How to find a man for life

How to find a man for life is a very difficult questionis relevant today for many single women. Yes, we often pretend to be independent and self-sufficient individuals who are not interested in serious relationships. They say, I am fine as is, and I will always find a partner for sex. The last thing I need is to wash socks, shirts, cook lunches, dinners and deny myself, my beloved, some pleasures! In most cases, such reasoning is nothing more than bravado. In fact, a normal woman always wants to have a reliable life partner, and not a gigolo jumping from bed to bed. Secretly, almost all of us often dream of how to attract a man into our lives for a long time and never regret it later. Statistics say that there are not enough representatives of the stronger sex for all the ladies today. They are being disingenuous. There are enough unmarried men in the world. But not all of them are suitable for creating a strong, prosperous family. How can we sort out this gang of bachelors and not bite our elbows later, reproaching ourselves for frivolity and shortsightedness? Let's see what character traits distinguish someone who can become a good family man.

Signs of a good family man

What do we notice first in men?queue? On appearance and behavior. Without a doubt, the presentability and refined manners of some dandy knock you down. Oh, how often we fall head over heels in love with such a “prince” and even, without thinking much, fly with him to the registry office! Well, how could it be? Such happiness has come! Friends will simply die of envy ... Then time passes and an epiphany comes. It turns out that there is no need for friends to die - a “dandy” is completely unsuitable for a family. He does not even think that you can take care of someone else besides himself. Yes, that would be fine. But it also happens that an inveterate boor, a rude person and a despot hides under refined manners. Of course, you can get rid of such a type later. But with quite large losses for yourself. So, when a stunning and free prince drives up to us in a magnificent Lexus, we turn on our brains. And we try to see what is hidden under all this tinsel. However, this applies not only to men with an impressive entourage. Brains are also needed to be able to discern a true treasure behind an inconspicuous appearance. Let's face it, we often snort if a man is modestly dressed and cannot dine in a good restaurant every day. But all this can be a temporary phenomenon, or simply a lack of interest in expensive things and fashionable establishments. In reality, a modest man is smart, promising, reliable, considerate, caring. You can't wish for a better candidate for a husband! And we flew past, chasing a Lexus ... So what should you pay attention to when choosing someone who is suitable as a life partner? It is advisable to attach more importance to such qualities of a man's personality as:

Absence of unceremonious behavior. Elementary skills of politeness are necessary for any person. Disregard for others often leads to trampling on the interests of the family. And, it can easily be expressed in a crude form;

Willingness to help at any moment. If the man also notices the woman's problems and solves them without unnecessary words - he is priceless;

Desire to have a good family and children. Here it is necessary to make a reservation - initially a special desire to marry a man may not be. The main thing is that he should not be too negative about marriage and not be convinced that children are unnecessary;

The desire to earn good money. It should not be all-consuming, otherwise there is a chance that the husband will be a miser. But he must be persistent and business-like.

Ability to defend one's interests and interestsloved ones. This ability is indicative of self-confidence and a fairly strong character. The presence of these qualities suggests that you can rely on a man;

Purposefulness and life plans. A person who does not know in which direction to move is unreliable. The one who in the long term is able to become a good family man has concrete plans for the future and tries to implement them as far as possible and in the capacity;

Optimism and a good sense of humor. Positive people know how to find a way out of seemingly hopeless situations and without much stress to overcome difficulties. With a cheerful husband it's easy to solve common problems and it's almost impossible to quarrel big;

Responsibility for their words and deeds. An irresponsible man will never become a support for the family. It can not be hoped for even in small things;

Readiness to compromise. Ability to give in order to preserve the peace of loved ones - a very valuable quality. Unfamiliarity, senseless stubbornness breed quarrels and destroy the foundations of marriage;

Availability of professional skills. It is not necessary that the future husband be a master of all trades. But at least some skill in domestic and business matters a man needs. Otherwise, his wife will have to solve most of the family problems;

Conscientiousness and honesty. These traits will not allow a man to dodge, lie and act immorally. Such a spouse can be trusted in any situation;

Humanity. It implies the absence of cruelty and the ability to act humanely even through force. There is nothing worse than a heartless husband who does not give any support at a difficult moment.

Of course, even the presence of all these qualities does not givea complete guarantee that the marriage will be very successful. Are there many things that can spoil the microclimate in the house for a long time? For example, a spouse may be a rare bore, a big fan of company or an overly suspicious jealous person. It is not so easy to live with such a husband. And it is quite difficult to always control yourself. However, tediousness, and a sociable character, and jealousy can be forgiven if the person is interesting, friendly and devoted to the family. It is much worse when your other half is absolutely not bothered by the concerns and aspirations of loved ones. Living with such a man, even if he is not a sadist, is quite painful. However, if we have already managed to fall in love with such an insensitive blockhead, we can try to melt the ice of his indifference. Love works wonders and is able to awaken qualities in a person that he does not even suspect. But for this, they must still be present. If someone does not initially, at least partially, have the seeds of morality and kindness, it is impossible to change him. Let's see what kind of men they are, almost unsuitable for a happy marriage.

Men with whom the probability of happiness is doubtful

In principle, if you approach creating a familywisely, you can close your eyes to many of the character flaws and habits of your future husband. Big deal, flaws! Who doesn't have them? After all, we ourselves are far from perfect... You can close your eyes to many flaws, but not to all of them. There are men with a deceitful nature, something in which is impossible to correct. If such a quality has manifested itself in a representative of the stronger sex, you need to run away from him wherever your eyes look. Even though they only look at this charming and attractive fruit. What are the signs of such liars?

Liar is number one. He is a young man from a "decent family", beautifully dressed, well-groomed and trained in virtuosic manners of behavior. He knows to the smallest detail how to use cutlery, how to behave in society, how to look after ladies. Yes, such young people are able to turn their heads with their exquisite taste, literate speech and a demonstration of love for fine works of art. However, in reality they are just cold aesthetic egoists, whose sensuality is crushed by extreme snobbishness. Such a type has no idea of what sincerity is. He can meet a girl for a long time and assure her that she loves. And then, without special remorse, to marry another, more, in his opinion, suitable for status and origin;

Liar number two.This is an eternal sufferer, a kind of tragic hero. Silent, mysterious, gloomy, he seems unusually mysterious and romantic. In fact, sex is the main thing in the life of a man of this kind. He knows perfectly well that the mask of a martyr is capable of softening almost any woman's heart. And he puts it on as soon as a lady suitable for intimacy appears on the horizon. As soon as the "sufferer" gets his way, he forgets even the name of the poor victim. No, you can marry him if you really want to. But is it necessary? After all, the image of deep sorrow is his lifelong credo. Even being a family man, he will bribe compassionate women with his miserable appearance and drag them into bed. Are we satisfied with this prospect? Hardly. Therefore, as soon as we hear from a man: "Oh, I'm damned! I'm rolling into the abyss!" - we step aside. Let it roll;

Liar number three. Creative person. This is a man with a burning eye, claiming that he is able to create a brilliant creation. And in fact that it is not yet, the envious are guilty. In fact, the "creative personality" is an ordinary gigolo trying to impress women with its far-fetched exclusivity and catchy appearance. And if professional Alfonso are looking for wealthy ladies, then "unrecognized genius" is suitable for anyone, if only not quite a beggar. He will stay beside her until the wind whistles in her purse;

Liar number four. Incorrigible Lovelace. This is a pretty, energetic representative of the stronger sex, collecting a collection of obedient women until old age. Sex in the life of a man of this type plays a leading role. And the lover, he may not be important. In fact, he does not care who to sleep with - his wife's friends, with friends of friends, with the first counter or former classmate. To the appearance of a partner in intimacy, he is undemanding and in his connections is indistinct. And if the faithful caught him on the hot, unabashedly lies, blaming the blame for his adultery on the supposedly seducing woman;

Liar number five. Puppeteer. Puppeteers are rich, successful, belonging to the elite circle of men. All their appearance, they demonstrate that they are able to provide their woman a beautiful and carefree life. In fact, these are hard-headed, swaggering people who consider the fairer sex to complement their position in society. Initially, they are beautifully courted, covered with expensive gifts, driven to fashionable restaurants, rolled on expensive cars and yachts and so on. Caught in the trap of the puppeteer girl it seems that she was in paradise. However, with time, euphoria disappears. It is worth the puppeteer to make sure that the woman in his hands, as it immediately manifests his true nature. The puppeteer becomes a real despot, constantly humiliating his companion and limiting it in everything. It's very difficult to get away from such a husband, therefore, in order not to tolerate humiliation for years, it is better to immediately break with him.

Undoubtedly, all the above-described “liars” are not at allmonsters. In fact, these are men with serious psychological complexes, asserting themselves at the expense of the female sex. In all likelihood, something can be changed in their character and behavior. However, the essence will remain the same, deceitful! So is it worth wasting your nerves and time on such subchiki? After all, neither one nor the other can be compensated for by anything later. It is better to prepare yourself for a dull existence in advance and give up on everything. And it is even better not to let such types into your life at all and choose someone with whom you will feel warm and calm. We recommend reading: