Psychologists do not get tired of studying the nature of communicationparents and children, their influence on each other. And it is precisely proved that it is very important for a child to hear the words “I love you”, to receive kisses and to feel the warmth of the embraces of their parents. What is necessary to do in order to raise a happy child?
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1. Talk about your love
There is a kind of "verbal diet" - these are the expressions that the child should hear from you every day. Not all at once, of course. But according to the situation.
- "I love you".
- "I love you, no matter what."
- "I love you, even when you're mad at me."
- "I love you, even when I am angry with you."
- "If I could choose any child on Earth, I would still choose you."
- “My favorite memory of the day is when you and I did something together.”
Well, of course, you shouldn't limit yourself to them. After all, you yourself will probably be able to find words that will express how much you value your child.
2. Hug a child
Tactile contact is important for son and daughterno less than conversations. Even the most heartfelt ones. It is necessary to hug a child at least 4 times a day (he needs it like food, for survival). And in order for a child to grow up happy and develop harmoniously, he needs at least 8 hugs during the day, as well as in the morning and at night. With their hugs, parents establish emotional contact with the child, convince him that they need him, love him, he is safe, reduce the level of anxiety.
3. Be a narrator
You need to talk to your child about more than just grades,successes and other things that are, let's be honest, more important to you than to him. Be the storyteller yourself. Don't know what to talk about? We have several topics.
- The story of his birth.
- How you cared for them when he was little.
- The story of how you chose his name.
- About myself at his age.
- How parents and grandparents met.
- About what you are doing now, what are your plans.
You'll be surprised how many details will come up in yourmemory. Try it and you will understand that such conversations are beneficial not only for the child and your mutual understanding, but also for you. After all, more good things are always remembered. And positivity has never been superfluous to anyone.
4. Listen to the baby
Every child wants to be heard by his ownparent. It would seem that what could be simpler than listening. However, listening and hearing are two very different things. Listening to a child is something that every parent should be able to do. It often happens that when a child is telling something, a parent simply interrupts him. This undermines trust. Listen to what your child is telling you. You must be attentive regardless of whether your child is complaining to you about being offended or is talking about his toys or cartoons.
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5. Ask the child
Often in the hustle and bustle of everyday life we forget to talkheart-to-heart with children. This leads to the fact that the relationship becomes formal, and an emotional gap appears. It is necessary to talk to your children more often, ask them open questions that cannot be answered with a simple "yes" or "no". There are four questions that need to be asked to a child every day.
- How was your day?
- How are your friends?
- What is your most pleasant memory of the day?
- Do you need my help?
Of course, you don't have to keep the wording. Put your sincere interest into the question. After all, you care what the children's day was filled with, don't you?
6. Take time
You spend too little time together.No, don't argue, we know that work, household chores, running around on business eat up day after day. Try to slow down a little. Why? To find time, for example, for:
- to just sit with your child while he plays;
- to read a book together;
- for your child to help you cook;
- walk together (listen to the birds in the park, ride the merry-go-round, skates or bicycles, go to the movies, etc.) Even if you leave the pebbles to the nearest reservoir.
The feeling that you are near, that you are doing one thing, which gives pleasure to both of you, is priceless.
7. Delight your child
Just like that, without any celebration. And not for any special merits. Just to raise the mood - both for yourself and for him.
- Make a surprise and hide in his room.
- Arrange the dish in some fancy or funny way.
- Play with your child in his favorite game.
Then you will never turn into one of those boring adults. Leave yourself the right to surprise. And let him know from childhood that flowers in the house are needed not only on holidays.
