How to deal with complexes?

We are true professionals in the fight against excess weightweight, naughty children, insidious employees, but at the same time we do not know how to deal with complexes. But they are the ones that poison our lives more than old jeans that we cannot fit into. It is complexes that quietly comment on your every step: “you are fat”, “you are a bad mother”, “your report is no good”. Moreover, in women this voice sounds louder, more often, more demanding. Our emotionality and impressionability are to blame. Do you know what complexes are? They are a reflection of your personality. The one you were many years ago. We begin to cultivate all the self-loathing (and there is no other way to call complexes) in ourselves when we are very small. Did your parents call you a blockhead? They are probably right. Did the teacher say that I would hardly get an excellent grade on the test? That is exactly what happened. We do not fight complexes because we do not yet suspect their existence.

Children's complexes

But more than anyone else, we scourged ourselves.Remember how you, still a schoolgirl, stood on the running track. You need to overtake your rival. And next to you, no more no less, is lanky Rita. Naturally, she will overtake you. And you are already incredibly ashamed of the future loss. In less than a minute that you stood at the start, your head and stomach began to hurt. You no longer care about the marathon. And you lose. Classmates congratulate Rita, and you think that everyone around you has turned away from you. Needless to say, from now on you will begin to dislike physical education classes, Rita and ... yourself, mainly. You grew, and along with you, your complexes grew. Let's look at the main ones, and at the same time talk about methods of dealing with our internal enemies. So, female complexes: how to fight, how to treat and how to perceive the attempt of your subconscious to convince you that you are worse than you really are? We begin to feel our first dissatisfaction with ourselves when we look in the mirror. Our hair is wrong, our nose is long, our legs are short. And the most beautiful girl in the class, as luck would have it, is the complete opposite of you. Has this ever happened? Or maybe your growing daughter is suffering from this complex now? What should we do, how can we help her? First, find a celebrity that your daughter looks like. Then start admiring her, describing all the advantages of her character and appearance. Hang a poster of the star in a prominent place and wait for the results. Surely, everyone who comes into your house will notice the resemblance of the celebrity to your daughter. You, too, try to emphasize this. And after some time, the teenager’s self-esteem will inexorably creep up. Of course! She looks like such a movie actress!

Adult complexes

Next, let's move on to what you might encounter.at a more mature age. For example, the "old maid" complex. One of the most insidious and destructive mechanisms of our subconscious. Imagine that all your friends got married a long time ago, and you still haven't started a family. And the longer you stay single, the more complex you begin to feel. "Nobody needs me. I'm worse than everyone else." In fact, your bar of requirements for candidates is slightly higher than your friends'. Think about it: could you marry any of the husbands of your friends? One's husband drinks. The second one periodically raises his hand against her. The third one doesn't work. So why rush to get married? To show off in a wedding dress for two hours, and then walk around with bruises for the rest of your life? You don't want such a fate for yourself, do you? So stop tormenting yourself and enjoy such long-awaited freedom. No, we are not trying to dissuade you from family life. You just don’t need to rush into the arms of the first person you meet just because all your friends have tried on a veil, but you haven’t. The older a woman is, the more mature her complexes become. For example, at 40, almost every representative of the fair sex notices that she is already getting old. Psychologists call this phenomenon the “closed door” complex. Some people take this news calmly. And some start trying to turn back time with the help of plastic surgeries, expensive cosmetic procedures, and young lovers. How can you learn to fight complexes if the mirror stubbornly shows wrinkles and gray temples? Learn to accept your age. Find advantages in it. For example, your children have already grown up, and you can safely spend the night at your friend’s. Or: over so many years you have made a career, and you are deservedly appreciated at work. The next complex comes to a woman after a series of unsuccessful attempts to improve her personal life. And although it is beautifully called the “Cleopatra complex”, it still remains the same. The behavior of a woman during this period cannot be called attractive. She begins to hate all men, believing that they are all created only to drink, walk and throw dirty socks around the apartment. Do you think this woman will be able to find her soulmate? Unlikely. At the same time, she herself does not know how to deal with the complexes of misandry. To begin with, you need to find the reason for your hatred of men. Perhaps someone offended you many years ago? Try to analyze the reason for this conflict. Maybe you were too young for marriage? Or did your husband, having left you once, simply make a mistake and now regrets it? Forgive your offenders. And do it sincerely. After this, you can allow yourself to build new relationships. But you must do this without looking back at the past. After all, the new chosen one has nothing in common with the old sins of your ex-men. Finally, we will reveal to you the most important and universal weapon for fighting complexes: self-love. If you love yourself, no complexes will be scary to you!