Anything that remotely can be considered girlyprohibited: dance lessons, playing with dolls, increased emotionality and empathy. Then how can we demand from men those traits that we do not allow to develop in childhood, raises the question of a study published on. Society in general does not encourage sensitivity and caring in boys, although they are as natural for most as they are for girls. ... Boys are living beings with ordinary feelings: they will cry if they are in pain or their heart is broken, until they are told that "they are not behaving like a man." We do this for them because we’re afraid they’ll be offended if they step out of traditional masculinity, but what’s the use if we don’t give them the chance they deserve to grow up as the versatile people they deserve? Maybe traditional masculinity should be rethought so that society broadens its definition to include pleasant, calm, caring men?Photo: iStock / Gettyimages.Common crawl en We spend our time raising men from the breadwinners. Leadership and business skills are important for us, which is normal if they do not exclude everything else that they could learn. We forget or simply ignore the fact that in addition to employees and superiors, they will also be husbands and fathers. They will spend no less time on interpersonal relationships than on negotiating contracts, but we prepare them for one and not for another. They are ready to make a career, but their emotional growth is artificially slowed down, and then we wonder why our men cannot be a bit nobler and more attentive. In our culture, boys are told that feminine qualities are weakness, and then they expect the man to relate to women as equals. We harm our sons and our daughters, future women, who will have to bear the consequences of our parenting mistakes. We read smart books to our children and download applications to their iPhones so that they have an advantage when they go to school. We are obliged to give our sons the same advantage if we want them to have the qualities of the best boyfriends, husbands and fathers, and not to crush these qualities at the very beginning, hoping that they will develop themselves halfway through. We do not just grow labor force. We raise human children who will once become adults, with all the corresponding difficulties and responsibilities.

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