Secrets of raising children: what children are afraid of

Yes Yes. Cease to be surprised and reject. For most kids and even teenagers, the long-awaited New Year holidays often turn into severe stress and a monstrous test. Do you want to bet?

This terrible Santa Claus

Let's start with the simplest thing. With Santa Claus.It's good if the child is 10-12 years old and already understands who this bearded man in a red coat is and why he comes. But what if the child is 3-5 years old and he meets the "kind Grandfather" for the first time? At the same time, parents still push the child closer to the fairy-tale character, sit him on their laps, want to take a photo together. My child was prepared to meet Grandfather Frost, but when Grandfather banged on the door with all his might, my daughter had a fit of hysterics. She was scared (and, to be honest, so were we). Or another incident. As a volunteer in one of the orphanages, I saw with my own eyes how half of the kids were horrified by how a disguised actor, apparently trying to get into the image of a Deer, ran around the hall and screamed. The boy was so diligently pretending to be a stray ungulate that even I, a grown woman, felt uneasy... In fact: he screams, we get nervous and don't understand the reason, and as a result we tug at the child even more and lose our temper. The circle closes.Tears of the child should immediately show the mother that the baby is anxious, afraid or tired. Photo: Getty Images

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All year you have been convincing your child that it is necessary to wash andYou need to brush your teeth before going to bed no later than 9 pm, and be peacefully sleeping in your crib by 10 pm. And then the New Year holidays come, and everything falls apart. You try to “hold on” to the baby until midnight to celebrate the New Year with him, unexpectedly go for a walk at 11 pm, and then sleep until lunch. What does the child do? He is incredibly happy that his parents are nearby, his parents are at home, and he can be on an equal footing with them, like an adult: not go to bed, not follow the rules, and not get up in the morning. What do we get in reality: the usual routine is disrupted, the baby, out of habit, wants to go to bed at 10 pm, but ... he has already entered the excitement, gone wild and is not going to stop, and therefore jumps, jumps, jumps, until he falls or starts crying hysterically ... What in fact: the child cannot control his emotions. He doesn't understand how he should behave now, when to go to bed and when to get up. He wants to run and play, but he is objectively tired, and therefore begins to be capricious and cry. Adults in response to this begin to get nervous. The circle closes again.

Eat what you want ... Again you ate anything?

Oh, these New Year's tables...Oh, this variety, abundance and... nightmare. Often even adults have stomach aches for a week after eating these gastronomic delights, let alone children. But of course, there can be no talk of any diet, because these are holidays! And during holidays the whole country eats enough for the year ahead. And children steal from the table everything they can get, or everything that compassionate grandmothers, kind aunts and tipsy uncles pass to them. And here it is useless to explain that the fifth candy is too much, and even children in Africa do not eat bananas in such quantities. In fact: the simplest thing is diathesis and allergies, the most unpleasant thing is food poisoning. And, mind you, children are NOT GUILTY of this!

"Boo!" Let me scare you!

Adult fun often becomes a nightmare forchild Photo: Getty ImagesIf you are sure that your child is not afraid of Santa Claus, did not eat anything harmful during the holidays, and followed the usual schedule, remember how you yourself behaved during these days. How much alcohol was drunk? How many obscene and dirty stories were told? It is clear that you did not tell them to your children and did not drink with your children, but in front of them! Next to them! At the same table! I will never forget how I woke up on Christmas night from screams from the neighboring apartment. I listened and realized that at least three people were screaming - two adults and a child. Moreover, the baby was practically hysterical. The clock says about two in the morning. There are several options. Either the child had not yet slept and was already so exhausted that he could only cry, or he was woken up by wild adults (the neighbors were clearly having a party and were just about to see off the guests). But it was not this that struck me, but how the adults reacted to the situation. They yelled back at the kid. The apotheosis was the phrase: “Boo! Let me scare you! Maybe then you’ll shut up!” Everything died down after about 30 minutes, when the guests apparently left and the parents calmed the child down. However, the boy’s morning was unlikely to be any better. Most likely, the parents had a hangover, a headache, and their mood was ruined again. What’s the fact: New Year’s turned into a nightmare. A festive week that children will remember for the endless screams of their parents, the constantly changing faces of the guests, crazy drinking parties and revelries. We can… We know how. We practice? And who is to blame for the fact that the child categorically does not want to obey, is capricious and cries? There is no one to blame except you. So, maybe it’s time to think about it and reconsider your daily routine for the future holidays?