And everything turns out to be not quite as it seemed, dreamed and planned.
Photo:Getty Images My first pregnancy was easy and calm. Until about the seventh month inclusive, I taught yoga in general groups and until the ninth I practiced myself. I was sure that I would establish breastfeeding, that my baby would be calm, that I would quickly get back in shape, etc. Only the last one was fulfilled, on a nervous basis ... I was “lucky” to find out what postpartum depression is, although this was not part of my plans ... Much later, I found a description of my condition from a friend of psychotherapist Katerina Suratova: “At first, you protect your former self, your interests and your way of life - you read the news, try to watch TV shows or programs, as if you are the same, communicate with friends, plan, how will you take your child with you to a cafe or on a trip. But things will never be the same again. The unsuccessful passage of this crisis - that is, the failed abandonment of oneself - is called postpartum depression, which sometimes manifests itself in the mother, and sometimes through the child (in the form of night worries, poor absorption of food, diseases and allergies). The faster this happens, that is, the sooner you give up your old self and bury your way of life and way of thinking (of course, in part, as you once buried your childhood, adolescence, your first love and everything else), the faster a new one will begin to be born. ". Now I have two children, and I know for sure that planning is pointless. And I really want to help expectant mothers not to fall into the same trap. Recently, a close relative of mine got pregnant, and she confidently tells me how everything will be.
Feeding myths
Photo: Getty Images1.“I will feed my baby by the hour. It will be easier to excommunicate him! " A little squeaking lump begins to decide a lot for us. You need to have nerves of steel to withstand 2-3 hours of a baby's oar between feedings. Doctors around the world have long recommended feeding on demand. And this greatly simplifies life, especially if the child is alone. Lie on the couch and watch a movie while the baby quietly sucks on the breast. 2. “No mixtures! Only breastfeeding! ”Don't be so categorical. When I was in the hospital with my second daughter, there was a newly-made mom with me in the ward, whose baby was constantly screaming. He did not take his chest and yelled so desperately that he even got the word "mom". She stubbornly did not want to feed the child with a mixture, they say, then she will not take the breast. A couple of times, we with other women in labor still pushed her out for a full meal and fell asleep for several hours. I had a similar situation with my son, only I ran for the mixture whenever possible. As a result, I had a baby on mixed feeding, but this did not affect either our closeness or his health at all. Moreover, breastfeeding experts argue that the process can be adjusted at any time. The main thing is patience. I didn't have enough of it, I confess. 3. “I already bought a food processor, I’ll make him puree ...” Well, just say that you just wanted a food processor. No, the kid can be calm as a tank, and you will have a lot of free time for everything. And if the child does not get off his hands? You will pump up great biceps, but you will feed him with purchased mashed potatoes. I also prefer a quiet walk to standing by the stove. And let fanatical mothers throw slippers at me.
