How to forget a married man and give way to a new love

It is not for nothing that they say that you cannot command your heart... It does notalways asks us about some moral values when she falls in love with a man, and it happens that a woman's feelings are directed at someone who is already married. And when this happens - or has already happened - to you, you will want to know what to do and what ways to find to harm yourself, and the man too, as little as possible. There are ways to forget your loved one as soon as you fully accept that he is not free and cannot share your love to the fullest. And it does not matter how strong his feelings may be. It does not matter that he brings a sea of romance into your life and says things that make you feel like you are on cloud nine. None of this matters, because he is married, he has a family where he is loved and needed. And he can give you only a small part of his attention and time, and not all his immeasurable love and devotion, as it would be in another situation. Unfortunately, there are quite a few women who are desperately in love with a married man. And no matter how much their friends and relatives tell them to forget him, you are just a homewrecker, they do not always want to do this. Some women stay in these relationships because the “unavailable” man helps them financially. There are not many of them, though; and who knows if it is always about love? Others cannot leave their loved one, but married, because subconsciously they do not want to take on the obligations that a real marriage would impose on them, so they are content with what an affair with a married man can give them. Still others are married themselves, but at the same time they do not want to change anything and lose the comfort and security that they have with their own husband, although not loved, but reliable. The fourth ones sincerely believe that their married beloved man is not doing so well in the family, he is deeply unhappy there and will definitely leave for his beloved, only his wife will recover from a serious illness or the helpless little children will grow up a little... If you still want to fall out of love and forget your man, then there are several things you should do. Let's talk about this!

Why a relationship with a married man is a disaster for you

Yes, you can hear a lot of talk about this,why dating a married man might not be so bad. But you have to be honest with yourself - there is still much more bad than good. And if you still don't know how to forget your married man and leave him alone (or rather, leave him to his wife, because he said that he allegedly had obligations to her, so he could not leave), if you are "stuck" in such a relationship or feel that you are about to get stuck in a new "adventure", then stop and consider the following facts:

You are wasting your time if you wait.a future together with this person Of course, many women do not want this future together at first when they start dating a married lover. But are you sure that your intentions will not change in the long term? After all, you are a woman - a creature that is guided primarily by emotions. Do not deceive yourself when you think that you are not going to fall in love for life, but only want to tickle your nerves and play a pleasant game with this person. Our dear ones, you will very quickly get lost in this "game" and disappear, bogged down headlong in your love!

He is clearly not the best candidate for seriouslove relationship The fact that he is cheating on you means that there is nothing that will stop him from cheating on you too. If you finally get him to leave his wife, will you feel safe around him? Are you sure he won't do the same to you as he did to his wife when your relationship loses its former intensity?

You will quickly become tired of the specifics of a romance withMarried Man Although the need to keep your relationship secret may give you a special thrill at first, it won't last long. Soon enough, you'll feel like you're missing the feeling of reality in your relationship, when you can appear hand in hand in public without fear that someone he or you know will come around the corner, or when you can post photos of you on vacation together in the south (even though people at home think he's on a business trip) on social media without fear that his wife will find them...

You allow him to humiliate you. He is not, in fact,respects you by making you feel like a scoundrel, a homewrecker, and a slut who is secretly stealing her happiness from another woman. Think about it! The most basic respect a man can show someone he truly loves is to not put her in a position where she has to lie and hide things. This is true no matter how much he values you.

He treats you with disdain and you don'tYou can complain – because he has legitimate excuses for this attitude You know that he is married, don’t you? And therefore he is unlikely to do anything with an eye on your plans. On the contrary, your plans will be constantly disrupted, because he can drop everything and rush home at breakneck speed because the child is sick. Or he will cancel dinner and spend the whole evening helping his wife, who has come up with the idea of rearranging the living room, and you will still be sitting alone with stewed duck and a wonderful pie, which you worked on for half a day. He will not be able to support you financially to the extent necessary, because he cannot rip money from the family budget without his wife noticing. He should not make a good impression on your parents, treat your friends warmly, help you with the repairs of the apartment ... Should I continue further?

You put your whole soul into your relationship with him andheart, but he has the right to destroy it all at any moment If you were married, then in case you or your husband got carried away by another person, you could, at least, somehow begin to sort out your relationship, would try to somehow establish and maintain your connection with each other. But everything is completely different when you are in a relationship with a married man. When his wife finds out about the betrayal (and this can happen at any moment), he will simply shake you off like a piece of trash from his shoulder, even without any dates and explanations - he will simply disappear, and that's it! And he will beg forgiveness not from you, but from his legal spouse.

We have every reason to assert that the eventswill follow exactly this scenario, because it is a well-known fact that men almost never leave their families for their mistresses. If this happens, it is very rare and for a very short time, and soon they return to their legal spouses. And wives, as is known, almost never refuse to let a prodigal husband into the house. After all, they have children together, and the property is jointly acquired. We hope that we were able to convince you that the best thing you can do for yourself is to forget the man, beloved, but married.

How can I forget it?

Please think about how much you are yourselfDo you love yourself? Do you love yourself enough to accept the rare hours and minutes that your married lover can offer you? And how much do you respect yourself if you agree to be content with crumbs from someone else's table? If this suits you - well, then think about whether you want to have a relationship covered in condemnation and even shame, or would you prefer to have a strong and free relationship that would last your entire life? This is the first thing. Secondly, you must put yourself in his wife's place. How do you think she feels if she knows about her husband's infidelity? And is she such a shrew as your man paints her? In any case, you must understand that both spouses are to blame for all the troubles in family relationships, and not one of them. And your married lover is not an innocent victim of a witch-wife either! In addition, you should ask yourself: even if your married man somehow miraculously left his wife for you, how long will it take before he cheats on you? Can you really trust him? And if you can’t trust, then there is no real love. There is only an obsession. And you must have the courage to admit it. In order to fall out of love and quickly forget a married man, you will not need a magic love potion. You will need to change your consciousness, change your attitude to what is happening. You must be prepared for the fact that, having sensed something amiss, your man will suddenly become active and begin to make attempts to revive the relationship. The truth is that only you are in charge of your life. You have the right to say “no.” You have the right to reject all his phone calls. You even have the right to quit your job, especially if you are having an affair with a married colleague or boss. You have everything you need to keep the situation under control. You can find all sorts of excuses why you are still with him, but you have the strength to turn away from him forever and forget him if you only want to. As for the affair at work, you should remember that in most cases such affairs are not serious for men. Rather, they do it in order to dispel boredom at work. And very often they do it in order to gain fame as a macho who managed to conquer another vulnerable lady. This is especially often the case if a woman works in a team dominated by men. If you want to forget your love, you will have to gather determination. To help you, we have selected some tips that will help you get rid of this love:

Don't forget that he will be able to cheat on you just as he cheated on his wife. You probably don't want to experience betrayal and treason, and you don't deserve to go through it.
The main thing to understand is that it is notthe perfect person just for you You must believe that the best is yet to come, and you will definitely meet the man you love, for whom you will be the only one. Don’t let it seem like an impossible dream. Remember that our brain gets used to perceiving frequently repeated thoughts as truth. You’ve probably heard the expression that says that a lie repeated often eventually becomes the truth? Well, then believe in your dream!
Clean your computer, phone and yourmemory of all pleasant memories of him In this case, preference should be given to bad memories. And even better - to destroy everything that could testify to the existence of this connection.
Avoid anything that might remind you ofabout this person: places you've been together, movies you've watched together, photos of him hugging you and smiling If you have mutual friends, try to avoid them for a while while you're going through the most critical period. Of course, you shouldn't break off a good friendship just because the person is a relative or close friend of your ex-boyfriend; but at this stage, all you need is to not hear or know anything about him.
Destroy any gifts he may havegave you They will involuntarily bring you back to the memories of happy moments spent with your loved one, and you will feel the pain again and again. So either return them to the man, or give them to someone with whom you usually do not have contact, so that you never see these objects again. Or just throw them away.
Rearrange your apartment,opportunities to make some changes to the interior. In this way, you will not only remove all possible "evidence" of your ex-lover's presence in your home, but also set yourself up for the fact that you are starting a new stage in your life. Visit places you have never been before, meet new people, develop new interests and hobbies. All this will help you distract yourself from sad thoughts and make you forget about your old life. At some point, you yourself will be surprised to realize that your love has weakened or even ended altogether. To make this happen faster, try to constantly be busy with some things.
Don't regret what "that person" made you doyou to lose a lot of time Everything in life happens for a reason, and falling in love with a married man has enriched you with new facets of life experience. It was not time wasted; it was a relationship that existed and ended. It left to make room for a new love that you are undoubtedly worthy of
If at some point you really want it, thenallow yourself to cry But only for a short time, at first, when you are still really hard and hurt. But then lift your head, find the strength to follow our advice and try to become happy, beautiful and free, doing only what you really like. Your happiness cannot depend on anyone but yourself!

Love for a married man becomes hopelessat the very beginning. And you have no positive reasons to stay with him any longer. By being his mistress, you become an accomplice to the deception of his wife. You cannot force him to break up the marriage, because you will feel guilty before him and his family, and he will blame you for it. And most importantly, you are wasting your youth, your life and your love on someone who can say that you are the best thing that has ever happened to him, but at the same time will never give you the love and respect that you deserve. Think about all this, and you will understand that you should direct your love, attention and energy to someone else who can make you truly happy - without any reservations and looking back! We recommend reading: