Yes Yes. Cease to be surprised and reject. For most kids and even teenagers, the long-awaited New Year holidays often turn into severe stress and a monstrous test. Do you want to bet?

This terrible Santa Claus

Let's start with the simplest. From Santa Claus.It's good if the child is 10-12 years old, and he already understands who this bearded guy in a red fur coat is and why he comes. And if the baby is 3-5 years old, and for the first time he meets the "good Grandfather" closely? At the same time, the parents are still pushing the child closer to the fairy-tale character, sitting on their knees, wanting to take a picture together. My child was prepared to meet Santa Claus, however, when Grandfather banged on the door with all his might, my daughter was hysterical. She got scared (yes, to be honest, we too). Or another case. As a volunteer in one of the orphanages, I saw with my own eyes how half of the kids were horrified by how the disguised actor, apparently trying to get used to the image of the Deer, ran around the hall and shouted. The guy so diligently portrayed a cloven-hoofed animal that strayed from the herd that even I - an adult aunt - felt uncomfortable ... What in fact: and screams, we are nervous and do not understand the reasons, as a result, we pull the child even more, break down. The circle is closed.Tears of the child should immediately show the mother that the baby is anxious, afraid or tired. Photo: Getty Images

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All year you persuaded the child that to wash andTo clean teeth before going to sleep it is necessary not later than nine in the evening, and peacefully to sleep in a crib - already at 22.00. And now the New Year holidays are coming, and everything is collapsing. You try to "hold out" the baby until midnight, so that you can celebrate the New Year with him, unexpectedly go for a walk at 11 pm, and then sleep until lunch. What does the child do? He is very happy that his parents are around, his parents are at home, and he can be with them on an equal footing as an adult: do not go to bed, do not follow the rules and do not get up in the morning. What we get in reality: the habitual routine is shot down, the kid, out of habit, wants to go to bed at 10 pm, but ... he has already gone into the excitement, got mad and is not going to stop, so he jumps, jumps, jumps until he falls down or begins to cry hysteria ... What in fact: a child can not control his emotions. He does not understand how to behave now, when to go to bed and when to get up. He wants to run and play, but he is objectively tired, and therefore begins to be capricious and cry. Adults respond to this by becoming nervous. The circle closes again.

Eat what you want ... Again you ate anything?

Oh, these New Year tables .... Oh, this is diversity, abundance and ... nightmare. From gastronomic delights quite often even in adults then another week aches stomachs, what to speak about children. But of course, there can not be any diet, because these are holidays! And on holidays the whole country gorges on a year ahead. And the children are dragging everything they can get from the table, or anything that their compassionate grandmothers, kind aunts and drunken uncles give them. And then it's useless to explain that the fifth candy is already a bust, and even the children of Africa do not eat bananas in that quantity. What is the fact: the simplest is diathesis and allergy, the most unpleasant is food poisoning. And, mind you, children are NOT guilty of this!

"Boo!" Let me scare you!

The fun of adults often becomes a nightmare forchild Photo: Getty ImagesIf you are sure that the child of Santa Claus is not afraid, did not eat anything harmful for the holidays, and observe the usual schedule, remember how you behaved these days. How much was the alcohol drunk? How many obscene and obscene stories are told? It is clear that you told them not to children, and they also did not drink with their children, but with them! Next to them! At the same table! I'll never forget how I woke up on Christmas Eve from screams from a neighbor's apartment. I listened and understood that at least three people were shouting - two adults and a child. And the kid is practically in hysterics. On the watch - about two nights. There are several options. Or the child had not slept before and was already so worn out that he could only sob, or he was woken by wild adults (the neighbors were obviously going to a party and the guests were just going to see off). But it was not this that struck me, but how adults reacted to the situation. They yelled at the baby in return. The apotheosis was the phrase: "Boo! Let me scare you! Maybe then you'll shut up! "Faded in 30 minutes, when the guests apparently left, and parents calmed the child. However, it is unlikely that the boy's morning was better. Most likely the parents had a hangover, the head was ill, and the mood was again spoiled. What in fact: New Year, turned into a nightmare. A festive week, which will be remembered for children by endless cries of parents, constantly changing faces of guests, bad drunks and parties. We can ... We are. Practice? And who is to blame for the fact that the child categorically does not want to obey, is capricious and sobbing? To blame except for you there is nobody. So, maybe it's time to reflect and reconsider your schedule for the future holidays?

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