Childbirth without fear - it's something on the edgescience fiction. That's just the way female psychology works - even girls know that giving birth to a child is painful. As a girl grows up, a whole bunch of different horror stories rain down on her - that relative was never able to give birth on her own, this friend speaks of childbirth as hellish torment. How can you not be afraid! It would seem that this fear is natural and there is nothing to be afraid of - everyone is afraid, but they give birth, and nothing, they remain alive and in most cases completely healthy. However, in reality, everything is not so simple - the fear of childbirth is unnatural and significantly complicates the birth process itself. Fear slows down labor, the woman tenses up, contracts in anticipation of pain. As a result of this tension, the pain becomes even stronger - a vicious circle is formed. But do not despair - it is quite possible to break this vicious circle. Of course, it is best for a future mother who is tormented by fear of the upcoming birth to seek professional help from a psychologist. But if this is not possible, you can do it yourself. And the information below will help you deal with the problem.
Trust nature
Unfortunately, modern societytreats pregnancy as an illness, and childbirth is something akin to a surgical operation. But this is not true at all! First of all, the expectant mother should be well aware of a simple truth - the birth of a child is a real sacrament. How could it be otherwise? After all, a person is the crown of nature's creation. The baby is developing, preparing to be born. And when he is completely ready, he will let the mother's body know about it - the birth process will begin. Moreover, little depends on the woman herself - the child will be born in any case. After all, animals produce offspring without any special problems, although they do not know all the intricacies of the process. And all because they simply obey nature and listen to their body. And women should do exactly the same! Do not be afraid that at one or another stage of labor you will not know what to do - your body will definitely tell you. And experienced doctors will be nearby - if necessary, they will definitely back you up. By the way, speaking of doctors - the idea of trusting nature is often interpreted in a very perverted way: recently, there have been more and more cases where women decide to give birth at home. But we should never do this! Nature is nature, but everything will go smoothly only if both the woman and her child are perfectly healthy - and this is now - a great rarity. Therefore, you should not engage in amateur activities and risk the most precious thing you have - go to a good maternity hospital.
Watch your body react
It has already been mentioned above that during childbirthIt is very important to listen carefully to your body, and not try to fight it! For example, positions - if you want to turn on your side, turn. If you feel more comfortable sitting - sit down, standing - stand, lying upside down - lie down. Of course, listening to the opinion of doctors - in some cases, a woman has to be in a certain position. Such behavior helps to relax the body and, accordingly, the fastest and easiest movement of the baby along the birth canal. Want to sleep? Sleep between contractions - this will give you strength during pushing. Do not worry, you will not sleep through the birth of your baby - when the time comes, your body will activate.
Treat genera, how to work
Although it is very important to trustnature, you can't let the process slide. More precisely, not the process itself, but your psychological attitude. If you treat childbirth as a test or punishment, it will be difficult to control your emotions. Therefore, you must understand that childbirth is, first of all, a very responsible job. Perhaps the most important job in your life. And this is not an exaggeration. In the first half of childbirth, while the cervix is opening - the work is psychological: creating the appropriate mood, overcoming discomfort. Well, and during pushing, there is no need to talk at all - there is already physical work, and not as easy as it may seem at first glance. And you must do this work as best as possible! Concentrate, listen carefully to doctors and midwives, follow all their instructions. If you understand this and tune in accordingly, you simply will not have time to be afraid of childbirth. If you get hard, just remember what the reward for this work will be! We assure you, you will be surprised by the surge of strength that you will feel. There is very little left and your long-awaited child will very soon be in your arms.
Learn to relax
The stress of labor is the worst,what could be. Therefore, it is very important to learn to relax and properly distribute your strength, of which you will need a lot. While the contractions are not very intense, rest. If you want - sleep, if you want - dream about something pleasant, immerse yourself in the best memories. The benefit is double - positive thoughts will displace fear, and strength will be saved for the second stage of labor. And when the contractions become especially strong, it will not hurt to relax, even if it is not easy. Do you feel an approaching contraction? Imagine the pain as a rolling wave. And remember that each contraction brings you closer to the birth of your baby. The more you relax, the easier and faster the labor process will be.
Tune in to help the child
A very good way to ensure that you give birth withoutfear - it is to understand that it is not only you who is having a hard time. You are an adult who understands perfectly well what is happening to you at this or that stage, realizes what is causing the pain and understands that life right now, at this difficult time, is changing for the better. But for your baby, childbirth is not just stress, but the collapse of his whole world. Imagine - he lived in his cozy mother's tummy, heard his mother's heartbeat, he felt good and calm. And then something strange began - the house (uterus) begins to shrink, a force unknown to the baby pulls him away. And what will happen next - is unknown. Well, have you imagined it? That's it, so your baby has it much harder than you. And if the mother experiences severe fear, anxiety and especially panic, it is even harder for the child - after all, doctors have long proven that the mother's psychological state greatly affects the baby. Therefore, calmness is above all. You can count on the help of doctors and obstetricians, loved ones, and your child - only on you. It goes without saying that it is difficult to force yourself to stop being afraid - unfortunately, a button to turn off fear has not yet been invented. But there is a way out. Do you feel that you are very scared? Immediately start talking to the baby - tell him what is happening, promise a quick meeting with mom and dad. Tell the little one in detail how much you love him and how very soon you will all go home together. Of course, the child will not understand what exactly you are telling him. But the sound of your calm, peaceful voice will give the baby confidence that everything is fine. After all, if the center of his universe is his mother - she is calm, then he has nothing to fear. But what if his mother screams in fear? That's the same...
Tune in for a surprise
Of course, confidence in the successful coursechildbirth is half the success. But it is also worth preparing for unexpected turns - childbirth is a very unpredictable phenomenon and it is difficult to predict whether there will be sudden complications. Medical intervention in the natural process of childbirth, up to and including a cesarean section, should in no way be a shock for you, since in a state of shock there is no point in talking about any moral calm. Therefore, try to collect all the necessary information about a cesarean section in advance - this will help you not to get confused if you suddenly encounter complications. Of course, you can hope that the doctors will explain everything to you as you go, but in practice, as a rule, there is not enough time for this. Therefore, ask your gynecologist to tell you in advance about what happens during a cesarean section.
Find your doctor
And finally, the most important condition for childbirthwithout pain and fear became a reality - it is to choose a doctor whom you can trust completely, as yourself. And it is best if this is the doctor who observed you during pregnancy. Firstly, such a doctor knows exactly about the characteristics of your body and the course of pregnancy, and therefore knows what to expect. Secondly, you are sure that the doctor is competent and sensitive, which means you will not worry unnecessarily. Most often, expectant parents go two ways - they agree in advance with the doctor directly at the maternity hospital and conclude a paid contract with the clinic for pregnancy and childbirth. Both options are valid - choose the one that is more convenient for you personally. As a rule, a personal agreement is cheaper, but the same doctors do not always work in the antenatal clinic and the maternity hospital. This means that the same doctor who supervised your pregnancy will not deliver your baby. But the cost of such a birth will be several times less than the cost of an official contract. True, the demand from the doctor is much less - after all, you will not be able to prove anything officially. However, in fairness, it should be noted that even when concluding a contract, no one is insured against surprises - labor may begin unexpectedly and your doctor will not have time to get there, or the doctor may get sick, after all, he is also a person. But in any case, there is no need to worry.
Do not take everything seriously
Unfortunately, very often the fear ofchildbirth is formed artificially. Therefore, try to avoid unnecessary negativity. Firstly, try to avoid conversations with friends who have already given birth and numerous aunts - in most cases, they do not bring anything but negative information. Avoiding such conversations is not easy - learn to firmly say that you do not intend to discuss this topic. In addition, do not get carried away with various literature on pregnancy, especially foreign publications - as a rule, such books are 80% descriptions of various pregnancy pathologies and complications during childbirth. Well, why do you need such information? Of course, this does not mean that you should remain completely ignorant, but watch what you read.
Pronounce
But if you want to talk, don’t...Don't be shy. The child's father, mother, best friend - any close person you trust can become your interlocutor. And, of course, this person should support you in every possible way, and not frighten you. As a last resort, if there is no such person in your circle, and you categorically do not want to go to a psychologist, write a letter. Yes, yes, the most ordinary letter to yourself. Describe in detail what scares you - why, what exactly you are afraid of, how you see this situation. And then just burn the paper - you will see how much easier it is for you. Although some women who have tried this advice on themselves admit that they did not burn the letter, but simply put it aside. And after giving birth, having reread it, they discovered with great surprise that in fact, childbirth was not as scary as it seemed during pregnancy. Do you know why? Because there was no expected pain! Because there was no fear and tension. You still don't believe that childbirth without fear and pain is not fiction, but reality? And you try to follow all the above tips, even if you are skeptical. Believe me - it won't make things worse, and it won't require much effort from you. But a positive result is very likely. And yes, one more small but very important nuance - then share your experience with your friends who are expecting a child. Perhaps it will help another woman become a happy mother, without experiencing animal fear and panic pain. After all, a birthday, even the very first one, is a holiday! Which should not be overshadowed by anything.
