It is generally accepted that men are stronghalf of humanity. However, in relationships with women, this strong half very often behaves like a cowardly hare. May men forgive us for this comparison, but it is true! One of the bright moments of such behavior is a significant life step for a man - entering into a legal marriage. After all, it is no secret that sometimes a representative of the weaker half of humanity has to, showing courage and strength, almost with a lasso drag her betrothed to the altar. And he resists with all his might and every now and then tries to get away somewhere. Or he hides in a corner and trembles with fear, as if before him is not the prospect of tying his fate with a beautiful lady and getting the status of a married man, but the threat of being eaten by a lion. Why are men afraid of marriage? What causes such behavior: an unwillingness to lose their freedom or a fear of change and family life? And how not to traumatize the tender male psyche by offering your beloved a walk to the registry office? A woman who dreams of getting married should know how to marry a bachelor or divorced man and use this knowledge to her advantage. First, let's try to figure out why this or that man remains a bachelor and consider the categories of men.
A cherished dream
He is definitely tall, charming andwealthy. Knows, as he himself says, a thing or two about life. He is a great connoisseur and lover of women. (At the same time, his love for women is so strong that he is unable to choose just one of them). Habitats of this category of men: mainly, in women's minds and comedy melodramas. At the end of the week, fashionable night clubs are filled with regulars who at first glance seem to be exactly such darlings of life. They do not spare money and cast a promising, burning glance at every beauty. Most often, these are middle-aged men, free, liberated behavior. Some of them are already married (although they do not flaunt, but rather hide their married status), and flirting with unmarried women is simply one of their favorite pastimes. But, even if you are suddenly lucky and your "cherished dream" turns out to be a bachelor, you should not rejoice prematurely. He is in no hurry to put on a wedding ring. And he is in no hurry because the “dream” is very happy with the status of a single man. How could it be otherwise? After all, this super prince is constantly surrounded by female attention! And, therefore, he feels like a valuable prize, which, of course, not every woman is worthy of. So our dream goes through women, and immediately runs away from the one who dares to hint at the seriousness of the relationship ... However, it also happens that he is the first to leave women, because, suspecting that they are hunting mainly for his money, he is afraid of deception. And he continues to catch prey on his hook, on which his precious freedom is used as bait. According to psychologists, men of this type have a rather domineering mother, and no woman can compete with her. How to marry a bachelor of this type? First of all, you need to behave with him as in a mirror, reflecting his attitude to life. Such behavior is very appealing to the "cherished dream" and can attract it stronger than any magnet. An example from life: a wealthy thirty-four-year-old bachelor, a favorite of the female sex, did not even think about marriage. He declared to everyone that he would have fun in elite clubs until old age, changing beauties like gloves. But one day our playboy met a young lady who also did not want to get married and dreamed of storming the dance floors until she was eighty, dressed in a miniskirt. And he lost his head. All the beauties around immediately faded in his eyes. And in his hitherto wild head there settled one single dream - to drag our dashing lady to the registry office. However, she, such and such, goes to bed, and then - no way. Give her freedom, you see! The stormy romance ended happily - the adventurous couple still got to the registry office. And, oddly enough, she created a very strong family. Conclusion: with a reasonable approach to men of this category, it is not so difficult to marry them. And the older they are, the better: a playboy who has had his fill of partying makes a very good husband. He takes a long time to choose, and remains true to his choice.
Rare, But very smart bird
This category of men has their own time for personal life.simply does not spend. They are always busy solving global problems. The aphorism "I think, therefore I am" is about them. For a "smart bird" to think means to live. An example of such a thinker is the famous mathematician Rene Descartes, who did not notice anything except his formulas. And nevertheless, even this dry person had an affair. One cheerful lady from the lower classes managed to live with him for about eight years. Maybe it was because she cooked well... In a word, a bachelor of this type is a brain person. Looking at such a "very smart and educated" man, women, as a rule, for some reason do not even think about marrying him. Because they make it clear with their whole appearance that they are not able to combine outstanding social achievements and family life. Psychologists say that the way these men assert themselves is by promoting progress. A typical representative of the "rare but very smart bird" is Sigmund Freud. The dream of this connoisseur of human souls to make all of humanity happy was so strong that there was simply no room left in his genius brain for thoughts of marriage. They say that at the end of his life, the world-famous scientist was terribly lonely. Once, being in a sad mood, he shared his experiences with his aunt. To which she, sighing, replied: "Yes, Zigi, you still haven't learned to understand people!" How can you lead a man to marriage if his head is full of science, and his interest in women is similar to his interest in guinea pigs? Firstly, no matter how much we want to chatter about all sorts of nonsense in his presence, we need to pull ourselves together. If we open our mouths, it is only to, for example, say some quote from Nietzsche. And if we have no idea about Nietzsche, then it is better to pretend to be profoundly silent. Secondly, it is better to keep your emotions and feelings to yourself – “smart birds” are very afraid of their violent manifestation. At the same time, in their souls they are very vulnerable and tender, so these geniuses should be looked at with affection and understanding. And then we have a “rare bird” – a bachelor in our pocket.
Shaky treasure
This category of man is a real treasure forfamily life. They always make real, reliable and faithful husbands. Being bachelors, they already behave like exemplary spouses - they do not lead a dissolute lifestyle, but work hard, not wasting their savings in vain. The reason for the usually short-lived freedom of such a man is that he is simply embarrassed to meet people, does not know how to look after and show his love. It is also quite possible that he had an unsuccessful experience in the past (for example, he had an unsuccessful marriage and he is divorced, or he has already tried to meet people, but he was abruptly "broken"), after which he expects that everything will somehow work out by itself. However, among such treasures there are also those who are simply lazy in relation to the arrangement of their personal life. Such a marriage treasure lies and lies on the couch, like Ilya Muromets on the stove until he is thirty-three years old. Then he begins to get up from his stove and gradually try his heroic strength. This is where the moment comes when the "shy treasure" itself goes into the hands of a tirelessly vigilant unmarried woman. How to push a man to marriage if he is made for it, but is indecisive? Very simple. You just need to come to him and silently do the housework. The "treasure" will be unspeakably happy and will rush off to buy wedding rings with great pleasure.
Attention: Dangerous Beast
"Dangerous Beast" is a category of men thatcan be called married bachelors. They are usually legally married, but nevertheless consider themselves absolutely free. Such types of men often marry out of boredom or because (in their words) “it had to be that way.” And then they begin to persistently search for “their true love.” As a result, love is found, creating the notorious love triangle, in which all parties suffer: the legal wife, the love they have found, and he himself. In reality, many of them are not looking for love at all, but for entertainment on the side – that is what makes them dangerous. These single married men simply indulge their male ego and can give promises and hope to the same woman-lover for several years. At the same time, they remain good and gentle husbands, diligently fulfilling their marital duties. Often they manage to help both the wife and the mistress with household chores, confident that sooner or later this subject will firmly settle in her house. Don't believe it, my dear women! According to psychologists, it is impossible to incite such a miracle to divorce - he is doing well as is. Divorce, remarry - why such complications? Therefore, you should not think about how to marry a man of this kind. And you can continue a relationship with him only when you really want suffering or thrills. And if parting is completely unbearable, you should humbly accept the rather unenviable role of a second wife. And never stutter about marriage, because after that the "dangerous beast" will most likely run away. And the chances of making him your husband will begin to rapidly fall, eventually dropping to zero. We advise you to read:
