How to raise a child caring and kind person

Every parent wants his child to becaring, understanding, polite, with moral principles. The notorious glass of water again. But by themselves, children for some reason do not grow. They need the help of adults. Specialists at Harvard University have compiled a list of seven simple tips that will help you raise a really cool guy or girl.Photo: GettyImage1. Communicate with childrenIt means in mind not lisping or, conversely, shouting in the style of "Do not touch!" That is, when your attention is completely given to the child and conversations with him. After all, only one’s own example can teach a child to genuinely be interested in someone’s life. Encourage his efforts, praise for achievements. Ask the children to maintain a meaningful conversation. If you and your child build relationships that are maintained in a positive, respectful and benevolent manner, then he will be able to build the same himself. Be a role model. Words are words, but children adopt behavior, not proclaimed principles. If you encourage children to be honest, patient, caring, while they themselves are lying, angry and selfishly eating the best piece of cake, you are unlikely to succeed. Because, let us repeat, deeds, not words, have the educational force. If you have made a mistake somewhere, have violated your own principles, explain to the child what you made a mistake in and how to fix everything. In addition, in this way you will let the child know that you can always come to a person you trust for advice, help, or just a sincere conversation. 3. Teach to think about the consequences. The main quality of a good person is not to create inconvenience and problems out of the blue for other people. You are annoyed by the thoughtless behavior of fellow travelers who are pulling their legs into the aisle? Or pedestrians who suddenly slow down at the narrowest point of the sidewalk and start digging into the phone? But they simply did not think that they could cause inconvenience to someone. The child must understand that he must be caring not only for family members and close people, but for everyone in general. At school, on the playground - to all without exception. Explain it to him, then he will learn to think about the consequences of his actions. 4. Give the opportunity to take care Home help is a great way to demonstrate care. Kids with pleasure climb into all sorts of household chores, but adults usually remove them: get dirty, and you have to redo everything. But not worth it. The child will get used to the fact that his home routine does not concern him, and will take his mother’s work in the kitchen for granted. And there and to a more global disrespect for the labor of others not far. Trust the children, let them help. Teach them to say thanks for food, clean clothes. And thank them for letting a small but help.Photo: GettyImage5.Teach compassionThis is probably one of the most difficult points. You can try this technique: if the child has encountered a problem, solved it and admitted that it was not easy, tell him about the difficulties other people face. Start with loved ones - it is easier to empathize with them than with hypothetical "starving children of Africa." The main thing in the story is that it evokes an emotional response. Then the child will learn to sympathize and understand that everyday difficulties are not the end of the world.6. Coped yourself - help someone elseHelping around the house is one thing. But caring for the world around you is another. Try to play on the interests of the child: for example, if he loves animals, invite him to go on an excursion to an animal shelter, explain how he can help them. A great reason for a conversation about ethical standards in society, by the way. After all, taking a pet, promising to love and care for it, and then throwing it away is an unworthy act. Seeing a real example, the child will understand this faster. 7. Anger management. The ability to resolve conflicts is an important thing. Not everyone can extinguish conflicts or resolve them peacefully. To begin with, teach your child to understand their feelings and cope with negativity: anger, rage, aggression. All these techniques that help to pull yourself together - inhale - exhale, mentally count to ten - they really work. We just don’t remember them. And if you start working with these tools from childhood, it will become a habit. And there will be fewer conflicts in your child’s life.