Have you noticed that to the one radiating in itselfconfidence to a person those around him reach out, like plants to the sun? Perhaps this is the secret of happiness and success. Confidence is the quality thanks to which you feel an inner core and strength to realize your desires. In our article we reveal all the secrets, the knowledge of which will help anyone become self-confident.
Why do we need an "internal core"?
The world is full of people who feelinsecure and live quite calmly with it. At least, that's how it seems from the outside. However, after talking to these people, it turns out that there are many problems in their lives that turn into anxiety and sadness. What can developing self-confidence give you? If we talk about students and studying at the institute, then self-confidence is undoubtedly the number one quality - even more than a tenacious mind and brilliant memory. Let's take what is associated with studying first of all - exams. Most likely, you are familiar with the situation when a student who knows everything was "failed" because of insecurity in his knowledge, and an impudent and calm student received an excellent grade without opening a single textbook. An inner core helps you present yourself better, because other people simply cannot think anything bad about you. Studying does not take up much space in our lives compared to work. But self-confidence is still useful for her. There is no point in talking about how important it is to be convincing and decisive during an interview - thousands of articles have been written about this in women's magazines. Implementation of projects, coordination of areas, negotiations with important business partners, sales, marketing - this is a very small fragment from the list of all those professional areas in which you need to feel confident. The ability to firmly stand your ground and convince others of your rightness in the modern world is becoming an increasingly important business quality of a successful person. Although, why are we all talking about work and study? There is something that has worried women much more in all centuries - this is love and relationships with men. A confused and insecure girl has practically nothing to hope for, because she looks pale among her brighter friends. First of all, this is reflected in sex: such a girl simply does not feel sexy, and men feel it and do not feel attracted to her. Accordingly, it is pointless to dream of a happy marriage - it is as likely as a prince on a white horse (and we all already know that this only happens in fairy tales). But even if you have already started a family and had a child, self-confidence will never be superfluous. Firstly, in family conflicts, the rest of the household will have to take your opinion into account. None of us wants to be a “gray shadow” that only serves the needs of other family members. Secondly, you will be a brilliant example of confident behavior for your children, and this, as we know, will be very useful to them in the future. If we talk about people in general, an insecure and fearful person has every chance of being left without friends. This is a very sad fact, but it is simply difficult for him to interest others in anything. It seems as if an insecure person does not have an established opinion on fundamental issues, he has not developed life values, and any little thing can confuse him. At the same time, selfish and envious people will be quite comfortable, because they will get everything they need from such communication.
Several ways to "acquire" complexes
Unfortunately, we often make ourselvesinsecure. It so happens that some of our habitual ways of behavior “get stuck” in our thinking, and we use them almost unconsciously, without analyzing what benefits or harm they bring us. That is why it is sometimes so difficult to answer the question of how to gain self-confidence, because it is much more interesting, due to what you achieve the opposite results? The first step to becoming indecisive and complex is egocentrism. Of course, you can think that you are the center of the universe, and those around you should revolve around you, but there is a high probability of disappointment when you find out that this is not the case. Another extreme is to suspect other people of doing nothing but thinking all sorts of nasty things about you. Fortunately, in reality, they have much more important concerns than evaluating your personality. Most often, such behavior is expected from people by those who themselves constantly hang negative labels on others and think that others are busy with the same thing. Therefore, it is worth considering: maybe the problem is actually in you? Another way that helps to quickly turn into a complete neurotic is to always and everywhere compare yourself with the people around you. It is advisable to choose “more intoxicating” objects for comparison, so that you are constantly faced with the fact that you turned out to be worse. And on all counts! Agree, an excellent reason to suffer and savor your own inferiority. By the way, this type of behavior brings serious dividends to some people: they do nothing but complain about their lives, thereby attracting attention and sympathy. The body is the mirror of the soul (and not the eyes, as the popular saying goes). Therefore, if you want to become the most insecure girl in the world, be sure to back up your mental anguish with physical experiences. Try to slouch more, use a shuffling approach, “get” shortness of breath - all this will make others look at you as if you were a hundred-year-old old woman. And this is a sure path to a “squeezed” personality. Another option for behavior that increases self-doubt is the desire to please absolutely everyone without exception. And if suddenly someone makes unflattering remarks about your abilities or just looks at you askance, then your task is to remember all your failures and make sure that you are a zero without a stick. Speaking without irony, this method is doomed to failure in advance, because someone will definitely be dissatisfied with you - so why suffer because of what you cannot change? The desire to be a “superman” also damages your self-esteem. Everyone has the right to make mistakes, but for some reason some people forget about it. Perhaps this is due to the fact that being perfect in their picture of the world is the only worthy way of existence. However, this is impossible, and if you strive for infallibility, it will only end in disappointment.
We use psychology!
Surely you are already tormented by the question of how to developself-confidence. Fortunately, psychologists have long been creating psychological techniques that will help you do this. Using one or more of the techniques below, you will undoubtedly be able to achieve excellent results.
So self-confidence can beis useful for absolutely any person, regardless of what they do in life and what interests them. The most interesting thing is that any of us can find “our inner core.” Perhaps this is what they mean when they talk about the mysterious zest inside each of us. That is why once you become more confident, you will feel an influx of positive energy into your life. We recommend reading:
