"A wise woman builds her own house, but a foolish woman builds it"will destroy." (From the Proverbs of Solomon). We talk a lot about what kind of women men like. We put a lot of effort into looking spectacular and go through many recipes to pamper our loved ones with delicious dinners. We take care of men, trying to make their lives more comfortable. And... We remain alone! Why? Let's see what men themselves say about this.

Male ideal woman. The reasoning of the experienced

Oddly enough, but every man’s dream,— not at all a semblance of some sex symbol and not a copy of a caring mother with her hearty dinners. The dream of any man, - a woman with wisdom. It is no coincidence that almost all the famous statements about female wisdom belong to representatives of the strong half of humanity! “It is generally accepted that wise wives do not exist in nature. This is a myth, a fairy-tale character, an unattainable male ideal. Because only in an ideal world are there wives who accept their husbands as they are. Without attempts at modernization and alteration. Wives who start the morning with a smile, a kind word and a hot breakfast, and not with finding out the circumstances of where this faithful one has been hanging out until almost the morning. Wives who understand the soul of a real football fan and are able to bring her husband a bottle of cool beer while he watches the Cup Winners' Cup with the participation of his favorite team. Wives who understandably let their husbands go to meet with friends, and upon their return offer to relax in peace. And so on and so forth…” This maxim of one of my friends was born after I asked him to express his opinion on the topic of whether wise wives exist in nature. I will not say that I fully agree with the above theses, but I respect the point of view expressed. Let’s be honest, there are many men, and, according to some estimates, an absolute majority, who see a utilitarian, consumerist background in women’s wisdom. What is a woman’s wisdom for such men? If you delve deeper into the problem, it becomes clear that it is often perceived only at the everyday level. Often, the keeper of the hearth in the male consciousness is a mother, a servant and a housewife all rolled into one, a quiet and meek creature who indulges her husband in everything. Such a substitution of concepts, as a rule, does not lead to anything good.

Encyclopedia of Women's Wisdom

What is wisdom?There are countless definitions of this concept. Perhaps, of all the pearls of wisdom, one can single out this one: “Fools never forgive and never forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” This aphorism by the American psychiatrist Thomas Shasha most fully reveals the concept of true wisdom. When applied to a wise woman, this expression can be understood in such a way that she will actually forgive all the sins of her husband and patiently endure all his actions, whatever they may be. How to become a wise wife of this kind and do women need it themselves? Each decides for herself. As an example, here is one sketch from life. He was one of those about whom they say “life is good.” His business was flourishing, and it is quite natural that charming creatures of the female sex were present in the businessman’s entourage. He was married. Moreover, he was a loving husband. But, nevertheless, he sometimes had affairs on the side. For his wife, these adventures were not a big secret. She knew about them, but after each adventure she took her husband back, wisely forgiving his pranks. Time passed, and this man realized that all his fleeting romances were nothing more than smoke from white apple trees. And that he only needed a wife - faithful, loving and understanding. This story is true, and everyone would probably dream of such a wife, a true embodiment of wisdom. In the described circumstances, higher understanding helped not only to understand and forgive her husband, but also to preserve the family hearth. The heroine of this story acted like a truly wise woman. Of course, patience was very difficult for her. But in the end, she received a worthy reward for it!

Lessons of female wisdom

The union of two is work.Daily work, requiring from each not only patience, but also the ability to forgive, to treat the partner with understanding. Ancient sages noted that a man by himself is not yet a person, just like a woman. And only when the union of two forms a family, this new organism can be figuratively called a person. If each half of this organism lives, taking into account the interests of the other, then such an organism can live long and happily. It is no coincidence that it is the woman who is called the keeper of the family. Her wisdom largely determines what kind of family it will be. Of course, the role of a man in maintaining the family hearth is also important, and no one belittles it. But it is the wife, who has innate or acquired wisdom, who can make sure that her husband returns home with joy after work. A truly wise woman intuitively understands that a family is a lot of work, largely based on compromise solutions. To give in, to forgive, to understand - these are the qualities that best cement the cell of society. It is quite clear that female wisdom is an acquired quality. It is hardly worth demanding it from a recent student immediately after the end of the honeymoon. Good and wise wives are not born, they become so. Just as cognac acquires increasingly better taste qualities over time, so a woman, having gone through the thorns of everyday family coexistence and having entered the heyday of her beauty, understands what real female wisdom consists of. And it consists, among other things, in the awareness of the fact that there are no ideal people. And if a woman manages to love the one who is next to her, with all his shortcomings, ambitions and vain aspirations, then the wisdom of this love will allow the family hearth to burn for a long, long time.

My half ... What I represent it

First of all, smart.Intelligence is the initial step to wisdom, which comes with age. Wisdom is the product of years, reflection and inner improvement. In addition, she is patient, reserved and understanding. All these qualities came to her with the experience that was before me. She is able not only to understand me, which in itself is of great value, but also to feel my mood, catch the half-tones, and not let a conflict flare up. She does not argue or insist on her own. She simply listens to me and agrees. Or she gently and respectfully expresses her point of view, and then I agree with her. We are a clear embodiment of the saying that the husband is the head, and the wife is the neck. She is an excellent mother to our children. She knows how to give them all her love without reserve. Children feel this very well and, as a rule, respond in kind. You can discuss any issue or problem with her. She will calmly and thoughtfully suggest a solution, and from this the feeling of our unity grows stronger day by day. Her love is unobtrusive, but I feel it every minute. And this allows me to understand that I cannot live without her. Perhaps this is the ideal relationship between a man and a woman. In a word, this is what she is, my other half. I believe that sooner or later we will meet, so that we will never part… We recommend reading:

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