Learning to raise children in joy

How to raise your child healthy andhappy, what is a really joyful childhood, what to do to teach a child to be kind, sociable, purposeful, how to praise it properly and whether it is possible to punish, what games to play and what songs to sing - all of this and many other things will be told by simple and clear video lessons from Woman`s Day and the teacher-psychologist Elena Shuvarina.Photo: E.'s personal archive ShuvarinaOur third meeting with the experienced and wise teacher-psychologist Elena Shuvarina will help parents learn how to properly praise their children, as well as understand whether everything can be resolved by their children.

How to praise a child correctly so that praise benefits him?

We, parents, are all very different:Some are sure that children should be brought up only with severity, while others are convinced that you can’t spoil a child with praise. Who is right? Elena Shuvarina, an educational psychologist and head of the Development Center for Children and Parents “House of Joy,” advises: praise is necessary, but… you need to do it right! “Praise your child for a specific and understandable action. The child should know what exactly he did well,” Elena recommends. And she emphasizes: encourage the baby not only with words, complement your words with touches, smiles, hugs and kisses. Sometimes this is more important to a child than your words. But how can you avoid overdoing it, overpraising a child, and instilling in him a sense of superiority over others? Advice from a professional is in the video clip “TV-Radost”:

Prohibit or allow?

"Don't you dare touch this kitten - you'll catch itinfection!" "Put the knife back in its place immediately - you'll cut yourself!" "Don't be friends with this boy, he's a hooligan!" Do you recognize yourself? Yes, we, parents, sometimes try to forbid our children a lot. But don't rush to blame yourself: we certainly do this out of the best of convictions, caring about the safety of our child, his correct behavior, development and environment. But we don't know that prohibitions come in different colors. Yes, prohibitions come in red, orange, yellow and green! Why they are called that and how prohibitions differ from each other, says Elena Shuvarina: It's up to you to decide what color prohibitions will prevail in your relationships with your children. But at that moment, when you really, really want to stop your child with another "Move away immediately!" or "Don't you dare do that!", please remember the words of Elena Shuvarina: "You can and should negotiate with your child. Because the child will strive to negotiate with other people, and when he grows up – with his own children too. In addition, he will understand that there is nothing hopeless in this world, and there will always be suitable alternatives – you just have to think a little.”