I still remember my shock when I heard howmy then-future husband calls his grandmother "you." "Hello, Baba Lena," it's been ten years, but honestly, it's still jarring to me. "We also addressed the grandmother only to" you, "- unabashedly a friend shrugs when I share my surprise with her. - And my mother and aunt to their grandmother, too. My grandfather believed that this was correct. Children should be accustomed to respecting their mother. "Ok, let's say, these are the characteristics of individual families. Yes, there are many such people, although it is difficult for me to imagine how I would treat my grandmother neutrally politely. For me, "you" is still a sign of the distance between people. And what distance can be between family members? A minute of history: the appeal to "you" to the parents was introduced by Peter I, imitating the Dutch. This was considered a manifestation of respect, respect for the older generation. Heartiness? Mentality? And hell with them, not those times now.
A photo: GettyImages Now, of course, more and more sincerely, but, as it seems to State Duma deputy Vladimir Sysoev, it is much less respectful. The parliamentarian believes that it is possible to restore respect for parents only by changing the rules of the Russian language. To bring them in line with the pre-revolutionary speech etiquette: "He had strict rules and had his own grammar," Sysoyev said in an interview. - For example, "mom" and "dad" wrote with a capital letter. The main etiquette genres are greeting, farewell, apology, gratitude, congratulations, pleas, consolation, refusal, objection. "The deputy has already sent a relevant request to Deputy Prime Minister Olga Golodets, who oversees the education sphere. He asks to consider the return of speech etiquette in the school curriculum. "It will raise the moral image of society," the deputy is sure. We, of course, will not argue with the people's choice. And they even appreciated the new meaning of the phrase “Do you respect me?” But we dare to suppose that moral character is brought up not in letters and words, but in heads. There is a suspicion that the Pope (with a capital letter "P") will not penetrate the moment and will not stop yelling at the child on Mama (with a capital letter "M"). And their son or daughter in the heyday of puberty will still scream that the Ancestors (of course, only respectfully) got it. But they will now be Parents with a capital letter. What would this mean in their understanding. And how do you address your relatives?
- To all on you, what a question, not strangers.
- You are on first-name terms with your parents, but on first-name terms with your grandparents, aunts and uncles.
- We address everyone informally, even children, that's just the way it is with us.
- You can only use formal language with your parents.
Voted: 1122А How do you appeal to relatives?
- To all on you, what a question, not strangers. 65.5%
- I am on first-name terms with my parents, but on first-name terms with my grandparents, aunts and uncles.29.9%
- To all of you, even to the children, we have so led. 2.0%
- On you only to parents. 2.6%
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