Inferiority complex in men: we learn the psychology of the stronger sex

Many of the actions of men are often for womenremain unexplained. In fact, they are all caused by the peculiarities of male psychology. Most of our female readers probably imagine a man as someone very strong, with unlimited possibilities and no weaknesses. But this is not so! An inferiority complex can be found in any person, even in the most wonderful man. Therefore, knowing in advance the main syndromes that can overtake your chosen one at any moment, you will not remain defenseless against his "oddities".

Inferiority complex and its types

What is an inferiority complex?According to psychologists, this is a psychological feeling that is expressed in irrational thoughts about the superiority of people around you and a sense of your own worthlessness. There is always an idea on a subconscious level: “I am worse than others. I am not worthy of anything. I am a loser.” An inferiority complex can be formed due to a number of reasons. Most often, this is due to the characteristics of the parental family. Just imagine: a small person is growing up, and his mom and dad are constantly pointing out his mistakes and inability to do something perfectly. Gradually, he develops a deep belief in his own inferiority. Various psychological traumas received at school have exactly the same effect, for example, when classmates tease a child intensely. If such a person makes mistakes in the future (and this is inevitable), this will only strengthen the inferiority complex. In general, any attempts to suppress individuality end very, very badly for their object. An inferiority complex is manifested in the fact that a person is not just unsure of himself - he constantly seeks approval from others, trying to compensate for the low marks of adults he received earlier. At the same time, he tries to draw attention to his suffering, putting it on display and playing the role of a victim. Such people, as a rule, are afraid of contacts with others - their social circle is extremely narrow, they have few friends and acquaintances. They feel constant tension and cannot get rid of it. A person in whose mind an inferiority complex lives does everything to avoid the slightest mistakes in his life, because each of them testifies to his inferiority. Men are most often characterized by excessive arrogance (remember Napoleon?), increased aggressiveness, the desire to prove their masculinity, a craving for status things. At the same time, an inferiority complex can have completely different “faces”. Since the reasons for its occurrence and manifestations can be radically different from each other, psychologists have accumulated a lot of descriptions of various syndromes, at the center of which is deep self-doubt:

Syndrome of King David. This biblical character, to warm his aging body, lured the young beauties into bed. Many modern men also hope to look younger with the help of a young partner. Perhaps, some of them manage to start a new life with a young woman. But choosing a partner in a very young girl, a man needs to be ready for any troubles. Very often, others take such a couple for their father and daughter, overshadowing their lives with various questions.
The "boss" syndrome. As a rule, this inferiority complex is laid in the character of the future man almost from birth. Parents of children, neglecting the "female" features, thereby stimulating the development of "male" features. Get rid of the syndrome of "boss" is almost impossible, so a man all his life has to defend his superiority. For example, 70% of men suffer very much, falling under the beginning of a woman. 64% of the representatives of the stronger sex complex, if the chosen one earns more. 58% of men's lives overshadow the feeling of envy for the professional success of his girlfriend's life.
Napoleon's syndrome. For most men, small growth is a real tragedy. However, this defect in most cases is more than offset by crazy ambitions and vanity. And such people are almost always accompanied by success, because the desire, with which they reach it, is very great.
Syndrome of lost time. There's nothing you can do about it, that's how a person works: he wants everything and as soon as possible. Therefore, often the need to reduce the load and "reduce turnover" after fifty years in 80% of men turns into a bitter disappointment. In such cases, the majority of the stronger sex becomes even more vulnerable.
Infertility syndrome. The statement that a man at any age is "always ready" for sexual feats is nothing more than a beautiful myth that is responsible for the occurrence of more than a dozen male neuroses. Every man, the older he becomes, more and more afraid of "not being on top". Therefore, any social failure does not go to any comparison with the disappointment in their own men's power.
Lot's syndrome.After the destruction of the cities of Gomorrah and Sodom, this biblical character, escaping with his daughters in caves, continued the human race there. Many fathers with adult daughters have something like this - an unconscious dream. However, it is quite easy to cope with such a syndrome, especially since it manifests itself extremely rarely. And the matter here is purely in the instinctive desire of the father to consider his daughter's chosen one as a rival, and not at all in sexual perversions.
Syndrome of Hercules. This syndrome occurs in men who are completely dependent on women, forcing them to perform unusual for him. By the way, in most modern families this is the main reason for conflict.
Kotovsky syndrome.Why do you think men shave their heads? Because baldness is like a catastrophe for them. By hiding their emerging baldness, they try to escape shame, closely associating it with the loss of male power. However, in reality - from any point of view - this is absurd. A shaved head symbolizes masculinity, although it is a reliable disguise for the loss of hair on the head.
The syndrome of Don Juan. Perhaps, this syndrome is the most common. After all, throwing women is a "purely masculine affair." Therefore, no man thinks that the break of love relationships is the privilege of women. How can you calm down an easily traumatized male soul? Today, everything can be attributed to the rapid development of emancipation.
Alexander's syndrome. This exotic syndrome men are ashamed most of all. Few people know that most of all a man is afraid that he will be considered not courageous, or rather homosexual. At half of men even suspicion of associates in their non-standard orientation can cause strong stress.

How to deal with this?

If you have found at least one thing in your chosen oneone such complex, then do not rush to sound the alarm. Psychologists believe that it is not always necessary to interfere in someone else's life - a person must want it himself, otherwise there will be no sense. It is possible that with the help of such a syndrome a man compensates for some of his other shortcomings, and at the moment the mental system is in a fragile balance. It is unknown what else will “crawl out” from the hidden corners of the soul if you now begin to actively “shake up” the existing complexes. However, if it is obvious that in this way a man is ruining his life very much, then something needs to be done about it. Firstly, praise and support your man more often. This is a woman's function, and it is especially needed by our insecure chosen ones. Emphasize what your partner is good at, and what is just wonderful. Shortcomings should be communicated carefully and correctly, preferably in the form of “I-statements”: “I feel sad when you…”. Most men believe that they need to be some kind of supermen, afraid of nothing and no one. But this is impossible! Explain to your partner that it is normal when he worries about something or is afraid of something. Fear performs a defensive function and helps a person go in the right direction. And those men who do not show it, simply hide it deep inside themselves. Usually the situation is complicated by the fact that a person begins to be afraid of his own fear, because it seems to him a manifestation of weakness. You can even play a humorous game called “Defeat your complex”. When you find out what prevents your partner from living happily ever after, make it your enemy. Every time the complex manifests itself, the man should not follow its lead. On the contrary, you will need to do something that will help him “slap” the complex on the nose. Do you think it is easy to live in this world with such "purely male" problems? We think not so much. Men are our support and strength, which also has its weaknesses. So let's not darken their already difficult life once again!