When a guy is a womanizer who changes hisgirlfriends, like gloves - this is truly a punishment for the female sex. How many tears have been shed because of such womanizers, how many nerves have been frayed and hearts broken! You can't count... Womanizers simply cannot maintain a relationship with one representative of the fair half of humanity for long. Give them others, and as many as possible. Well, what should we do if the one we so rashly fell head over heels in love with turned out to be a big fan of skirts? And he runs after each of them headlong, gets acquainted, dates, dumps them, gets acquainted again. Can he be stopped, and if so, what is needed for this? Before looking for an answer to this question, let's talk about who these womanizers really are and why guys become womanizers.
The reasons why men become ladies' men
Why does a man become a womanizer? There are many reasons for this. He can change women because:
Fear of close emotional relations and change of partners
According to experts in human souls,Most womanizers rush from woman to woman because they are afraid of attachment to them. Psychologists call this condition of a person intimophobia. How do intimophobes differ from other lovers of the female sex? In that an ordinary womanizer, in principle, is capable of falling in love and creating a quite decent family. In addition, you can confess your love to an ordinary womanizer and at the same time maintain a relationship with them for some time (and even quite a long time). Intimophobes try with all their might to avoid such situations. It must be said that the fear of close spiritual relationships is mostly found in very strong men. The reasons for its occurrence are different. Someone experienced betrayal of a beloved woman, someone lost her forever due to some circumstances, someone believes that strong feelings are a sign of weakness, someone strives not to get attached to any of the girls, having seen how his acquaintances and friends suffer from this. But most often, childhood experiences become the motive for the emergence of such behavior. In life, intimophobes are often successful and can achieve a lot. But they do not know how to love and almost never experience anything stronger than a short-term infatuation. Sometimes such inner emptiness contributes to the development of sexual aversion to the woman with whom there was intimacy. A man who does not accept love reflexively closes himself off from it, not allowing even the slightest appearance of any emotions in himself. If they do show through, he immediately, without much regret, dumps his partner and then forgets about her forever. In general, most intimacy-phobes are well aware of their own condition and do not hide it when meeting the opposite sex. But we do not want to take this seriously! So what if my man is a womanizer! Previously, he did not get attached to anyone because he simply did not meet a real woman. We will melt the ice of his soul ... If a womanizer guy is an intimacy-phobe, then this is almost impossible. And the result of such self-confidence is a break in relations and our own suffering soul. An intimophobe is a banal Casanova, who has many sexual conquests to his credit. He runs away from his passion headlong, as soon as she even hints at living together. However, sometimes it is possible to make him become a husband. However, family life with such a person promises to be not very sweet. You will not wait for him to show concern and tender feelings, care and strong affection. Such a husband will live on his own in a personal world, closed off from everyone. It is extremely difficult to re-educate him. What should we do if life brings us together with a man of this type?
How to be with a man, if he does not know how to love
Intimophobes are usually charming, intelligent anddamn attractive. That's why it's very easy to fall in love with them. And we willingly fall in love, hoping that one day this man, if he is convinced of the sincerity and reliability of a woman's feelings and her exclusivity, will change. In vain. Because such men are repelled by the display of emotions. And whether the lady is exceptional or the same as everyone else, they are simply not interested. The best way out of the situation in this case is to pull yourself together and break up with a robot analogue incapable of love. But this is not always possible! Then you need to be prepared for the fact that we will never hear the cherished confession from him. The main thing in this kind of relationship is not to encroach on the freedom of the chosen one. And do not talk to him about love at all, otherwise there is a high chance that he will run away. In principle, a relationship with an intimacy phobe is not so joyless. If you do not take into account his insensitivity. Men with such a state of mind are capable of friendship. They will not refuse support and will not stand aside when problems arise. In addition, if a person realizes that he is not able to respond to a woman's love with love, he will feel gratitude to his other half for understanding this. So there is a chance to create a good family with an intimacy phobe. At the same time, you must always remember - it is extremely difficult to change him. Well, this person does not have a mechanism of love! It was either not provided by the designer, or was once broken beyond hope of restoration. If a man feels discomfort from this, something can still be changed. But this happens very rarely! Usually intimacy phobes are not very depressed by their own state. It is quite acceptable, since it excludes mental anguish and suffering. Why change anything? Therefore, before making plans for the future, meeting with such a person, you must try to look at the situation soberly. And understand whether we are ready to devote years of our lives to someone who does not know how to love at all. We advise you to read:
