A photo: firestock School performance is what parents usually put first. And it seems surprising to them why the neighbor troechnik Kolya rides a luxury jeep, and the diligent student and pride of the school Masha works as an ordinary employee in an obscure company. Self-assessment is extremely important for every person. Psychologists say that people around us treat us the way we treat ourselves. This explains the fact that people with low self-esteem, even having outstanding qualities, cause to themselves only hostility and disrespect. But mediocre, but loving and valuing people often achieve great heights, and all because they inspire others with respect and reverence. Self-esteem is formed throughout the entire period of maturation. It is important that parents give proper attention to this. How to correct the child’s self-esteem, we were told by the medical psychologist Elena Nikolaeva. Elena Nikolaeva, medical psychologistEach of us would like to see your child.successful, confident, worthy, but not all parents understand what role his self-esteem plays in this. Self-esteem, or, otherwise, self-attitude, the child’s perception of himself is formed at an early age under the influence of many factors. This is the opinion of others, and the general psychological atmosphere, and the relationship between parents, parents and children, different generations, and of course the attitude of parents to the child. The increase in self-esteem of the child, his self-confidence is the result of the daily work of parents and close environment. for parents, to sincerely love your child and show him all your love, to be attentive to him, then you will see where he is having difficulties, what problems he has, what is connected with experiences. Once you have found the weak points, look for a way to strengthen them.Photo: firestock Elena Nikolaeva, medical psychologistFor the formation of adequate self-esteem parentsIt is important to create a relationship with the child in which he can perceive himself favorably, feel the love and support of parents in a variety of situations. In this case, without a decrease in self-esteem, he will be able to take small notes in his address, criticism, losses, failures and other people's successes. Do not forget that the child observes and often often copies the behavior of the parents. Show with your own example the adequacy of attitude towards success and failure. Self-esteem is not inherited, but is acquired. If possible, try to form an initiative, even in the most shy baby, so that he learns to do something on his own. A good way to build self-confidence in children is to entrust them with the best possible household chores. A two-year-old baby can collect his toys from the floor and put them in a special container, a three-year-old can take laundry to the basket, and children 5-6 years old can wash their cups and plates, water the flowers, wipe the dust in accessible places. A sense of responsibility, even on a small scale, perfectly organizes, fosters independence and gives an understanding that everything will work out. If the child feels that he is able to cope with difficulties, to perform feasible tasks, this will really increase his self-esteem. Photo: firestock Elena Nikolaeva, medical psychologistTeach your child to finish the job. Make it a rule to come to the rescue only when the kid himself asks for it. With age, do not forget to say that it is big enough and that he is exactly on the shoulder, he will cope. Learn how to switch attention from what did not work to what you did perfectly well (“Yes, today you lost in a sea battle, but you hid your ships very cleverly, even I wouldn’t have thought of it that way. ”) Develop the child’s sociability, help make new acquaintances, but control the social circle (at least up to 9–10 years). Children's self-esteem is formed under the influence of significant individuals. If the self-image of a 3-year-old baby is formed mainly by parents and under the influence of adults, then a 7-year-old child may already be influenced by his peers. Control the emergence among them of such a “friend” who will suppress the self-esteem of your child and allow offensive remarks towards him. Do not forget to praise the child. Find in your child and his behavior something for which you can sincerely praise him, that which causes your admiration and pride. Hearing pleasant words addressed to him, he will try even more to get approval again. Let your children grow up happy and confident, surrounding them with love, respect and support. Psychologists use various tests to reveal the level of self-esteem. We offer to your attention the estimated projective method “Tree” by D. Lampen. According to the instructions, it is necessary to offer the child to look at the picture with a tree and little men and start painting it. And at first, the child should color the trunk and branches of the tree in brown (as they color, he examines and studies in detail the picture, noticing what each of the little men does and what his mood is). Then it is proposed to paint in red the little man who, in the child’s opinion, is most like him (mood, position); and in green - the little man whom he would like to be in the future. Photo: estimated projective method "Tree" D. LampenChilles No. 1, 3, 6, 7 are chosen by children who easily overcome obstacles and who are not afraid of difficulties in communicating with their peers or adults. № 2, 11, 12, 18 and 19 personify sociability and the ability to be friends. a child with high self-esteem, a leader by nature and self-confident. Number 4 is usually chosen by the child who is in absolute harmony with himself and does not want to go forward, achieving new goals. Number 5 characterizes physical weakness, rapid fatigue, shyness .№8 - detachment and care in their thoughts. № 9 - lightness and craving for entertainment. People under No. 13 and 21 are chosen by closed and anxious children, and No. 10 and 15 are kids who feel well and comfortably in the children's team. With No. 14, children associate themselves who are experiencing a crisis or a strong internal fear at this moment. No. 16 personifies a child who adapts to any opinion and is willing to sacrifice. Number 17 characterizes a child who is not able to cope with emerging problems. Thus, children with the most adequate self-esteem gar monochromatic internal state choose little men under the numbers: 1, 2, 3, 6, 7, 10, 11, 12, 15, 18, 19. But the parents of children who chose the number 14, 8, 13, 16, 17, 21, need be especially attentive to your children.