And everything turns out to be not quite as it seemed, dreamed and planned.
A photo: Getty Images My first pregnancy was easy and calm. Somewhere until the seventh month inclusive, I taught yoga in general groups and until the ninth practiced myself. I was sure that I would fix breastfeeding, that my child would be calm, that I would quickly get back into shape, and so on. Only the last one was fulfilled, because of nerves ... I was “lucky enough” to learn what postpartum depression is, although it was not my plan . Much later, I found a description of my condition with a friend of psychotherapist Katerina Suratova: “At first, you protect your former self, your interests and your lifestyle - you read the news, try to watch TV shows or programs, as if you are the same, communicate with friends, plan, how do you take your child with you in a cafe or on a trip. But everything will never be the same. The unsuccessful passage of this crisis — that is, the abandoned refusal of oneself — is called postpartum depression, which sometimes manifests itself in the mother, and sometimes through the child (in the form of nighttime anxieties, poor digestion of food, illnesses and allergies). The sooner this happens, that is, the sooner you give up your old self and bury your lifestyle and way of thinking (of course, in part, like your childhood, adolescence, first love and everything else), the sooner a new one will be born ". Now I have two children, and I know for sure that it makes no sense to plan. And I really want to help future mothers not to fall into the same trap. My close relative has recently become pregnant, and she tells me confidently about how everything will be.
Feeding myths
Photo: Getty Images1."I will feed my baby on schedule. It will be easier to wean him!" "First, fix it," I wanted to say, but I held back, because no one likes advice. A small, squeaky lump begins to decide a lot for us. You need to have nerves of steel to withstand 2-3 hours of baby screaming between feedings. Doctors all over the world have long recommended feeding on demand. And this makes life much easier, especially if you have one child. Lie on the couch and watch a movie while your baby quietly sucks on your breast. 2. "No formula! Only breastfeeding!" You shouldn't be so categorical. When I was in the maternity hospital with my second daughter, there was a new mother in the ward with me whose baby screamed constantly. He didn't take the breast and screamed so desperately that he even managed to say the word "mama." She stubbornly did not want to finish feeding the baby with formula, saying that he would not take the breast later. A couple of times, other mothers and I pushed her out after she ate her fill and fell asleep for a few hours. I had a similar situation with my son, only I ran for formula whenever possible. As a result, my child was on mixed feeding, but this did not affect our intimacy or his health. Moreover, breastfeeding experts say that you can improve the process at any time. The main thing is patience. I admit, I didn’t have enough of it. 3. “I’ve already bought a food processor, I’ll make him purees…” Well, just say that you just wanted a food processor. No, the baby can be as calm as a tank, and you’ll have plenty of free time for everything. But what if the child won’t get off your hands? You’ll pump up your biceps, but you’ll feed him store-bought purees. And I also prefer a quiet walk to standing at the stove. And let the fanatical mothers throw slippers at me.Also interesting:
