Orgasm is an explosion of psychological andphysical emotions of a person, the highest point of sexual pleasure, lasting only a few seconds. Both men and women are familiar with this phenomenon, but the female orgasm is by all indications more complex and vivid than the male one. Since the female body is both psychologically and physiologically more complex than the male body, the entire process of sex, from arousal to discharge, is much more diverse and interesting for the weaker sex. The absence of orgasm can undermine not only a girl's sexual self-esteem and self-confidence, but also her health.

How does an orgasm?

Male orgasm occurs as a result of the passagesperm through narrow ducts, on the nerve endings of which it exerts some pressure, transmitting pleasant sensations to the brain. Due to the contraction of the muscles of the penis, sperm splashes out in sharp jolts, and at the end of this process, the penis withers the faster, the more intense the ejaculation was. After a portion of sperm has come out, the man completely loses all interest in sexual intercourse for several minutes. Female ejaculation involves the ejection of a portion of liquid by the glands of the cervix. During strong arousal, the uterus moves lower into the pelvis and more actively interacts with the head of the man's penis. As pleasant sensations increase, the uterine muscles contract, pushing a mucous dense ball out of the cervix, which does not fall out completely, hanging at one end on the cervix. Thus, a vacuum is formed in the vagina, causing an orgasm. After ejaculation, women stop experiencing tension in the genitals, and the cervix closes until menstruation or the next orgasm.

Types of female orgasms

Female orgasms, unlike male ones, do happencompletely different. Vaginal orgasm involves a certain constrictor muscle located in the lower part of the vagina. Its weak development often prevents a woman from experiencing a vaginal orgasm. The solution is special exercises: for example, if you hold back the urine stream for a few seconds every day during urination and tense the muscles of the anus 30-40 times, in a few months this muscle will be in the necessary tone. In order to test your ability to have a vaginal orgasm, insert 2 fingers into the vagina: if you cannot squeeze them, you should continue training. Another difficulty in achieving a vaginal orgasm may be hidden in female anatomy and physiology: too low sensitivity of the vagina, location of the clitoris, etc. The vast majority of women have experienced only a clitoral orgasm in their lives, which occurs with direct stimulation of the clitoris. Most often, the fair half of humanity experiences this type of orgasm during masturbation or oral sex, but clitoral orgasm during normal sexual intercourse is also not uncommon: if you move your legs together in the classic position, the penis will put more intense pressure on the clitoris. In addition, manual stimulation of the clitoris by a partner during intercourse speeds up the orgasm. The uterine type of female orgasm is the least common. This form of orgasm requires active contact of the cervix with the penis. There are 2 reasons for not fulfilling this condition: incorrect position of the uterus or discrepancy between the length of the penis and the depth of the vagina. In the first case, special exercises will help, and in the second - a change of position. Despite the many varieties and ways of achieving orgasm, many women have not experienced or do not experience it during sexual intercourse with a man, feeling frigid. Such a possibility, of course, exists, however, most likely, the diagnosis is different - anorgasmia. In order to get rid of it, it is important to identify the causes of such an ailment.

Types of anorgasmia

If you have a regular sexual partner, but for some reason you cannot reach the point of pleasure with his help, you should distinguish between 3 known degrees of anorgasmia:

Complete lack of orgasm, despite the pleasant sensations of sex;

Indifference to the sexual act, the lack of both excitement and satisfaction;

Unpleasant feelings from sex, disgust.

Also, anorgasmia can be of several types:

• Primary: a woman has never experienced an orgasm in her life in any way;
• Secondary: at some point a woman stops experiencing orgasm, although it was previously possible to achieve it in one or several ways;
• Situational: a woman is able to experience orgasm under certain conditions and is unable in the absence of them. For example, the ability to achieve orgasm only with masturbation is situational anorgasmia;
• Nymphomaniac: a woman feels extremely increased excitement with vaginal stimulation, but she can not feel orgasm;
• Sporadic: a woman can experience orgasm during sexual intercourse, but not always.

Causes of anorgasmia

Anorgasmia can occur for several reasons.reasons, and one of them is disharmony in the sexual life of partners (dysgamia). The most common cases of dysgamia are premature ejaculation of a man, banal mismatch of temperaments, excessively large or small penis. The first sexual contact of a girl can be accompanied by fear of unwanted pregnancy, shame, fear and uncertainty in her partner. Such worries do not contribute to the emergence of spiritual closeness between a guy and a girl, and, as a result, the readiness to get full pleasure from sex. For women, sexual contact, which is based only on animal instincts without the participation of feelings and psychological closeness, is primitive. Therefore, first of all, it is necessary to understand your feelings for your sexual partner and be able to distinguish between passion, love and lust. Anorgasmia can be caused by chronic fatigue or depression of one of the partners. Quite often, couples who have been in a relationship for an impressive period of time lose interest in sex due to its monotony. If a girl has received too strict and puritanical upbringing, anorgasmia may appear due to a feeling of guilt for the discrepancy between her desires and actions and the ideas about sex instilled in her since childhood. There are a lot of psychological nuances that prevent her from achieving an orgasm:

• Conflicts between partners;
• Insufficient excitement before sex;
• Fear of contracting a sexually transmitted disease, becoming pregnant, etc .;
• Conscious or subconscious hostility to the whole male sex or specific sexual partner;
• Excessive self-control over one's desires and emotions;
• Negative attitude towards sex.

A small percentage of anorgasmia may be associated withvarious organ diseases. Obesity, diabetes, hypothyroidism, uterine tumor, postpartum vaginal rupture and other physiological abnormalities may be involved in the inability of a woman to achieve ecstasy. A prolonged absence of orgasm may entail negative consequences and lead to neuroses, migraines, depression, increased irritability and congestion in the genitals, which, in turn, can disrupt the menstrual cycle, increase the pain of menstruation and even cause uterine bleeding. Such changes in the hormonal background of the body can cause pathologies of the mammary glands. Gynecologists warn that venous congestion in the vagina contributes to the development of uterine fibroids and ovarian diseases.

How to deal with anorgasmia?

If you have any difficulties inachieving orgasm with a partner, every woman can experience this pleasure without him. According to sexologists, girls who have learned to please themselves have a better chance of experiencing orgasm with their partner. First of all, you need to carefully study your body, identify the most sensitive points and preferred methods of influencing erogenous zones. During this process, you should fence yourself off from all extraneous thoughts and irritants, focusing on your feelings and emotions, because careful control of the situation does not contribute to getting full pleasure from masturbation. Some also advise developing intimate muscles with Kegel exercises, which allow both a woman and her sexual partner to get pleasure. If a psychological factor is the cause of anorgasmia, you need to relax and trust your man. A frank conversation with him can be beneficial for you, for example, prolong the time of foreplay, change the technique of sexual intercourse, etc. If the reason is more serious (for example, a past rape), you need to trust a competent specialist. About 60% of women suffer from complete or partial anorgasmia, not sharing this problem with their partner for fear of offending or seeming frigid and cold. This is a common mistake, since in order to have the opportunity to experience an orgasm, you need to trust your man and, having overcome shyness and fear, explain the essence of the current situation. However, in no case should you raise this topic in an ultimatum form, making claims and setting conditions. This can only insult a man as a sexual partner. With tactful requests and advice, you can suggest to your loved one what in his bed policy is better to change. If you do not have enough time to fully arouse, you should hint at prolonging foreplay. Changing the usual positions to more exotic ones will help you find one in which stimulation of the clitoris will be maximum. Having shown your partner your preferred erogenous zones, it will take much less time to get aroused than before. Another important role in achieving orgasm is played by the pace of movements: the man should not slow down or pick up the speed of friction as the girl approaches the point of ecstasy.

Diagnosis and treatment of anorgasmia

If a woman has experienced orgasm before, butcannot get it during contact with a new sexual partner due to his neutral attitude to this issue, you should consult a doctor. A specialist can explain to your chosen one the entire error of his position and provide recommendations in accordance with the specifics of each specific case. Most often, men trust the words of doctors more than women's advice. If the reason lies in physiology, an immediate consultation with a competent sexologist is necessary, who can establish the exact reasons for the lack of orgasm:

• Primary anorgasmia involves the appointment of a checkup in order to determine whether the disorder is caused by some disease or is congenital.
• If there is a secondary anorgasmia, the doctor will invite to consultation not only you, but also your partner.
• If required, the sex therapist may prescribe a consultation or a course of sessions with the therapist.
• When coital anorgasmia (one of the types of situational anorgasmia), medicinal treatment methods will be offered: stimulants, tranquilizers, antidepressants, hormonal drugs, etc.
• When treating the disease with physiotherapy methods, you can be prescribed such procedures as physiotherapy, hydrotherapy, vibromassage of the pelvic area, electrostimulation and others.

In conclusion, it is worth saying that the absenceorgasm - a vicious circle: without regular physical release, there can be no interest in sex, and without interest in sex, it is impossible to experience an orgasm. As a result, sex between partners either disappears altogether, or happens without joy and pleasant emotions, which does not contribute to strengthening the union of two people. A woman strictly physiologically needs to regularly experience an orgasm to reduce the risk of cancer and diseases of the pelvic organs.

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