Sex is an eternal battlefield for specialists of all kindsof all stripes: from psychologists and family counselors to gynecologists and sexologists. Some advise to do it as often as possible, some invent new forms of sexual activity, and some prescribe sexual rest to everyone. However, the truth is that sex in a couple during pregnancy (no matter what form it takes) is absolutely necessary, otherwise the personal relationship between the future parents deteriorates sharply. Mutual claims, dissatisfaction, quarrels appear, often leading to separation. To avoid this, we asked sex coach of the famous network "Training Center Sex.rf" Natalia Romanovskaya to share "life hacks" that will help you get the most pleasure from "pregnant" sex without harm to your health.
First trimester
How to tune in.The motto of the first trimester of pregnancy for a woman is “I can, but I don’t want to”, since the libido of the expectant mother sharply decreases from the moment of conception due to the active production of the hormone progesterone. It is this hormone that interferes with the synthesis of estrogen and reduces sexual desire to nothing. Nature has provided such a mechanism to protect the future child from danger, it is not for nothing that progesterone is popularly called the “homebody hormone”: the higher its level in a woman’s blood, the more she wants to do housework and “make a nest”. Another factor that suppresses libido is toxicosis. It is very difficult to feel sexual desire if you are constantly nauseous or suffer from pain. But this does not mean at all that the lost interest in intimacy during this period cannot be restored. To tune in to sex, you only need the care and attention of your partner. Women during this period need tenderness and affection more than ever, so any stroking, touching, kissing and demonstration of affection will excite. But you will have to give up extreme sex, watching porn together and using dirty words during the process, they will only cause disgust.
Photo: Getty ImagesWhy it's necessary.From the very beginning of pregnancy, the blood supply to the pelvic organs begins to improve, which means that orgasm becomes brighter and is achieved faster. Therefore, in the absence of contraindications, the first 12 weeks are the best time to realize your full sexual potential. Positions and devices. If pregnancy proceeds without complications, the first trimester is considered the safest and most comfortable for all types of intimacy and even the use of sex toys. Gadgets for superficial and contactless action, such as the Womanizer clitoral stimulator or the miniature Qvibry flash drive vibrator, are best suited. It is also important to remember that even in the early stages, it is necessary to avoid “hammering” movements, aggressive sex and deep penetration. During pregnancy, the cervix should not be exposed to any mechanical effects at all. Also, those who use intimate muscle training techniques or use special exercise machines to pump them up will have to forget about it for a while, as they can lead to a miscarriage.
Second trimester
How to tune in? No way.You are already in the mood for sex, constantly and as much as possible. It is in the second trimester that estrogen finally takes over the body and at the same time returns to the woman not only the desire to have sex, but also a healthy and attractive appearance. In addition, in the second trimester, the blood supply to the genitals becomes even more intense, so the clitoris becomes very sensitive, and the expectant mother gets aroused easily and quickly. Why is it necessary. The second trimester is the best time to have sex not only because of the increased libido, but also because of the normalization of the psychological state. You gradually get used to your position, poor health, anxiety and fears go away, and pregnancy begins to bring positive emotions. Psychological comfort and the absence of stress, coupled with hormonal processes, give you the opportunity to achieve discharge faster, and the orgasm itself becomes brighter and longer. In addition, sexual arousal and orgasm have a beneficial effect on the child - during the rush of blood to the pelvic organs, the fetus receives more oxygen and nutrients.
Photo: Getty Images Poses and devices. After the 12th week, as a rule, the stomach becomes already quite noticeable, and the woman begins to feel the first movements and shocks of the child. Therefore, you should avoid postures that can cause discomfort to the expectant mother or harm the baby. It is best to use the “classical rider” pose with an amplitude of movement across the horizontal, or the classic “doggie-style” with the support on the knees and elbows or on the knees and palms. Sex gadgets are also appropriate, but preference should be given to toys with a delicate vibration, for example, the already proven We-vibe classic or its pocket “colleague” We-Vibe Touch.
Third trimester
How to tune in.From the 28th week, a woman begins a period of sexual "hibernation" again. This is due to an increased level of stress hormones that suppress libido, as well as poor health. To get into the right mood, you need to realize that during this period you may need sex to stimulate labor and improve the patency of the birth canal. Also, feel free to involve your husband in the procedures recommended by the doctor, for example, perineal massage, which is prescribed to prevent birth ruptures. Medical manipulation will certainly develop into a prelude to love play. Why is it necessary. Firstly, prostaglandins contained in sperm help soften the cervix and improve its opening during labor, and also help stimulate labor in case of post-term pregnancy. Secondly, during this period, proper sex creates a feeling of protection and support from the partner for a woman and reduces the risk of postpartum depression. Positions and devices. During this period, you need to be extremely careful with classic sex so as not to provoke premature labor. The best and safest position for this period of pregnancy is the "spoon position", when both partners lie on their sides, and the man is behind, like a "big spoon". In this position, the woman subconsciously feels maximum protection from the man, which has a positive effect on the emotional climate in the couple. Alternative methods of having sex, such as oral or manual stimulation, will help to avoid sexual "starvation" during this period. There are a huge number of cool manual and oral techniques that will give the man the illusion of vaginal penetration and help make the third trimester not just a "dry ration", but a second "honeymoon" for your relationship. I will share some of them, which are easy to do on your own, and to perform more complex techniques, I advise you to attend a specialized training in the art of oral sex or a bright male orgasm.
A photo: Getty ImagesTechnical Techniques For imitating vaginal sex with the help of a mouth, the technique of “yes-yes-yes” is best. To do this, press the head of the penis into the hard sky, then make a slow nod, allowing the head to rest against the soft sky. Continue to move the head of the penis into the throat and return to the starting position. During the execution of this technique, the man will create a feeling that the penis is touching the vaginal walls. The Bud technique will help to simulate the sexual act with his hands. Weave the fingers in such a way that the palms are at the top. Between the index and middle fingers, free up a small space in order to pass the partner’s member there. Slowly move your hands to the base of the penis, affecting all the erogenous zones. Once you have reached the end, slightly turn the resulting “bud” and slowly go back up to the head.
