Sooner or later the time comes whenthe grown-up toddler gets acquainted with the kindergarten. And what kind of acquaintance this will be - joyful or with daily tears - directly depends on the mood of the parents and preliminary preparation for this event. In fact, the psychological adaptation of the baby to staying in the kindergarten is not an easy matter. After all, the child has barely weaned, has become more independent and bolder, and suddenly he finds himself in a completely unfamiliar environment, confused, without his mother. There are a number of typical mistakes that even the most enlightened parents often make when sending their child to kindergartens in Ufa, and which, as a rule, greatly aggravate the problem of the baby's primary adaptation to the kindergarten: Mistake 1. The baby is sent to the kindergarten because he has a brother or sister, and it is difficult for the mother to cope with both. Here the problem may arise in the fact that the older child is already having a hard time experiencing the appearance of a "competitor", and now he is also "handed over" somewhere, in fact - getting rid of, as children often think. Mistake 2. Before sending the little one to kindergarten, at family councils (in the presence of the future kindergartener), they anxiously discuss all the negative aspects associated with the upcoming stay of the “poor child” among snotty, aggressive children without a mother at all. Such moods are very quickly transmitted to the child, and he will go to kindergarten already with anxiety and a pessimistic attitude. Mistake 3. On the very first day of attending kindergarten, the child is taken home only in the evening. According to psychologists, children aged 2 to 4 have a very poor sense of time, and the mother’s words “I’ll be back at 7 o’clock” mean nothing to the child. But waiting for him may seem like an eternity. Mistake 4. Having brought the child to kindergarten, the mother captivates him with new toys or communication with children and quietly disappears, knowing that parting will not be without tears. And in this case, of course, all the tears and hysterics will go to the teachers and nannies. And the baby will once again be convinced that mom can abandon him and disappear. Mistake 5. Listening to the baby's endless complaints that everyone in the kindergarten is "harmful bullies", the mother is distressed and does not know how to save her child. With such behavior, the child will increasingly believe that everyone offends him, does not love him, and the kindergarten is a bad place. So, in order to go to kindergarten without tears, you need to follow these tips from psychologists: show the baby the kindergarten in advance, the children playing happily; leave the baby for a short time on the first day; do not run away, but give the baby a chance to whine and say goodbye; have an optimistic attitude and calmly help the baby solve all the problems that arise.
