncle, went to a children's club. Parents watch, drink tea, and children at this time play. In two years the child is just beginning to learn how to interact in a group, and this conflict can not be avoided without conflicts. Alisa played, at that time the older girl approached and tried to take away the toy. Snatch did not work, and then, of course, the girl Alice hit. There was a roaring roar ... Children have a normal, healthy, primitive communal manner. The winner is the one who is stronger. The youngest child is still a passive participant in the quarrel, and the elder provokes it. This process can not be interfered with, so the "I" is formed. In a good way, adults should observe, but do not interfere (within reasonable limits). By the way, after talking with her mother, the girl apologized to Alice.
Photo:@simona280To successfully potty train, the child must be readyOf course, the topic is not the most aesthetic, but there are many questions, so I will tell you what I know. I was young, but I was very responsibly preparing for the arrival of children. I read, went to all sorts of courses, talked to interesting and authoritative for me parents of many children. I began to "potty train" right in the maternity hospital, holding him over a basin after each feeding. Very soon it began to seem that I was already getting it, but in fact, I was just instinctively catching the process! Having gained experience, I can say that any fanaticism turns off the ability to soberly assess the situation! To successfully potty train, the child must be ready. How do you know this? The baby can remain dry for more than two hours, bowel movements occur at about the same time, wake up dry after a nap. All this suggests that the nervous system is ready to control the process, that is, the child can endure. We bought Alisa the most ordinary potty, in my opinion, it should not be a toy. It is best to train in the warm season. We simply stopped putting on a diaper during the day. You can also fill a rubber toy with water and hold it over the potty to show what the bear does. Every time Alice succeeded, we praised her, but if she missed, we definitely did not scold her! By the way, fear of the potty often develops in those children who are yelled at because of unsuccessful attempts. And also turn on your instinct, and you will feel when it is time to sit down, even if the baby is playing too much and does not ask. If the child does not succeed, do not give up and do not lose patience. All children are very individual and develop at their own pace. It is worth cultivating neatness by setting a personal example. Up to six years old, children absorb both good and bad equally. When my sons were little, they, like most children, did not like to put away toys and tidy up. I methodically and systematically made them do it. We cleaned and hung up together, often my nerves gave out, it was easier to do it myself. After putting the children to bed, I began to scold myself for giving in again, for not having enough patience, and the next day everything repeated itself. Many years have passed, when I come to visit my sons, I cannot hold back the widest smile! Even I do not have such order! Adults are an example, and what children see is recorded in the subcortex ... A child does not have an innate gene for sloppiness. Draw your own conclusions and do not despair. Maybe happiness will come to you in 30 years!
