Psychologists do not get tired of studying the nature of communicationparents and children, their influence on each other. And it is precisely proved that it is very important for a child to hear the words “I love you”, to receive kisses and to feel the warmth of the embraces of their parents. What is necessary to do in order to raise a happy child?
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1. Talk about your love
There is a kind of "verbal diet" - these are the expressions that a child should hear from you every day. Not all at once, of course. And according to the situation.
- "I love you".
- "I love you, no matter what."
- "I love you, even when you're mad at me."
- "I love you, even when I am angry with you."
- "If I could choose any child on Earth, I would still choose you."
- “My favorite memory of the day is when you and I did something together.”
And of course, do not limit them. After all, surely you yourself will be able to pick up words that will express how much you value your child.
2. Hug a child
Tactile contact for son and daughter is important at allno less than talk. Let even the most soulful. It is necessary to embrace a child at least 4 times a day (it needs him as food, for survival). And in order for a child to grow up happy and develop harmoniously, he needs at least 8 hugs during the day, as well as in the morning and at night. With their arms, the parents make emotional contact with the child, convince him that they need him, love him, he is safe, reduce level of anxiety.
3. Be a narrator
Talking with a child is not only about assessments,successes and other things that are important, let's say honestly, are more for you than for him. Be a narrator yourself. Do not know what to tell? We have several topics.
- The story of his birth.
- How you cared for them when he was little.
- The story of how you chose his name.
- About myself at his age.
- How parents and grandparents met.
- About what you are doing now, what are your plans.
You will be surprised how many details will pop up in yourof memory. Try it - and you will understand that such conversations benefit not only the child and your mutual understanding, but also yourself. After all, you always remember more than good. A positive has not been superfluous to anyone.
4. Listen to the baby
Every child wants to be heard by their parent. It would seem that it could be easier than hearing. However, listening and hearing are two big differences. Listening to a child is something that every parent should be able to do. It often happens that when a child tells something and the parent easily interrupts him. It undermines trust. Listen to what the child is telling you. You should be careful, regardless of whether the child complains that they have been offended, or talk about their toys or cartoons.
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5. Ask the child
Often in the everyday rush we forget to talk tochildren to heart. This leads to the fact that the relationship becomes formal, and in emotional terms there is a gulf. It is necessary to talk more often with your children, ask them open-ended questions, which cannot be answered simply by “yes” or “no.” There are four questions that need to be asked to the child every day.
- How was your day?
- How are your friends?
- What is your most pleasant memory of the day?
- Do you need my help?
Of course, it is not necessary to save the wording. Put your sincere interest in the question. After all, you do not care what was the children's day?
6. Take time
You spend too little time together. No, do not argue, because we know that work, household chores, and running around on business are eaten day after day. Try to slow down a bit. What for? To find time, for example, on:
- to just sit with your child while he plays;
- to read a book together;
- for your child to help you cook;
- walk together (listen to the birds in the park, ride the merry-go-round, skates or bicycles, go to the movies, etc.) Even if you leave the pebbles to the nearest reservoir.
The feeling that you are near, that you are doing one thing, which gives pleasure to both of you, is priceless.
7. Delight your child
Just like that, without any celebration. And not for special merits. Just to cheer up - both myself and him.
- Make a surprise and hide in his room.
- Arrange the dish in some fancy or funny way.
- Play with your child in his favorite game.
Then you will never become one of these boring adults. Leave yourself the right to surprise. And let him know from childhood that the flowers in the house are needed not only on holidays.
