Loneliness Parents at work, childleft to himself or under the supervision of a nanny, that is, a stranger. He lacks affection and attention. He sneaks in Mom’s or Dad’s things and creates the illusion of the presence of parents. In extreme cases, they steal money to console themselves by buying the desired thing for themselves. What to do: spend more time with the child, hug it, take it for walks. Explain to the baby: you love him, and you don’t go to work because he has obligations. In no case do not pay off, compensating for the lack of love with expensive gifts. This can lead to serious problems: psychological loneliness, closeness, the habit of easily getting what you want.
Photo:Getty ImagesImitation of adultsOften children "forget to return" an object from the life of adults that interests them - a part of a mechanism, cosmetics. For children, everything is logical: "Mom and her friends have a lot of jewelry. I will become just as beautiful if I take one ring." This is not a serious problem, the child simply strives to become like those who have authority for him. What to do: do not start a showdown in the heat of the moment. Harsh punishments will only do harm. Do not humiliate the child, refrain from public reprimands, do not lecture the whole family. Calmly explain that he is still too young for such a thing. But when he grows up, he will definitely be bought the same. And formulate once and for all: it is not good to take other people's things without asking. Fulfillment of a wishRaising children in severity and trying to teach them to work, parents often forget about encouragement. Children do something useful, fulfilling the will of adults - they wash dishes, study perfectly and get nothing in return. They get the idea that no matter how hard they work, mom will not praise them, dad will not buy a toy. Out of despair, they go to extreme measures: they "borrow" the desired thing from their peers (phones, tablets, etc.). But sometimes more terrible thoughts appear in their heads: why live like this at all. What to do: praise for successes, note achievements. It is important for the child to know: his work is not in vain, his parents are proud of him. If he fails, help him understand the situation. This will give the child strength and help him cope with the problem. After all, he will know that his parents are on his side. The thirst for everything From adult conversations, children quickly learn: money is the most valuable thing in life. With it, you can buy everything and make others respect you. Sometimes the role of money is played by things that are taken out of the house and exchanged for homework and other services. What to do: find out why the child needed to secretly take money. If he got involved with a bad crowd, find out what role he plays in it (the initiator or the victim, manipulated by stronger children), and take immediate action. Sometimes money is needed to run away from home. This happens when children feel superfluous: mom has a new husband, the family is expecting an addition, etc. From childhood, instill the right attitude to money, teach how to earn, count and save. Never blame the child for spending what he has earned through backbreaking labor. The kid may conclude: earning money is hard, so it is worth choosing another way to get it. Or he will feel like a burden, that he was born in vain.
