Mother and child.What could be more natural? The most important mission of any woman is, of course, caring for and raising a child. However, modern society and the rhythm of life dictate their own conditions. And a modern woman can no longer always afford to sit at home for three, or even one and a half years, until the baby goes to kindergarten. Although, of course, a mother should try to stay at home as long as possible. But if for some objective reasons a mother has to go to work, as a rule, grandmothers or other relatives stay with the child. However, not every young family has such an opportunity. And in such situations, the only way out is a nanny for the child. However, this is not as easy as it may seem at first glance. It is very important to know exactly how to choose a nanny for a child. After all, the right choice of a nanny will help to avoid a huge number of various problems, stress and mutual claims.
Set Goals
The first thing you need to do beforestarting to look for a nanny means to clearly define for yourself why you need the help of a stranger. As a rule, the following situations are most common:
- Household
Often a young mother is simply physically unablemanages to cope with all the responsibilities that have fallen on her - child care, feeding, cleaning. And her husband also requires attention. It is not surprising that the young mother very quickly gets exhausted to the limit. And begins to think about the help of a nanny. However, in this case, it is much wiser to look for a housekeeper, not a nanny. A housekeeper almost completely relieves a woman of the need to do most of the housework. Washing, cleaning, cooking - all women know how much time and energy these chores take. And if these functions are assigned to a housekeeper, the young mother has a lot of free time that she can spend on her baby, her husband, and ultimately, on herself. A few hours of daytime sleep can radically change the quality of a woman's life. And you can always leave your sleeping baby under the supervision of a housekeeper.
- Mom's exit to work
But a woman's return to work impliesassistance of a nanny who will take on all the worries and troubles associated with caring for and raising a child. Incidentally, child psychologists and specialists in the selection of domestic staff strongly advise against hiring a nanny whose duties also include doing housework. In this case, the nanny's attention will not be focused only on the child. Of course, we are not talking about preparing food for the child.
I am perfection myself - Mary Poppins
Surely everyone remembers this kind fairy tale and itsthe main character – nanny Mary Poppins. Indeed – simply perfection itself and an example of an ideal nanny. Where in real life can you find such a nanny? And indeed – choosing a nanny in our time is extremely difficult, but still possible. How to do it correctly will be discussed below. Psychologists recommend giving preference to a woman whose age fluctuates between 30 and 45 years. As a rule, a woman’s psyche is most stable at this age – her first crushes, studies and exam sessions are already behind her. And it is still a long way to nervous system disorders, which are not at all rare during menopause. And the nanny’s balance and composure are extremely important. Often, parents make one very common mistake – they hire a woman of retirement age, believing that she will treat the child better and with more love. Of course, there is a grain of truth in this opinion, and quite a large one. However, this excessive love can bring a lot of headaches. It often happens that all the love a woman is capable of will be projected onto your child. And her attitude towards the child will go far beyond the limits that are permissible for a nanny. A child, especially a small one, usually very quickly becomes attached to a nanny who loves him very much. It would seem that this is good, but not always. And first of all, it is the mother who suffers from this situation. Almost all women begin to feel jealous. As a result, the relationship begins to deteriorate, there is a tense atmosphere in the family, and both the mother and the nanny and the child are nervous. In addition, immediately during the hiring of a nanny, discuss all the nuances of raising a child. It is undesirable to abruptly change the child's daily routine and the rituals that are usual for him. So, for example, if the mother always read to the child before bed, let the nanny do the same. According to psychologists, a small child is the hardest to endure any changes in life, even the most insignificant ones.
Varieties of nannies
In addition, parents must decide for themselves exactly what kind of nanny they need for their baby. There are several types of nannies:
The choice is made, what's next?
So, you already know how to choose a nanny.Next, you need to put this knowledge into practice - that is, find a nanny. You can contact a special recruiting agency, or place a private ad, or look among friends. As a rule, you can find a good nanny in any of the listed ways. Many parents make the same mistake - they leave the child with the nanny immediately after she starts work. However, it is much wiser to stay with the nanny and the child for at least the first week. In this way, the mother will always be able to adjust any aspects of the child and nanny's communication, tell the nanny about all the nuances and individual characteristics of the child. And, in addition, in a week you will know for sure whether the nanny is right for you. This means that you can leave the child with the nanny without internal torment and worries that the child will be bad without you. And during this time, the child will be able to get used to the nanny and feel comfortable in her presence. We recommend reading:
