Anything that can be quite remotely girly,prohibited: dance lessons, games with puppets, increased emotionality and empathy. Then how can we demand from men those traits that we do not allow to develop in childhood, the question published on the study raises. The society as a whole does not encourage sensitivity and ability to care in boys, although for most they are just as natural as girls . Boys are living beings with ordinary feelings: they will cry if they are hurt or their hearts are broken until they are told that "they do not behave like men." We do this for them, because we are afraid that they will be offended if they go beyond the norms of traditional masculinity. But what is the use if you don't give them a chance to grow up with the versatile people they deserve? Maybe we should rethink the traditional masculinity, so that society would expand its definition and include nice, calm, caring men?Photo: iStock/Gettyimages.ru We spend our time training men to be breadwinners. We emphasize leadership and business skills, which is fine as long as they don’t exclude everything else they could learn. We forget or simply ignore the fact that in addition to being employees and bosses, they will also be husbands and fathers. They will spend as much time on interpersonal relationships as they do negotiating contracts, but we prepare them for one and not the other. They are career-ready, but their emotional growth is artificially stunted, and then we wonder why our men can’t be a little more generous and considerate. Our culture teaches boys that femininity is weakness, and then expects men to treat women as equals. We harm our sons and our daughters, the future women who will have to bear the consequences of our parenting mistakes. We read smart books to our children and download apps to their iPhones so they have an advantage when they go to school. We owe it to our sons to have the same advantage if we want them to have the qualities of the best boyfriends, husbands, and fathers, rather than squashing those qualities at the start and hoping they'll develop on their own halfway through. We're not just raising a workforce. We're raising human children who will one day become adults, with all the complexities and responsibilities that entails.