Who are happy people?Are they people who smile a lot? Or rich people? Or maybe they are people with a large family? The answer is not so clear. But one thing is for sure: every person wants to be happy, regardless of their gender, age, or religion. In order to move towards happiness, you must first know what it is. This is even more difficult. Is happiness a goal, a state, or a process? Or maybe happy people are born under a lucky star? Let's try to figure it all out and separate the wheat from the chaff.
What is happiness?
It's an eternal question, like "what's the pointlife? ". And the greatest minds of mankind have been trying to find an answer to it for a long time. The famous ancient Greek philosopher Epicurus believed that the key to happiness lies in getting maximum pleasure from life. Another equally famous Greek philosopher Diogenes, on the contrary, believed that true happiness is possible only under the condition of an ascetic lifestyle, because in this way you are not attached to material goods and are truly free. But not only philosophers have distinguished themselves in finding an answer to this question. Some psychologists believe that a state of happiness is achieved by a person when his needs are satisfied. According to the theory of the famous psychologist Abraham Maslow, a person has lower needs (food, water, sleep, comfort and safety) and higher needs (love, respect, beauty and knowledge, as well as self-realization). He believed that first the lower needs should be satisfied, then the higher ones. Maslow considered self-realization in creativity to be the basis for happiness: according to his definition, happy people are self-actualizing people.
The first steps to happiness
All these scientific concepts are very interesting, but most women are concerned with a specific question: "how to be happy?" They will be offered short and ready-to-implement advice:
- Do not focus on the bad in your life. The bad thing happens, and it's inevitable. However, happy people simply experience negative events, and focus on good ones.
- Celebrate what good things you have managed to do.This advice is a continuation of the first, because if you note everything good, it will constantly be in your mind, and there will simply be no time to think about the bad.
- Be kinder to other people. It's complicated, but it's a fact. Evil people estimate their level of happiness is much lower than good people. Do not necessarily humbly tolerate whenever you are offended - this is wrong and even harmful. Just try to do something good, for example, engage in charity
- Appreciate the true friends and do not postpone communicationwith them for later. This "later" may not come, and you will lose a lot. It is not accidental that most people associate happiness with a group of smiling people.
- Work. Many people think that happy people sit at home and do nothing. Well, or at least they do not work. This is not true. In fact, only a couple of months in this state - and you will be darker than the clouds due to overwhelming boredom and anguish. The work tones up the person, allows him to self-actualize and is the source of the means of subsistence. The main thing - that she was loved, well-paid and did not turn you into a stolen horse.
- Do it. Not every work, even if it's beloved, leaves room for creativity. Happy people are creative people, so try to apply creativity in various areas of life - for example, prepare a fun breakfast for the child.
I would like to dwell separately onrelationships with men. Every woman dreams of finding an ideal life partner, and only then does she become truly happy. Therefore, no matter how paradoxical it may sound, in order to find out the secret of female happiness, it is necessary to answer the question: "how to make a man happy?" A happy man is a proud man. Praise your partner and emphasize his strengths. Surprise him periodically and do not let him get bored - for example, give him a new game console for your wedding anniversary and spend the evening playing various racing and shooting games with him. Only the deaf have not heard about the role of sex in the life of a modern man. Everything is clear here - remain beautiful, sexy and desirable for your man (and maybe not only for him). Initiate intimacy yourself, because this will show him that sex with him is a great joy for you. Take into account his sexual needs - someone wants constant variety in sex, and for someone there is no better place than the marital bed. Support your man. Be interested in his life, work, friends – but not intrusively, but so that he understands that his life is very important to you. Agree with him when he scolds his boss and feel sorry for him when he says that he is damn tired. Listen to him, and do not brush him off with the words: “What nonsense!” And most importantly. To keep your man happy, let him go from you from time to time. Play computer in the evening, drink beer with friends or just be without you. He will be grateful to you for your understanding and will become even more attentive to you. Happy people can be both together and apart, and both of these states are the key to satisfaction.
To each his own
There is no single secret to happiness, no matter how hard you trysell popular books. You can ask the question: "How to be happy?" to thousands of women, and each will find her own recipe. All happy people are happy in their own way. But, despite this, often someone else's experience is useful for others, so below will be published several recipes for happiness from a variety of women: "True happiness is in love. As The Beatles sang: "You're nobody until you're loved," and I agree with that." "I'm happy when I have money. Let it sound mercantile, but I'm very exhausted by their lack. And it's not about the money itself, but about the opportunities and freedom that it gives. I hate saving and choosing which of two things I will buy today and which tomorrow. Happiness is when I can not do this." "Happiness is when everyone is alive and well. If this is so, then everything else is the little things in life" "Happiness is accepting everything. At 16, Tatyana survived cancer, a year later she learned that she would not be able to have children, and at 25, she took custody of four girls. Now these children have grown up, but Tatyana continues to look after disadvantaged children. If you look from the outside, your whole life is for others. But she is so undisguisedly happy. That's all. Not difficult, right? True happiness lies in every moment of life, and if you have managed to recognize and catch it, you are a happy person. We recommend reading:
