Mood swings and tantrums in pregnant womenwomen - a common occurrence and does not surprise anyone at all. But here's what's interesting - some women do not have them! It is quite natural that the question arises about why irritability occurs during pregnancy and whether it can be dealt with. This is exactly what we will talk about today.
How does this happen?
Pregnant women often experience mood swings,there are incomprehensible outbursts of anger, from which the closest and dearest person suffers - the husband. The husband, worrying about his beloved woman, patiently endures everything, hoping that tomorrow will be easier. However, the next day everything is repeated again in the usual sequence. First, screaming and hysteria, and then tears and guilt. And no matter how hard the pregnant woman tries to control herself, she does it poorly. And what's most interesting! Most often, a pregnant woman does not change her behavior at work. Sometimes even the opposite - she becomes more balanced and calm. But as soon as she comes home, any little thing can make her lose her temper. Some begin to blame their other half for their poor health, some unpleasant sensations, a changed figure. Psychologists believe that this is how the expectant mother tries to attract attention to herself and show her husband how hard it is for her and how great the responsibility placed on her shoulders is during these months. Moreover, in most cases this happens on a subconscious level and the woman herself does not understand why she behaves this way.
Psychological factor
So, how can you insure yourself against it?irritability during pregnancy? And how to cope with it if you still couldn't avoid the problem? First, let's look at the psychological aspect of this problem. Psychologists give some simple but very effective advice.
- Do not talk!
First of all, when you find out you're pregnant, you shouldn'tshare your good news with everyone. Of course, your desire to share your joy with the whole world is quite natural. However, do not rush - this can cause a whole wave of negativity! Let's say one of your relatives or friends is convinced that you are not yet ready for motherhood. Naturally, they will try in every possible way to dissuade you from this "bad idea". Of course, such "good advice" cannot help but cause indignation and indignation in you, and therefore, psychological tension! But what if the situation is the opposite? This also happens very often. Everyone is so happy that this topic becomes the main one for all conversations. Caring grandmothers, mothers and girlfriends, trying to prepare you for all the upcoming difficulties and problems, give you such a quantity of information, most of which you will not need anyway, that it is very difficult to remain calm. And, unfortunately, this information is not always positive. In most cases, these stories - the usual "horror stories" about various complications and pathologies that you absolutely do not need now and cause you negative emotions and unnecessary fears. And a pregnant woman has enough of them anyway. Of course, it is unlikely that you will be able to hide your pregnancy for a long time - sooner or later your tummy will "give away" your interesting situation. But even then, you should not support numerous conversations about your pregnancy. And even more so, you should not allow yourself to be frightened. Even with the best intentions!
- Tips for the relatives of a future mother
A lot depends on the people close to you -husband, parents, mother-in-law. At the subconscious level, the expectant mother always feels anxious about her baby, even if the pregnancy is going perfectly. Therefore, do not forget to remind the woman that everything is going great and nothing has happened. After all, it is the feeling of calm and security that will prevent neurosis and hysterics in the expectant mother. Sometimes there is another situation when a woman wants to be the center of attention and for the whole world to revolve around her. She positions her own pregnancy as a severe illness, thereby forcing others to immediately react to the slightest whim. And if, in their opinion, the amount of attention is insufficient, they become furious and indignant. Psychologists say that most often such behavior is inherent in modest women who have not realized themselves in life with low self-esteem. This is how they try to feel their importance and the love of the people around them, at least for these nine months. And they do it with special zeal. And it is unlikely that they can be reproached for such behavior. Moreover, subconsciously, a woman wants the pregnancy to be as difficult as possible. She is not a masochist - she just wants to evoke as much sympathy as possible from those around her. And, as a result, she herself begins to sincerely believe in her own, often far-fetched, problems. And given that a woman's body is completely rebuilt during pregnancy and becomes more sensitive to the emotional background, pregnancy occurs with various complications. But sometimes you can observe a different, very sad picture - those around her do not give any indulgence to the pregnant woman, regardless of her condition. And pay attention - as surprising as it may be, but in most cases it is not the husbands who behave this way! They obediently and steadfastly endure all the quirks and whims of the expectant mother. And the above-described line of behavior is inherent in the older generation of women - most often mothers-in-law. After all, they gave birth during perestroika and crises, when there was no need to talk about any help and support. And they are frankly irritated by the state of their daughter-in-law. Especially if the relationship with the daughter-in-law is not so smooth. In this case, the husband should not only calmly endure periodic nervous breakdowns (which are sure to happen in this situation), but also show sufficient tact to protect his beloved woman from "caring" relatives.
Physiological factor
During the nine months of pregnancy a woman changesnot only externally. In addition, serious physiological and hormonal changes occur. Which, in turn, directly affect the mood of the expectant mother - she experiences either extreme irritation, or causeless joy, or even starts crying for no reason at all.
- Changing the hormonal background
It's probably no secret to anyone thatany hormonal changes inevitably lead to emotional instability and irritability - this is exactly what happens during pregnancy. Moreover, such irritability is most often observed in the first trimester of pregnancy and several weeks before delivery. It is almost impossible to do anything about this condition, so you just have to endure it.
- The physical condition of the expectant mother
One cannot discount the fact thatA pregnant woman gains a lot of weight, her back often hurts, her legs swell, and hemorrhoids develop. She has difficulty walking, sitting, lying down. Even getting out of bed is a problem, not to mention fastening her shoes or washing the floors. But despite this, even during pregnancy a woman must work, do housework, and take care of her household. And the poor woman spins around all day like a squirrel in a wheel. And then she wonders: why am I irritated so often? It is very important that those around her fully understand how difficult it is during this period. Any, even the most insignificant, help to a woman during pregnancy will be simply priceless.
Do not rush things
Most husbands are looking forward to it with great impatience.the long-awaited moment of the baby's birth. And that means - as they naively believe - the return of the former wife: as affectionate, gentle and balanced as before. Remember that such a "beast" as postpartum depression has not yet been canceled. Scary? Well, no one promised that it would be easy! We recommend reading:
