All of us, when we start dating ourthe chosen one, we feel awe and joyful excitement from communicating with him. Oh, what pleasant, bright feelings that we want to feel as long as possible! We really want to, but it doesn’t work out. Several years of marriage pass, and there is no trace left of the former excitement. Relationships often become warm, close, but predictable and monotonous. And sometimes this makes us a little sad. Everything seems to be fine, but something is missing. What to do in such a case? How to refresh a relationship after several years of marriage?
Why does romance disappear in marriage and what to do about it?
Well, we finally found our second one.other half and created a wonderful strong family. At first glance, everything is great. There is mutual understanding, help, care. The two have become one. What else, it would seem, can you dream of? But you do dream. You dream of at least sometimes returning the original romanticism to the relationship. But for some reason this does not work out. What is the matter? The reason lies precisely in this “one whole”, meaning a complete merger with another person. It contributes to the fading of interest and excitement. After all, your own hand or foot cannot cause excitement and constant interest! So what now, not to become one with your spouse and keep him at a certain distance from you? It won’t take long to lose your beloved man altogether! What if tomorrow a more spiritually close woman turns up, and the faithful, without thinking twice, switches to her? Or simply leave the family, deciding that there is nothing special to lose! Similar relationships can be built with any other young lady, so why bother taking on the responsibility for another person, essentially a stranger to you? Yes, but living with a husband as if he were a close relative is not at all appealing – he is, after all, a husband, not a brother or father. So what to do? A dilemma… In fact, this issue is quite solvable. We just need to periodically refresh our relationships in marriage, so that sometimes we get the opportunity to see each other anew. This happens when something unexpected arises in the usual existence of communication between a husband and wife. Let it be a mere trifle, but it should pleasantly surprise the spouse and set him on a romantic wave. What kind of surprises can there be? How to refresh relationships in marriage?
Surprise for the spouse. Anonymous gift
An unexpected gift is a very good wayto add a touch of intrigue to family relationships. You can do it any day, for example, by sending a gift by courier without a signature directly to your husband's work. But you shouldn't buy anything expensive. Your husband will probably be taken aback by such generosity from an unknown person and will simply be confused. Therefore, it is better to send something playful and frivolous: balloons, some kind of funny ashtray, a cap with the inscription "invisibility cap" and so on. Let your loved one guess all day who came up with the idea to give him a surprise. And we will confess everything in the evening. However, it should be noted that if your husband has a poor sense of humor, it is not safe to give such gifts. He will also start grumbling that we are interfering with the work process and, in general, it would be better to keep your feminine quirks to yourself. But he is a serious, responsible person, and he does not need such antics. Firstly, they distract from the work process, and secondly, they cause a reaction from employees that is inadequate to this process. So, “go away, my dear, with your antics”... You shouldn’t make such surprises when we are overly jealous. The spouse may simply get scared and not even mention the unexpected gift at home. And what should we do then? Tell him myself? There is a high probability of reproaches from his side in an attempt to check. In this case, if we have already decided to make a surprise for our dear half, it would be better to sign it. Then the gift will certainly please him. After all, it will become evidence that we still need his attention.
Surprise for the spouse. Romantic letter
Another good way to do thisReanimate the romance in your relationship – lyrical letters. They can be sent to your spouse either by regular mail or by e-mail from an address unknown to him. The messages should be long, intriguing and tender. The beginning of the text should be written in such a way that it is completely unclear who the author of the letter is. Let your husband be interested. Well, what man is not curious about why someone suddenly fell in love with him? Let him, let him be interested! And we will suddenly, in the middle of the letter, describe the details of the relationship that are known only to both of us! And until the very end, we will note intimate moments that could only happen in our family. What a surprise it will be for him - a woman who seems to be familiar with almost everything, pulls such a trick! After years of marriage, she confesses her love to her husband... Does it turn him on? You bet! It turns him on to the point of a youthful tremor already forgotten during the period of their life together.
Surprise for the spouse. Collage of photos
Letter to Rekindle Romance in Marriage – Ideanot bad. However, not all of us are good enough at words to write one. Besides, love letters are too traditional a symbolism, which you don’t always want to use. Well, a letter is a letter… How many of them were written at the very beginning of courtship! Therefore, another good answer to the question of how to refresh your relationship with your husband would be a collage of funny photos, which capture the most pleasant moments of your life together. You can call such a collage, for example: “My happiness with you”, “You are the man of my dreams” or something like that. It is desirable that the spouse has not seen these photos before - then they will be a real surprise for him. For this, the pictures are taken secretly, in a variety of places and under various circumstances. Such photos testify to an unquenchable interest in both the faithful and in what is happening in the marriage with him. If we have mastered the computer at least a little, we can download a program and make an elementary video from a collection of photos, scrolling to the favorite music of both. The effect of this will be simply amazing! Not only does the video promise to be very romantic. It will be proof of a very serious and careful attitude to marriage on our part.
Surprise for the spouse. Unusual dinner
Our husbands, as a rule, love to eat well.But if at first they admire the culinary skills of the wife, then later, over time, they get used to them. Therefore, it becomes quite difficult to impress them with some culinary delights. The husband can calmly gobble up some rare delicacy and, without expressing admiration, fall on the sofa in the conviction that this is how it should be. Well, then let's not conjure over delicacies! Let's make a fairly familiar dish, but with a surprise inside. For example, you can bake a pie and hide a note in it with a declaration of your feelings. Or bake pies equal to the number of years you have lived together. And put a note in each of these pies with an inscription that is especially significant for a particular year. Let's say this: "This year we kissed for the first time", "This year we went on a cruise", "This year you confessed your love" and so on. Great? Of course! I just need to warn my husband to be careful with the pies. Otherwise, he'll gobble up all the romance without even looking, and our efforts will go down the drain.
Surprise for the spouse. Participation of children
It is not always possible to arrange a romanticsurprise your beloved and spend an exciting evening alone with him. Well, let's change the mood! You can introduce an element of surprise into the existing routine, without returning to memories of the first days of acquaintance. To do this, it is enough to agree with your children and find a way with them to remind mom and dad that there is true love between them. Children are what indicate the depth of the relationship and their regulator. So why not involve them in the action? Let the son or daughter cook (not without the participation of the mother) dad's favorite dish, draw something for the parents, write words of love, stage a short performance about the history of their acquaintance, and so on. Can such things leave anyone indifferent?
Surprise for the spouse. Theater with scandal
There are married couples in which scandals -a kind of way to awaken the former sensuality and look at your partner from a new point of view. No, we are not talking about quarrels that have a destructive effect on the family. We are talking about a deliberately arranged scandal based on the desire for a charge of excitement. For example, we will invent a bunch of complaints about our husband and start throwing dishes on the floor. Only the plates should be chosen cheaper, so that later it will not be “excruciatingly painful”. You can even buy a separate inexpensive set for this. The complaints should be insignificant, otherwise it will not be a playful version of a quarrel, but a real conflict. Do we need this? Of course not. Therefore, we find fault with the fact that the other half forgot to wash the cup, splashed toothpaste on the mirror in the bathroom, falls asleep at the wrong time, snores at night, and so on. You can invent many such nagging. And, expressing each of them, break a plate. Such actions, if they are grotesque and do not provoke real anger, are doubly useful. Not only will they eventually throw the spouses into each other's arms. Such theater will allow in the future, instead of the usual irritation from some actions of your other half, to feel indulgence and even tenderness towards her. Well, so what, my cheburakh didn't wash the cup again, scattered socks or dirty the mirror! But he is mine…
Surprise for the spouse. Resuscitation of the past
A very good way to bring romance intoLong-term relationships – recreating the moment of acquaintance. No, when we first met far away from our current place of residence or somewhere at our previous place of work, it will not be easy. But you can definitely go to the cafes, parks or discos where the first meetings took place. And it is quite possible to arrange a trip to those places that have become especially significant for strengthening love in a married couple. In the end, there is always an opportunity to find some things that remind us of the first meetings with a loved one. An old scarf, mittens, old perfume, a postcard, a letter, a message... All this touches the farthest corners of our soul and makes seemingly completely forgotten emotions stir. A person does not forget anything. He only puts everything on the shelves of memory, then cluttering them with all sorts of rubbish. If we get to one of these shelves through the deposits of years, the feelings stored on it come to life. And they help us to renew ourselves and feel energetic, full of strength and desire for love. It is not typical for people to resist such a reaction to memories. The world of feelings is boundless and multifaceted. And romance is an integral part of it. Which method to choose to bring romance back into family relationships depends on the type of relationship and the characters of the spouses. Or on what we want from it. Perhaps we want to please our other half, remind them of love, arrange an extraordinary night of love or get an apology for the many grievances caused? Well, what difference does it make! The main thing in such a matter is to remember that there is love in the world, and it exists when the marriage is alive. But such love “does not call and does not drive. It just soars in the sky.” So let's fly to it at least sometimes! We recommend reading:
