Parents are different. Democratic and authoritarian, hyper-caring and "lazy." But surely everyone is sure that children should be praised. But how about here not to praise? And then it is conceited, relaxed ... This question was asked by real experts, scientists from the University de Montfort in the UK. The specialists undertook a serious study that involved 38 families with children from two to four years. Parents were asked to fill out questionnaires, where they answered questions about the behavior and well-being of their children. It turned out that moms and dads who praise their children for good behavior five times a day, are growing happy children. They are much less likely to experience symptoms of hyperactivity and decreased attention. Moreover, the scientists noted that "lauded" children are more stable emotionally and much easier to contact with others. Socialization of them is simply a hoot!
Photo: GettyImages Then the scientists went further.They made a schedule for the parents when and how to praise the child. Moms and dads had to tell the baby how great he is, and then record changes in his behavior and relationships with family and peers. Four weeks later, all parents, without exception, noted that the child became calmer, his behavior changed for the better, and in general the baby looks happier than before. It turns out that harshness is harmful to children? At least, unnecessary - for sure. “The child behaves better and feels better, because his positive actions are rewarded with praise,” Sue Westwood, senior lecturer at de Montfort University, is sure. Children need tactile contact for happiness - this has long been proven. But emotional "stroking", it turns out, is no less important. Moreover, the researchers stipulate that five times - this is a convention taken almost from the ceiling, from the recommendation to eat five servings of vegetables and fruits a day. - You can praise more or less often. But children should hear warm words regularly for several weeks or months, and not a day or two, says Carol Sutton, one of the researchers. However, every woman knows that in any business, regularity is important. when he screams than when he quietly reads a book. Therefore, it is important to "catch" these moments, to praise the baby for good behavior in order to model it in the future. Praise can be made for your daily accomplishments, such as helping your younger ones, learning to ride a bike, or walking the dog, Sutton advises, but you shouldn't throw a flurry of praise for every sneeze either. It is important to strike some balance, and by the way, about fruits. You can even praise a child for finally eating broccoli. Perhaps then he will even love her.
