Breastfeeding is the most natural process,which can only be imagined. However, very often nursing mothers face various problems. One such problem is the fact that the child plays with the chest. At first, mom touches this process, but the more insistent the games with the chest, the less the woman likes it. The newborn baby gradually realizes this world, discovers that it has handles, that you can touch the handles to objects, including the mother's breast. After very little time, the baby will find that the handles can not only touch anything, but also grasp the interested object tenaciously. Well, how can I miss the opportunity and not grab my mother's breast? It is at this stage that the child touches the chest, does not cause the mother anything but a smile of emotion. After a while the young researcher finds a new object of research - nipples of mother's breast. All children, without exception, like most, taking one nipple, starting to twist the second in different directions. Sometimes the baby twists the nipple quite sensitively and even causes the woman pain. Many mothers do not stop the child's actions, because they believe that in six months the kid still does not understand anything. Of course, you can remain silent and tolerate, but imagine how much one year old baby can unscrew a nipple. And do not think that such a bad habit will pass by itself. After all, if the child is not given to understand that it is impossible for the mother to hurt and so to do, he will never know it and will continue to do the same. At the first attempts of the baby to grab the nipple, take away his pen, look into his eyes and in a low but strict voice explain to the baby that his mother is hurt and that this can not be done. Of course, the baby is not yet able to understand the meaning of your words, but the children very sensitively distinguish all shades of intonation. The kid will understand that the mother is dissatisfied with something. From the first time the child will not catch the connection between his actions and your reaction. But, as a rule, 3 - 4 times is quite enough. If the child does not react to your words, which is rare, but it happens, immediately after the pinch take the baby's chest. Of course, the crumb will protest and resent, but you must make it clear that such actions are unacceptable and you will not tolerate such behavior. Most often just one such educational process and the child does not resume attempts to pinch his mother. However, very often, after stopping playing with the breast during the day, the child tugs at the chest at night. A sleepy baby is much harder to control himself. In order to avoid such cases, giving the baby's chest at night, cover with a second towel, diaper or nightgown. If there is no access to the nipple, the baby will not be able to grab it.
Some mothers encounter strangethe behavior of children 8 - 10 months. The child, without any apparent reason, begins to pinch, beat or even bite my mother's breast. Child psychologists explain this behavior by the fact that the child, as he grows up, periodically tries the features of the behavior permitted by him. In no case can not ignore such behavior of the child. It is necessary to immediately immediately suppress it and explain that this can not be done. If the attempts resume, immediately take the child's chest, also letting him know that you are offended. Very often a child plays with her mother's breast, talks to her, brings her toys to her chest and so on. Usually, this behavior is typical of children at one-year-old age. In fact, there is nothing to worry about, it's just another phase of growing up your crumbs. However, you should not focus on these games and even more so support them. Just try to gently switch the child's attention to some other, equally useful lesson. In the event that you just sharply take away from the baby's chest, he can become confused and even take offense. After all, the kid sincerely believes that the breast belongs to him. Very many children every time, as soon as my mother is in the "access zone", climb up with her hand under her clothes and check to see if the hotly adored chest has disappeared accidentally. Often this habit remains for some time after the baby was weaned. To get rid of this habit, you can only one way - each time explain to the baby that you do not like it and, if possible, try to wear clothes that would impede access to the chest. After a year, the problem of the child constantly touching the chest can be psychological. In order to find out, it is necessary to determine the purpose for which the child touches the breast. If the baby does it to his mother, or plays with the chest, it is necessary to forbid him to do this and explain why it can not be done. This will be discussed a little later. But in the event that the baby touches your chest, obviously looking for your attention and affection, pay attention to your relationship with the baby. As a rule, this way children come to whom they do not have mother's affection, love and attention. Perhaps you went to work and started spending less time at home, or maybe you have another baby, or are you just tired for a whole day, spent in constant, uninterrupted business chores around the house? Ask someone from the relatives to help you with the au pair and try to spend a little more time with the baby. Often kiss him, hug him, press him to him - at this age physical contact plays a huge role and is necessary for the correct and harmonious development of crumbs. In the event that you have no one to help with the household, do all the work with the baby. In practice, this is not as difficult as it seems at first glance. While you wash the dishes, or prepare to eat, the kid will be fascinated to play with saucepans or spoons, feed the puppets or just watch your actions. But most importantly, the baby will feel your constant intimacy, and his anxiety first becomes much less, and then disappears altogether. Another difficulty faced by moms is a little grown-up kids, this is the situation in which a child, while eating, is pulling his chest. Most often this happens because the child is applied to the chest too often, just like that, and not because he is hungry. Of course, mom should stop this behavior. However, how can this be done? The most important thing that a mother must clearly understand is that such behavior is primarily a result of the existing relationship between mother and child. And the problem of these relationships is that in the tandem "mother-child" the leading role is assigned to the baby. Mom is not able to influence the behavior of the child and his actions in any way. In order to normalize the situation, Mom should make every effort and add up the established stereotype of the relationship with the child. A woman should let the crumb understand that the rules will now be determined by her and only she. In no case should we not be allowed to play in the game, so that the child treats his mother as his living toy, which, in addition, fulfills all his whims at the first demand, or rather, shouting. Very many mothers can do their child absolutely everything, motivating them. That he is too small and does not understand anything. However, almost every mother periodically notes that with the people of other people, her crumb behaves much calmer. And it says exactly that the child is well aware that the mother allows him everything and does not put any frames. If you let this thing go by yourself, then at about three years, during the so-called "crisis of three years," your mother runs the risk of getting an uncontrollable child, with whom she can not cope with all her desire. With any problem it is easier to fight while it is at the very beginning. And it's much easier to just chide a child for playing with my mother's breast than in the future to look for child psychologists to correct behavior. We hope that mutual understanding between you and your baby will be impeccable, and your child will always please you. We advise you to read: