Kindergarten without tears

Sooner or later comes the time whenThe grown up karapuz gets acquainted with a kindergarten. And what kind of acquaintance it will be - joyful or with daily tears - directly depends on the mood of the parents and the preliminary preparation for this event. In fact, the psychological adaptation of the baby to stay in kindergarten is not an easy task. After all, the child barely escaped from his chest, he became more independent and bold, when suddenly he finds himself in a completely unfamiliar situation, confused, without a mother. There are a number of typical mistakes that even the most enlightened parents often allow the child to go to kindergartens in Ufa, and which, as a rule, greatly aggravate the problem of the primary adaptation of the baby to the kindergarten: Mistake 1. The kid is given to a kindergarten because he has a brother or sister appears, and it is difficult for my mother to cope with both. Here the problem may arise in the fact that the older child is already having a difficult time experiencing the emergence of a "competitor", and now he is also "handed over" somewhere, in fact, they are getting rid of, as kids often think. Mistake 2. Before leaving the karapuza to the kindergarten, on family councils (in the presence of the future kindergartener) anxiously discuss all the negative aspects related to the forthcoming stay of the "poor child" among snotty, aggressive children without a mother. Such sentiments are very quickly transferred to the baby, and in the kindergarten he will go with anxiety and pessimism. Error 3. On the first day of visiting the kindergarten, the baby is taken home only in the evening. According to psychologists, children between the ages of 2 and 4 are very poorly oriented in time, and my mother's words "I'll come at 7 o'clock" do not say anything about the baby. But waiting for him may seem like an eternity. Mistake 4. When she brings her to the kindergarten, her mother enthralls him with new toys or socializing with children and quietly disappears, knowing that parting will not do without tears. And in this case, of course, all tears and hysterics will go to the teachers and nannies. And the kid will once again be convinced that the mother can throw it and disappear. Mistake 5. Listening to the child's endless complaints that everything in the kindergarten is "bad bully", my mother laments and does not know how to save her child. With this behavior, the child will increasingly believe that everyone is offending him, and do not like the kindergarten - a bad place. So, to go to a kindergarten without tears, you need to adhere to such advice of psychologists: in advance to show the kindergarten, fun playing children; on the first day leave a little for a little while; Do not run, but give the kid a chance to whimper and say goodbye; have an optimistic attitude and calmly help the baby solve all the problems that arise.