For the second week, the whole country is discussing a horrible,the bloody and shocking story of the Khabarovsk Slayunders. In short, adolescent girls picked up puppies and cats, promising to put them in good hands. And cruelly killed defenseless animals, filming the whole process on camera. It is impossible to look at these pictures without tears and horror. And the girls, quite prosperous at first glance, became real executioners. We tried to figure out why this happened, together with the expert.
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Where does the problem come from?
— Everything that is in children, good or bad,starts from the family. We need to figure out what kind of families these girls have, - answers the question the forensic psychiatrist, doctor of medical sciences and professor of psychiatry Mikhail Vinogradov. One of the girls has a family that looks quite prosperous. Her mother works in law enforcement. Her father is a military man. They probably both have a lot of work. They are probably both supporters of strict discipline. And the second torturer is being raised by her grandmother. Her mother was deprived of parental rights. There is no father. - Here is your answer. Even if there is both a mother and a father, if they are both good people and get along with each other, they may not give the child something. First of all, attention. They come home from work - they are busy with household chores. Cooking dinner, finishing a report, relaxing in front of the TV. But the children do not get attention. Its lack is the main problem in modern families, - continues Mikhail Viktorovich. According to our expert, parents underestimate the role of live communication with a child. After all, five to ten minutes of warm, confidential conversation is enough for him to feel calm in his soul. - To stroke a child, hug, braid hair - parental warmth warms children's souls. And if the relationship in the family is good, but formal, this can also be a problem, - says Mikhail Vinogradov. What can we say about children who grow up without parents. They have it even harder.
Positive current
The professor is encouraging:It is still possible to recognize children's aggression. However, parents themselves are not always capable of this. It is better to seek help from a specialist. - At 13 years old, less often at 12, it is necessary for the child to talk to a psychologist - not a psychiatrist. This is necessary to identify all his innermost desires and aggression, which is inherent in all children. To identify and direct it in a positive direction. The thing is that at this age, the body undergoes hormonal changes. Simply put, the brain is still childish, and aggression is already quite adult. Therefore, teenagers are recommended to be sent to sports clubs - boxing, hockey, aerobics, basketball. Anything, as long as he has a place to throw out energy. - Children come home already calm. The release of energy has occurred, was constructive - this is the main thing, - explains Mikhail Viktorovich. But what if you miss this time and the child still goes on a rampage? Is it really too late to fix the situation? - In this case, going to a psychologist is no longer just necessary, but absolutely necessary. Behavior correction can take about six months. 4-5 months if the child is cooperative. And up to a year if he is not, the specialist summarizes.
