Customs at feast
The 20th wedding anniversary is called porcelainfor good reason. As beautiful as porcelain from skilled ancient masters, so beautiful is the union of two hearts. As fragile as this material is, so is family happiness, and only careful handling can preserve it for many years intact and unharmed. Usually, twenty years of marriage are celebrated in the family circle. Only the closest relatives and friends are invited. The main dish should be something simple, symbolizing family comfort. This can be baked poultry or pork. It is good if this is the family's signature dish, served on the table for many years. However, it should not be something exotic or newfangled. Due to the fact that the tradition has Eastern roots, it is good to serve at least one national dish of the Eastern countries. However, it should not dominate, but only shade the usual traditional food, since the holiday itself is intended to demonstrate stability and continuity of generations. The main table tradition of the 20th anniversary is tea drinking. Therefore, the rightful ruler of the table on this day is baked goods. All kinds of buns, gingerbread, pretzels, pies, pancakes with or without filling. It is important that they are baked not by the heroes of the occasion, but by their children, as a sign of commitment to tradition. The table is set exclusively with new china. It is good if the place of honor is occupied by dishes given by parents or children. This custom is connected with the fact that in 20 years of a happy life together, all the china should have been broken, because dishes break for happiness. Therefore, it is customary to renew the dishes as a sign that the past (even if happy) is behind, and there is much that is new and bright ahead.
Current trends
Despite the fact that the 20th wedding anniversaryUsually it is customary to celebrate in a narrow circle, recently a new trend has emerged - to celebrate with all the breadth of the Russian soul. And it is not surprising, because now not every family is able to hold out for so long. Therefore, such a happy achievement is simply impossible to hide from people. In addition, over the years, the family has managed to acquire both close relatives, whose children have grown up and, perhaps, already married, and many friends. It is a sin not to invite them to the celebration. Now it is not uncommon for wedding anniversaries, including porcelain ones, to be celebrated in a cafe or restaurant among many people. The symbolic meaning of this is to set an example and encourage others to preserve the family for just as long, building their happiness painstakingly, working on it every day. The color of a porcelain wedding is white. It is good if the guests use at least some detail of this color in their attire. This is the color of purity, fidelity and sincerity. On this day, it serves not only as a symbol, but also as a kind of talisman that brings goodness to the family. You can warn your guests in advance about the desired color scheme of the outfit, or you can do it easier. Since someone may not have a white festive outfit, buy some accessory yourself, for example, a white ribbon, and hand it out to all the guests at the entrance. You should also dress completely, or at least partially, in white. Decorate the hall with festive balloons and garlands with a predominance of white. You can stock up on firecrackers and hand them out to guests to "blow up" during toasts. This will add a festive mood to all the guests. Regardless of where and how you decide to celebrate your 20th wedding anniversary, genuine, wild joy should fill your home. To do this, you may want to think through the program of the event with dancing and competitions in advance. If you are invited to a porcelain wedding, be sure to prepare several interesting and solemn toasts. On this day, toasts should be said much more often than on any other. Like any wedding, a porcelain wedding has its own customs and rituals. The hosts of the house must put a lot of coins in a porcelain vessel. When the guests arrive, each of them will take a coin. In this way, the generosity of the family will multiply and return a hundredfold. The spouses must find the oldest porcelain cups in the house and, in the presence of all the guests, drink from them and smash them on the ground. One of the guests must immediately give two new cups so that all the bad will go away with the old ones, and happiness in the house will always be new.
What should I give you, my dear man?
It is customary to give porcelain (dishes, vases,souvenirs, dolls), kitchen utensils or something oriental. For example, you can present the so-called "bamboo of happiness". In fact, this plant is not bamboo at all, but dracaena sanderiana. According to Feng Shui, this plant brings happiness to where it grows. Nowadays, everyone strives to give a useful and necessary gift. To observe the tradition, you can attach a small souvenir to it, for example, a Chinese cat of happiness. You can also give a money tree, both a plant and a souvenir. If it is in a clay pot, you will kill several birds with one stone with your gift. The fact is that in ancient times it was customary to give clay crafts made by hand for the 20th wedding anniversary. Today, this tradition has been partially preserved. Therefore, it is quite acceptable to replace porcelain gifts with clay ones. On their anniversary, spouses should also give each other gifts. If it is customary to give expensive gifts for important dates in the family, then you can attach a small souvenir to them, for example, a medal for your husband "for 20 years of happiness" in a porcelain mug. You can present your wife with jewelry in a porcelain box. In this way, both folk and family traditions will be observed. If, on the contrary, it is customary for spouses to exchange memorable souvenirs, porcelain cups and saucers with photographs of each other or the whole family will come in handy. Only white flowers are given on this day. Parents can give their children a tea set with a box of chocolates for tea to sweeten their lives, or a porcelain saucer with an image of a city that played a significant role in the lives of the spouses. For example, the city where they were born or where they met. Perhaps there is a city with which they both have unforgettable impressions. Children, along with a porcelain dish on which there is baked goods they have prepared, can give their parents an album with their favorite photographs, or make a photo collage. It is important not only to observe all the customs that promise peace and longevity to the family, but also to be joyful and cheerful on this day, mentally thanking life for the fact that it passed next to this person, and then happiness will remain with you forever.
