Childbirth without fear is something on the verge of a scientificfiction. So there is a woman's psychology - even girls know that it's painful to give birth to a child. As she grows up, a whole heap of various horrors is poured onto the girl - that relative could not give birth alone, this girlfriend speaks of childbirth as a torment of hell. How can you not be afraid! It would seem that this fear is natural and there is nothing terrible - everyone is afraid, but giving birth, and nothing, remain alive and in most cases perfectly healthy. However, in reality, everything is not so simple - the fear of childbirth is unnatural and greatly complicates the process itself. Fear slows the birth activity, the woman strains, shrinks in anticipation of pain. As a result of this tension, the pain becomes even stronger - a vicious circle is obtained. But do not despair - to break this vicious circle is quite possible. Of course, the future mother, who is tormented by the fear of the upcoming birth, it is best to seek professional help from a psychologist. But if there is no such possibility, you can do it on your own. And to understand the problem the following information will help you.
To great regret, modern societyrefers to pregnancy as a disease, and childbirth is something akin to a surgical operation. But this is not so! First and foremost, the expectant mother should well realize the simple truth - the birth of a child is a real sacrament. How else? After all, man is the crown of the creation of nature. The baby is developing, preparing to be born. And when he is completely ready, he will let the mother's organism know about it - the generic process will begin. And from the woman itself that little depends - the child will be born in any case. After all, animals produce offspring without any problems, although they do not know all the subtleties of the process. And all because they simply obey nature and listen to their body. And women should do the same! Do not be afraid that at one or another stage of delivery you will not know what to do - your body will tell you promptly. Yes, and experienced doctors will be there - if necessary, they will necessarily insure you. By the way, about doctors - the idea of trusting nature is often interpreted in a very perverse way: lately there have been more and more cases when women decide to give birth at home. But we must not do this in any case! Nature is nature, but everything will go smoothly only if the woman and her child are perfectly healthy - and this is now very rare. Therefore, do not engage in amateur activities and risk the most expensive that you have - go to a good maternity hospital.
Watch your body react
It has already been said above that during childbirthit is very important to listen carefully to your body, and not try to fight it! For example, positions - if you want to turn on your side, turn around. If you are more comfortable sitting - sit down, stand - stand, lying down your head - lie down. Of course, listening to the opinion of doctors - in some cases, a woman has to be in a certain position. This behavior contributes to the relaxation of the body and, accordingly, the quickest and easiest way to advance the crumbs along the generic paths. Do you want to sleep? Sleep between contractions - this will give you strength during the attempts. Do not worry, the birth of your baby you will not sleep - when the time comes, your body becomes more active.
Treat genera, how to work
Despite the fact that it is very important to trustnature, you can not let the process run its course. More precisely, not the process itself, but its own psychological attitude. If you treat the birth as a test or punishment, it will not be easy to control your emotions. Therefore, you must understand that childbirth is first and foremost a very important job. Perhaps the most important work in your life. And this will not be an exaggeration. In the first half of the birth, while the cervix is being opened, the work is psychological: creating the appropriate mood, overcoming uncomfortable sensations. Well, at the time of the attempt and do not have to talk at all - there is already a physical work, and not so easy as it might seem at first glance. And you must make this work as good as possible! Concentrate, listen carefully to doctors and midwives, follow all their instructions. If you understand and adjust accordingly, you simply will not have time for fear of childbirth. If it becomes hard for you, just remember what a reward will be for this work! We assure you, you will be surprised at the surge of strength that you will feel. It remains quite a bit and your long-awaited child will very soon be on your hands.
Learn to relax
Stress during labor is the worst thing thatmay be. Therefore, it is very important to learn how to relax and properly distribute your forces, which you will need a lot. While the fights are not very intense, rest. Want - sleep, want - dream about something pleasant, immerse yourself in the best memories. The use of double - positive thoughts supersede fear, and forces will be saved for the second stage of labor. And when the bouts become especially strong, it will not hurt to relax, even if it's not easy. Feel the approaching battle? Imagine the pain as a rolling wave. And remember that every fight brings you closer to the appearance of crumbs into the light. The more strongly you relax, the easier and faster will the generic process.
Tune in to help the child
A very good way to provide birth withoutfear is to understand that it is not only you who are in a difficult situation. You are an adult person who perfectly understands what is happening to him at this or that stage, realizes what causes the pain and understands that life right now, at this difficult time, changes for the better. But for your child, birth is not just stress, but the collapse of his entire world. Imagine - he lived in a cozy mother's tummy, heard my mother's heartbeat, he was well and calm. And then something strange began - the house (womb) begins to shrink, the force unknown to the baby draws him away. And what will be further - it is not known. Well, have you imagined? That's the same, so your crumb is much harder than you. And in the event that the mother experiences severe fear, anxiety and even more panic, the child is even harder - because the doctors have long proved that the mother's psychological state is very much affected by the crumbs. Therefore, calmness is above all. You can count on the help of doctors and midwives, close people, and your child - only on yours. Needless to say, it's hard to force yourself to stop being afraid - unfortunately, the buttons for turning off fear have not yet been invented. But there is a way out. Feel that you are very scared? Immediately start talking with the baby - tell him what's going on, promise an early meeting with mom and dad. In the colors tell the youngster how you love it and how very soon you will go home together. Of course, the child will not understand what exactly you tell him. But the sound of your calm, peaceful voice will give crumbs confidence that everything is fine. After all, if the center of his universe - his mother is quiet - then there's nothing to be afraid of. And if my mother screams for fear? That's the same ...
Tune in for a surprise
Of course, the confidence in the successful course of childbirthis half the success. But also to unexpected turns it is also worth preparing - childbirth is a very unpredictable phenomenon and it is difficult to foresee if there will be sudden complications. Medical intervention in the natural process of delivery, up to the cesarean section, in no case should be a shock for you, because in a state of shock, there is no moral calmness. Therefore, in advance, try to collect all the necessary information about Caesarean section - this will help you not get confused, if suddenly you run into complications. Of course, you can hope that doctors explain everything to you on the go, but in practice, as a rule, there is not enough time for this. Therefore, ask your gynecologist beforehand to tell you about what is happening during Caesarean section.
Find your doctor
And, finally, the most important condition is that birth withoutpain and fear have become a reality - it is to choose a doctor you can fully trust as yourself. And it is best that this is the doctor who observed you during pregnancy. First, such a doctor knows exactly about the features of your body and the course of pregnancy, and therefore knows what to expect. Secondly, you are sure that the doctor is literate and sensitive, which means that you will not be worried again. Most often, future parents go in two ways - they agree in advance with the doctor in the maternity home and conclude a paid contract with the clinic for the management of pregnancy and childbirth. Both options have the right to life-choose one that is more convenient for you personally. As a rule, personal accommodation is cheaper, but not always in the women's clinic and maternity home are the same doctors. So, to take birth you will not have the same doctor who led your pregnancy. But the cost of such births will be several times less than the cost of the official contract. True, and the demand from a doctor is much less - because you can not officially prove anything. The truth is, for the sake of justice, it should be noted that when contracting from surprises, no one is insured - births can start unexpectedly and your doctor will not be able to get there, or the doctor can get sick, because he is also a person. But in any case, you should not worry.
Do not take everything seriously
To the great regret, very often the fear ofchildbirth is formed artificially. So try to avoid unnecessary negativity. First, try to avoid talking with already given birth to friends and numerous aunts - in most cases, nothing but negative information, they do not carry. Avoiding such conversations is not easy - learn to firmly say that you do not intend to discuss this topic. In addition, do not get carried away by various literature about pregnancy, especially foreign publications - as a rule, such books by 80% consist of descriptions of various pathologies of pregnancies and complications during childbirth. Well, why do you need this information? Of course, this does not mean that you should remain completely ignorant, but watch what you read.
But if you want to talk, do notfeel free to. The father of the child, mother, best friend - any person you trust can become your interlocutor. And, of course, this person should support you in every possible way, and not frighten. In an extreme case, if there is no such person in your environment, and you do not want to go to the psychologist, write a letter. Yes, yes, the most common letter to myself. Describe in detail what scares you - why, what exactly are you afraid of, how do you see this situation. And then just burn the paper - you'll see how you feel better. Although some women who have tested this advice themselves admit that they did not burn this letter, but simply postponed it. And after the birth, after reading, with great surprise found that in fact the birth was not as terrible as they seemed during pregnancy. Do you know why? Because the expected pain was not! Because there was no fear and tension. Do you still not believe that birth without fear and pain is not fiction, but reality? And you try to follow all the above tips, even if skeptical. Believe me, it will not be worse, and you will not need much effort from you. But a positive result is very likely. And yes, one more small, but very important nuance - share later with your experience with expectant childbirth friends. Perhaps, it will help another woman to become a happy mother, without experiencing animal fear and panic pain. After all, a birthday, even the very first, is a holiday! Which should not be overshadowed by anything.