Sex is an eternal battleground for professionals of allsuits: from psychologists and family consultants to gynecologists and sexologists. Someone advises to do it as often as possible, someone invents new forms of sexual activity, and someone prescribes sexual rest for everyone. However, the truth is that sex in a couple during pregnancy (no matter what form it takes ) is absolutely necessary, otherwise personal relations between future parents deteriorate sharply. Mutual claims, dissatisfaction, quarrels appear, often leading to parting. To avoid this, we asked a sex coach of the well-known network “Training Center Sex. rf "Natalia Romanovskaya to share" life hacks "that will help you get the most out of" pregnant "sex without harm to your health.
First trimester
How to tune. The motto of the first trimester of pregnancy for a woman is “I can, but I don’t want it,” since the future mother’s libido decreases sharply from the moment of conception due to the active production of the hormone progesterone. It is he who interferes with estrogen synthesis and negates sexual desire. Nature has provided a similar mechanism to protect the unborn child from danger; it is not for nothing that progesterone is nicknamed by the people as “homemade hormone”: the higher its level in a woman’s blood, the more she wants to do housekeeping and “twist the nest”. Toxicosis is another inhibiting libido factor. It is very difficult to feel sexual desire if you are constantly nauseous or tormented by pain. But this does not mean at all that the lost interest in intima during this period cannot be restored. To set up for sex you only need the care and attention of a partner. Women in this period more than ever need tenderness and affection, so any stroking, touching, kissing and showing attachment will be exciting. But from extreme sex, joint views of porn and dirty words in the process will have to be abandoned, they will cause only disgust.
Photo: Getty ImagesWhy it is necessary. From the very beginning of pregnancy, the blood supply to the pelvic organs begins to improve, which means that the orgasm becomes brighter and is achieved faster. Therefore, in the absence of contraindications, the first 12 weeks are the best time to have time to realize all your sexual potential. Poses and devices. If the pregnancy is uneventful, then the first trimester is considered the safest and most comfortable for all types of sex and even the use of sex toys. Gadgets are best suited for surface and non-contact effects such as Womanizer's clitoral stimulator or Qvibry miniature flash drive vibrator. It is also important to remember that even in the early stages it is necessary to avoid “knocking” movements, aggressive sex and deep penetration. During pregnancy, the cervix should not be subjected to any mechanical stress at all. Also, those who use intimate muscle training techniques or use special simulators for pumping will have to forget about it for a while, as they can lead to miscarriage.
Second trimester
How to tune. No You are already set on sex, and all the time and as far as possible. It is in the second trimester that estrogen finally seizes power in the body and at the same time returns to the woman not only the desire to have sex, but also a healthy and attractive appearance. In addition, in the second trimester, the blood supply to the genital organs becomes even more intensive, therefore the clitoris becomes very sensitive, and the expectant mother is easily and quickly excited. The second trimester is the best time to have sex, not only because of increased libido, but also because of the normalization of the psychological state. You gradually get used to your position, feeling unwell, anxieties and fears go away, and pregnancy begins to bring positive emotions. Psychological comfort and lack of stress, coupled with hormonal processes give you the opportunity to achieve discharge faster, and the orgasm itself becomes brighter and longer. In addition, sexual arousal and orgasm have a beneficial effect on the child - during a rush of blood to the pelvic organs, the fetus gets more oxygen and nutrients.
Photo: Getty Images Poses and devices. After the 12th week, as a rule, the stomach becomes already quite noticeable, and the woman begins to feel the first movements and shocks of the child. Therefore, you should avoid postures that can cause discomfort to the expectant mother or harm the baby. It is best to use the “classical rider” pose with an amplitude of movement across the horizontal, or the classic “doggie-style” with the support on the knees and elbows or on the knees and palms. Sex gadgets are also appropriate, but preference should be given to toys with a delicate vibration, for example, the already proven We-vibe classic or its pocket “colleague” We-Vibe Touch.
Third trimester
How to tune. From the 28th week for a woman, the period of sexual hibernation begins again. This is due to the increased levels of stress hormones that inhibit libido, as well as poor health. In order to tune in the desired fashion, you need to realize that during this period you may need sex to stimulate childbirth and improve the patency of the birth canal. Also boldly connect the husband to the procedures recommended by the doctor, for example, to massage the perineum, which is prescribed for the prevention of birth gaps. Medical manipulation will definitely grow into a prelude to a love game. Why it is necessary. Firstly, the prostaglandins contained in the sperm help to soften the cervix and improve its detection during childbirth, as well as help stimulate childbirth during repetition. Secondly, during this period, for a woman, correct sex creates a feeling of protection and support from a partner and reduces the risk of post-natal depression. Poses and devices. In this period with classic sex you need to be as cautious as possible so as not to provoke preterm labor. The best and safest posture for this gestational age is the “spoon pose”, when both partners lie on their side and the man is behind, in the manner of a “big spoon”. In this position, a woman subconsciously feels the maximum protection from a man, which positively affects the emotional climate in a couple. Alternative ways to have sex, such as oral or manual stimulation, will help to avoid sexual hunger. There is a huge amount of cool manual and oral techniques that will give a man the illusion of vaginal penetration and help make the third trimester not just a “dry ration”, but the second “honeymoon” for your relationship. I will share some of them that are easy to do on your own, and to perform more complex techniques I advise you to attend specialized training in the art of oral sex or a bright male orgasm. 
A photo: Getty ImagesTechnical Techniques For imitating vaginal sex with the help of a mouth, the technique of “yes-yes-yes” is best. To do this, press the head of the penis into the hard sky, then make a slow nod, allowing the head to rest against the soft sky. Continue to move the head of the penis into the throat and return to the starting position. During the execution of this technique, the man will create a feeling that the penis is touching the vaginal walls. The Bud technique will help to simulate the sexual act with his hands. Weave the fingers in such a way that the palms are at the top. Between the index and middle fingers, free up a small space in order to pass the partner’s member there. Slowly move your hands to the base of the penis, affecting all the erogenous zones. Once you have reached the end, slightly turn the resulting “bud” and slowly go back up to the head.
