How to wean a child to achieve his cry, wean from the whims and scandals

Why it is necessary to wean a child from whims and screams

The formation of the baby's personality is influenced byadults, as well as the development of certain behavioral stereotypes. No matter how offensive it may be for parents and grandmothers to admit this, they are largely to blame for children's scandals and tantrums.How to stop a child from getting his way by screamingPhoto:Getty Children's whims are not uncommon, and often they are quite justified. Children may be teething, have a stomach ache, be scared or lonely. Therefore, the natural reaction of the mother and other loved ones is understandable - to come up, feel sorry for them, calm them down, distract them with a bright toy or a rosy apple. This is necessary for both the child and you. But screaming, hysterics, tears and even stamping their feet and rolling on the floor often become a way to get what they want, and adult concessions lead to such scandals happening more and more often and lasting longer. The habit of manipulating adults not only gets on the mother's nerves, but can have unpleasant consequences for the child.

Frequent screams, tears and tantrums are bad for the baby’s nervous system. And constant concessions to him only worsen the situation.

A small manipulator forms a stable reaction, similar to a reflex one. If he doesn’t get what he wants, as soon as an explosion of screams, tears, stamping with his feet, etc.

The vagaries of the child can take a demonstrativecharacter And often, children of two or three years old begin to throw up tantrums in public places: in shops, on transport, on the street, etc. With this they put the mother in an awkward position, and in order to stop the scandal, she makes concessions.

Capricious, accustomed to achieve their crychildren do not get along well with their peers, they have serious problems with adaptation to kindergarten, because educators react to their scandals differently than their parents.

Changing the behavior of a capricious child is necessary for his own benefit. Moreover, the sooner you begin to fight hysterics, the easier it will be to cope with them.

How to wean a child from crying and whims

The reasons for whims can be different and not allThey are associated with stubbornness and the desire to get one's way. Therefore, if the baby is capricious and cries often, it is better to first consult a doctor and a child psychologist. But as a rule, mothers themselves understand perfectly well what causes hysterics.Knowing how to wean a child from screaming and tantrums, youhelp him find logical argumentsPhoto: Getty There are many ways to stop a scandal that has begun and wean a child off using this remedy.

If you feel that the baby is ready to throw a tantrum with tears and felting on the floor, then switch his attention, suggest doing something interesting, watching pussy, bird, etc.

If the screaming and tantrums are in full swing, starttalk to the child about something neutral. The hardest thing here is to make him listen to you, since the capricious child usually does not react to anything because of the screaming. But catch the moment when he falls silent, and start saying something that attracts the baby, switch his attention, distract him. He will fall silent, listen and forget about the reason for the scandal.

Watch your emotions, do not succumb to anger and irritation, do not shout at the child. Be calm, but persistent.

If hysterics are repeated frequently, then it is possiblepunish the little manipulator. The best option is isolation. Leave the capricious one alone and the hysteria will quickly stop. After all, the child cries exclusively for you, and if there are no adults nearby, then the scandal loses its meaning.

One of the most important principles that needs to befollow in case of children's whims - calm persistence. Do not allow the baby to gain the upper hand in this confrontation, but also try not to allow him to bring you to a nervous breakdown.