Imagine paradise suddenly coming to youour sinful planet. What is the first thing that catches your eye? Surely the changed relationships between people: everyone is open, sincere and, at the same time, careful about the boundaries and feelings of the other. How wonderful it looks! Unfortunately, reality is far from ideal. In life, we often encounter the use of “forbidden techniques” in relation to our personality. They do not allow us to soberly assess the situation and confuse us. As a result of their action, we allow other people to sit on our necks, conclude unfavorable contracts and give inadequate promises. All this is a consequence of the psychological pressure exerted on us. Paradoxically, often none of the participants in the communication process realizes what is happening. People who use “forbidden techniques” do it unconsciously, and even more so, the “victim” does not monitor it. If this situation is painfully familiar to you, then you are probably already tired of it. Accordingly, you will be interested to know how to learn to resist psychological pressure. Read our article and take note.

Guilt

How manipulators love to use it!A person's sense of guilt is a great excuse to get what you need from them. We feel guilty for many things: our manner of communication, lack of attention to other people, our lifestyle, our desires and needs, etc. Usually, if you often experience this state, it may indicate a special personality structure that provokes such experiences. No, of course, you can try to become ideal for everyone, but this will take a lot of time and effort, and the result will be very questionable. It is best to remember that absolute truth does not exist. That is, you are as right in your behavior as your interlocutor is in his demands towards you. The same event can be perceived by partners in completely different ways. Manipulators often take advantage of this. In order to resist psychological pressure using guilt, you should understand one thing: you have the right to be yourself and have your own desires and boundaries. That is, you practically do not owe anything to anyone. Separate the wheat from the chaff: outline for yourself the range of those obligations that you voluntarily take on (caring for a child or parents, time spent with friends, a little help to colleagues), as well as their limits. Then it will be easier for you to focus on them when someone else tries to get the behavior they need from you. Of course, you can play along with the manipulator a little, but only so that he calms down and does not increase the pressure. Then simply tell the interlocutor “no”. This is the most effective and efficient way to disown what is being imposed on you. Avoid any explanations at all - they give the manipulator a hook to latch on to and start spinning you. And don't forget to track when your feelings of guilt kick in - most likely, they will be associated with your own personal weaknesses.

Moral humiliation

A method often used by aggressive peopleand people with inferior personalities. They cannot solve their problems in an adult manner and begin to actively humiliate those with whom they communicate. This manifests itself in belittling social status, blows to pride, switching attention from important details to subjective ones, and using rhetorical questions. In practice, such a strategy can look different. For example, a mother yelling at her child: “Do you even realize what you are doing! How can you be such an idiot!” Or important negotiations during which the opponent makes a remark about a stain on your clothes. A man who makes fun of his partner’s plumpness. The mechanism of operation is quite simple: our attention is focused on our own inferiority, we stop adequately monitoring the situation and feel the desire to somehow “butter up” the interlocutor. The first thing you should do is think about why the person is telling you such things. You can ask him directly: “For what purpose did you voice this?” It is likely that he will not know what to answer you, or will start saying all sorts of nonsense. When it becomes obvious to you that this is one of the types of psychological pressure, pull yourself together and say: “He is doing this specifically in order to get something from me. Therefore, it is not about my inferiority, but about the partner’s inability to discuss his needs honestly and in an adult manner. I will not be upset by his words and will focus my attention on what is really important to me at this moment.”

Psychological pressure

As a rule, we rarely encounter thismethod in everyday life. Collection agencies, some unscrupulous lawyers and, of course, bandits resort to it. Mass psychological pressure is carried out when they begin to influence you using all sorts of “strings”: they call your friends, relatives and acquaintances, find out what you do, disrupt negotiations and some other important events in your life. Naturally, the people around you are worried and constantly tell you about these threats. It is worth calming them down by explaining the situation. And, of course, you need to try to do everything in your power to stop these actions: contact creditors or make a fateful decision for someone. In any case, it is worth conveying to bad people the fact that their actions only make you angry and provoke you to actions opposite to what you want. Reducing the distance can also be an element of psychological pressure. Each of us has our own personal space, which we try to protect from strangers. If a person’s goal is confuse and make you think chaotically, then you can’t think of a better way. The solution is very simple - mark your boundaries and move away from the person to a safe distance, letting him know that reducing the distance is fraught with the end of the dialogue.

Distorted information

Agree, it is much easier to make the right decisiondecision, having all the possible information. And if someone is much more interested in one outcome than in another, what will they do? That's right, distort the information. First of all, this can be expressed in concealing some facts and focusing your attention on others. Focusing on private details, rather than on the general main problem, works in the same way. In this case, it is very likely that such a reorientation will lead you to a strictly defined decision, which is what the interlocutor intended. Some people tend to use all sorts of rumors, gossip and speculation as decisive arguments. For example, your friend tells you: “Why should you breastfeed your child after six months? There is nothing useful left in the milk anyway!” And she herself immediately transferred the child to artificial feeding after birth, and if you do the same, she will not feel guilty. In an attempt to put pressure on you, she uses a well-known myth about breastfeeding, which can really influence your decision. But there are situations in which there are no clear and obvious boundaries. Most often, this concerns relationships between people. Human behavior is determined by many reasons, and in an attempt to understand them, we often turn to the advice of friends. For example, you had a fight with your boyfriend, and he does not pick up the phone. These actions can be interpreted in different ways, but your friend says: “What are you talking about! He does not love you - leave him!” Agree, it is quite easy to succumb to this? The way out of this situation is simple, but labor-intensive - be attentive and critical of the information provided to you. Do not hesitate to double-check the facts that people around you present to you under the guise of common truths - among them are full of myths and misconceptions. In difficult situations, try to listen to the opinions of experts: doctors, lawyers, psychologists, etc. ... And most importantly - try to rely on yourself and your opinion, because this is the only way to live yourself, and not on someone else's orders.

Influence on thinking, perception and memory

The psyche and its basis - the nervous system— ladies are very capricious. Their functioning is influenced by a lot of things, from the parameters of the external environment to your mood, which sometimes unscrupulous manipulators try to take advantage of. For example, gypsies. They overload all channels of perception with various signals - they make noise, shake their colorful skirts, touch - and you fall into a trance. As a result, there is a risk of being left without money, gold jewelry and other valuables - it's good if you don't let them into the apartment! It is not easy to resist this, but there is a way out: run as fast as you can if you feel this method being applied to you. The moment when you are in a hurry or feel tired is by no means ideal for making important decisions. If at this time someone tries to slip you important papers to sign or demands some promises from you, boldly ask for a delay and explain that you will consider this issue in more suitable conditions. The same applies to noise, fuss, stuffiness and other types of unpleasant environments.

Direct threats

They are usually used when everything else isdoes not help, but the person needs to get what he wants. Usually, situations where this method is used are related to finances or power. Sometimes this may be evidence that the person is on his last legs and is ready to do anything to come to an agreement with you. A sort of “cornered rat”. Whether to compromise with him or not is up to you. In any case, you should try to resolve the conflict as peacefully as possible, even if you heard a direct threat addressed to you. Try to discuss what you heard with someone who is above the situation and is able to think clearly. It is possible that upon closer examination, the threat is not worth a damn. Or it is possible that pressure may really be put on you. In this case, it is up to you to decide whether to stand your ground finally, attracting all possible resources, or to spit on it and make concessions. However, remember that those who have succumbed to threats at least once will most likely continue to be threatened in the future. In conclusion, I would like to say that the best way to resist psychological pressure is to think clearly and be vigilant. Avoid situations in which you would have to make a decision in uncomfortable conditions. And do not hesitate to put people in their place. This does not mean that you should become embittered and paranoid, but you also need to love yourself and not let anyone hurt you. We recommend reading:

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