For most women, marriage and childbirthChildren are an indispensable condition of life. We are prepared for it almost from early childhood, instilling in us that the task of the weaker sex is to find a worthy life partner and create a strong family with him. Therefore, many young ladies, having barely crossed the threshold of childhood, begin to dream of a wedding. But representatives of the stronger sex almost never dream of it. Well, of course, there are those who dream and see themselves married ... But mostly our guys dream of something completely different. And they are not very eager to exchange their freedom for the yoke of family life. But they do change! And they change (strange thing), at least for a short time, almost everything. Here's an interesting thing: why do men get married?

How guys treat marriage

How do guys feel about marriage?To our great disappointment, not at all like us. For men, starting a family is not a vital act. Even when falling head over heels in love with a girl, young men, with rare exceptions, do not instantly become consumed with the desire to take her to the registry office. They can incessantly tell the young lady about their love, shower her with flowers and gifts, but not even think about marriage. Such is the disappointing truth for us. However, there is no need to be especially upset. Men usually do not rush to propose to the woman they love, because they tend to plan their lives logically. They tend to act not impulsively, but in accordance with pre-planned plans. And here was a guy, living, having temporary girlfriends, gradually moving towards some goal. And suddenly - bam, he fell in love! There is complete chaos and euphoria in his head. And what to do next, he definitely does not know. And, in fact, he does not really bother. The main thing at this point in time is to see your beloved, touch her, and say sweet words. And then come what may! In order for a young man to think about marriage, he needs to come to his senses and think everything through. After all, unexpected love and marriage were not yet part of his plans. Therefore, before starting a family, it is necessary to re-plan your future and include starting a family there. And for this, you need to think sensibly and judiciously. Otherwise, you will fall headlong into love. It won’t take long to drown! In a word, most guys confidently walk to the registry office only after carefully considering their actions. Unless, of course, some inexorable circumstances from outside have pushed them to it. It must be said that the process of thinking can take a long time for some representatives of the stronger sex. And if we really want to marry this slow-witted guy, we will have to be patient and wait. Let him consider the possibility of marriage from the right, from the left, from below, from above, from the side... Let him taste it, estimate the price, weigh it and come to some decision. While waiting for this decision, we should take into account that it may not be in our favor. Because, firstly, when thinking, the guy soberly examines the girl from all sides. And he sees what he did not notice before, through the prism of love. It is quite possible that he will not like it. Well, and secondly, men do not always marry for love. They manage to get married for a variety of reasons.

The reasons why men marry

As unpleasant as it is to admit,a significant part of the strong half of humanity does not consider love a weighty reason for marriage. It is comforting that quite a lot of our men agree to let themselves be ringed only by their beloved woman. In general, they decide to visit the registry office because:

Looking for harmony in the sexual sphere. And it concerns not only those who have not enough sex in a free life, but also those who have a lot of it. The first want a regular intima, the latter intend to have a little rest from it. Someone registers a marriage with a girl who, before the wedding, did not consent to any intimacy. And someone, realizing that he is already fed up with this intimacy, creates a family or with a woman who is fed up with short-term relationships, or with that which relates to cool sex. Frankly, in this case, men often regret their actions. Because marriage often does not justify their expectations;

I need a mistress in the house. This reason for marriage, although old, as the world, but still too relevant. Yes, today the shops are packed with fast food. Yes, modern household appliances greatly facilitate the washing and cleaning processes. However, many bachelors of the devil bother to warm up their food in the microwave and independently include a washing machine and a vacuum cleaner. So they begin to search hard for the one who will happily do it. And a woman is usually selected according to two parameters: the economy and the size of the bust. Her interests and character are not taken into account;

Afraid to lose a woman and stay alone. Strictly speaking, this reason for marriage is analogous to marrying for love. Such a marriage seems to be a man, as mutual obligations and concern for each other. But the attachment here is also intertwined with the fear of being useless to anyone. And it is possible that a woman who knows about him will eventually manipulate her own half;

The girl suddenly became pregnant. A fairly common reason for marriage, which promises to be quite strong. Why? Because if the guy took responsibility for the future child, then he has a serious attitude towards the family and his wife. And if a girl appreciates this, a married couple has all chances to become one;

All my friends have already gotten married and had children.This is the most banal and uninteresting reason for starting a family. Well, that's how it should be, and that's it! For such a marriage, representatives of the stronger sex choose any woman. By and large, they do not need either a wife or future children. The main thing is that the life scenario corresponds to the format of stereotypes. Everyone is married - and I am married! Everyone has become fathers - and I have become one! By the way, such a marriage is one of the answers to the question of why men marry ugly women. Because they do not care whether their spouse is attractive or not! After all, feelings for her were not initially expected. If they appear during life side by side - good. If they do not appear - that will do;

You need money, promotion on the career ladder,citizenship and so on. Yes, yes, our representatives of the stronger sex marry at least as much as the representatives of the weak half of humanity. And maybe even more often. Since men, as we have already said, are predisposed to a thorough analysis of their actions and a preliminary assessment of their safety and benefits. And if both are doubtful, then some individuals may refuse marriage even with a very desirable woman. Fortunately for us, this does not apply to all bachelors. But nevertheless, there is a place to be. Why do men love some, and marry others, and not so rare? Because they understand that marriage with a loved one will force them to give up some kind of benefits and goals. And not everyone is capable of such sacrifices;

Inferior to the desire of a woman. The young man is simply bored by the unambiguous hints of the girl's parents and friends about the wedding and her harassment with the question: "When will we go to file an application?". In the end, waving to the best of his ability and daring courage, he stepped over the threshold of the Palace of Marriages. Think, marriage! Where our did not disappear! In the future, "our" may well not be lost. Or maybe, frightened of responsibility and domestic problems, and how to fall through the earth;

They want to have children. Just a wonderful reason for getting married. For such a marriage, a guy, as a rule, chooses a girl to whom the soul lies. After all, a man who wants to have a child intends to make his life happy. He perfectly understands that this is possible only if there is respect and mutual understanding between the parents. And he chooses for marriage exactly the one with which respect and mutual understanding seem achievable without much difficulty;

They strive to bring something new into their lives. In this case, the man realizes that he has reached a period of stagnation. In order to move forward, a powerful stimulus is needed. Such an incentive is marriage. Of course, getting married in this case is not the first counter. To create a family choose the one whose acquaintance has already lasted more than one month;

Inferior to the wishes of their parents. It happens that my mother really wants to see her grandchildren and sees every girl's girlfriend as her potential daughter-in-law. In the end, the young man is bored with biased interrogations about the relationship with the girl, talking about how long it is not to be alone and how you want to understand your grandchildren. And he agrees to marry a young lady, who more or less corresponds to the role of the future wife;

They need a caring mother. Such representatives of the stronger sex from childhood spoiled, aunts, protected from all problems. Pampered, infantile, they simply can not organize their lives without the help of a woman, even in small things. And, left alone, immediately rush to look for a nanny, ready to patronize her husband and solve all domestic issues on their own. As soon as the one who agrees to take matters into her own hands, she is immediately taken to the registry office;

They want to make a career. No, this is not a marriage by calculation. Many young people are convinced that a family man has a much better chance of achieving a successful career advancement. The bosses tend to trust the married man more, since he thinks that he is more responsible and organized than the bachelor. Say, men who have a family, do not sit up in the morning in bars and nightclubs and do not go into drinking, when the service is in trouble. That's what those for whom the career is the goal of life seek, as soon as possible, to acquire a wife and children. This allows you to look more solid, and do not waste precious time on temporary sexual partners.

And men also marry out of curiosity, wantingfind out what marriage is, in order to look more presentable next to a wife with a high social status, in order to have a "vest" nearby... In a word, the stronger half has plenty of reasons for marriage. That's it, our dear women! The stronger sex has outdone us in this matter! What does the beautiful half of humanity need? She needs love and security. Everything else will follow. No, a girl, of course, can marry an unloved man - we are not angels either. But if she is not a complete mercantile bitch, she will still yearn for love later. Of course, there are many representatives of the stronger sex who also dream of it. And not only dream, but also find a loved one who reciprocates. Oh, how happy the couple is then! It would seem that the logical end of such relationships is marriage. Alas... They do not end in a wedding so often. And the man, in the end, marries a completely different woman. And the reason for marriage is one of the above points. But for a romantic at heart, this is nonsense! And for the one with whom there was love, it is a disaster. What are the reasons for such a situation and is it possible to somehow prevent it? Perhaps, yes. And in many ways it depends on us, women.

Why do men sometimes not marry their beloved woman?

Sometimes it happens that we have been together for a long timeвстречаемся с любимым мужчиной, и всё вроде хорошо, но он почему-то не делает предложение. И даже не намекает на присутствие таких планов. И в то же время, ведёт себя, как по уши влюблённый человек. Ситуация получается двоякая. Вроде бы спутник жизни – вот он, готовый примчаться по первому зову и помочь решить любую проблему. И вроде бы его и нет. Потому что нет чувства надёжности будущего, которое появляется при ясной перспективе оформления отношений. И мы просто не понимаем, как быть дальше. Нет, ну как же хорошо было женщинам раньше! Мужчины сами искали свою избранницу и добивались её руки. А сейчас найдёшь того, с кем хотелось бы создать семью, встречаешься с ним, встречаешься, а предложения никак не дождёшься. И что тогда приходит в голову? Вероятно, он ждёт, когда подвернётся более подходящая партия, и пудрит нам мозги. Но ведь ведёт-то себя, как безгранично любящий человек! А нам так хочется выйти замуж за любимого, отвечающего полной взаимностью… Быть может, кавалер медлит из каких-то других соображений? А из каких? Как узнать, если он молчит? Собственно, молчать молодой человек может по разным причинам. То, что он надеется найти более подходящую партию — конечно, допустимо. Но в это мало верится. Ну, зачем парню тратить время, долго встречаясь с той, кого он не видит в будущем своей женой? Да ещё и заботиться о ней, и помогать решать проблемы, и демонстрировать любовь! Он меркантилен и талантливо играет роль влюблённого в ту, которая в чём-то соответствует его интересам? Ну, обычно в этих случаях с предложением не тянут. Хотя всякое бывает, конечно. Но если такой тип нас просто умело обрабатывает, не испытывая никаких чувств, лучше будет, если он отправится восвояси. Манипулировать ради собственного блага искренне любящей женщиной могут только подлецы. Оставим подлецов в покое. Нарвутся и подобные субчики на даму, которая будет вертеть ими, как заблагорассудится. А мы лучше подумаем о том, почему не зовут девушку в ЗАГС тогда, когда её действительно любят. Зачастую причиной такого поведения парня является его нерешительность. Нынешние девушки предпочитают быть похожими на амазонок, напоминающих больше боевых подруг, нежели на нуждающихся в защите спутниц жизни. Мы стали более инициативными и активными. Такое поведение подавляет мужскую суть в представителях сильного пола и заставляет мужчин закрываться в себе. Стоит ли говорить, что в подобном состоянии молодой человек вряд ли рискнёт сделать первый шаг и будет упорно настаивать на том, чтобы оформить отношения с девушкой-амазонкой? Скорее всего, он будет ждать, когда проявит предприимчивость барышня. Барышня же, убежденная, что делать предложение – мужская прерогатива, надеется в этом вопросе на любимого. И что происходит? А происходит то, что никто из них и не заговаривает о путешествии в ЗАГС. Время идёт, воз не двигается с места, отношения становятся всё напряжённей, а затем и вовсе разваливаются. Печальный финал, не правда ли? Но ведь он мог и не случиться! Стоило девушке стать более женственной и позволить раскрыться мужественности своего избранника. Тогда молодой человек почувствовал бы себя ведущим, а не ведомым. И взял ответственность за судьбу отношений на себя. Для того, чтобы иметь рядом любимого и надёжного мужчину, не стоит угнетать его природную суть постоянным проявлением своей независимости и силы. Да, современные женщины способны справиться со многими проблемами самостоятельно. Но зачем же открыто это демонстрировать-то? Пусть избранник считает, что мы нуждаемся в его инициативе и покровительстве. Именно такая позиция мужчины наиболее выгодна для создания с ним вполне благополучной семьи. В противном случае мы обречены или на браки с инертными и безответственными людьми, или на одиночество. Так проявим же в себе истинную женщину! Ну, что нам стоит? Советуем почитать:

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