We asked the author of Woman’s Day and mother of 16-year-old Alexandra Natalya Tsareva to give advice to parents on how to talk with their teenage daughter on this awkward topic.A photo: Getty Images Talk about sex ... Parents are waiting for this moment with more, probably, a shudder than the onset of the notorious transition age. What to say? How? Where to begin? Do not fall into the room to the daughter, nervously crumpling apron, with the words: "We need to seriously talk." Then - a lecture, just as crumpled as an apron that fell victim to your nerves, and as boring as any mother's morals. And then you both sigh with relief and disperse - the debt is fulfilled, the unpleasant part of your relationship is over, you can pretend that nothing has happened. So, the script itself, to say. Kindergarten in terms of approach and the heavy legacy of Soviet education in terms of performanceA photo: Getty Images First of all, relax - no need to tell the child where the children come from. This part of the conversation can be omitted altogether. Your child has long been well aware of all that concerns the mystery of the emergence of new people. This is a given, just accept it. Your task is a little different. Think: what are you afraid of? Probably, the fact that the precious child too early will begin to discover carnal joys. Or that stumble upon the wrong guy. Well, or what may unprotected sex. And this is a conversation on another level.

Sex is trust

In fact, sex at such a romantic age ismanifestation of the highest degree of trust. This is the idea that you need to bring to your teenager. Of course, this is not a conversation at once. And its success will depend on how often you generally practice heart-to-heart talk. You will bring this bare idea from the bay-flounder - and it will pass by the ears, and by the heart, and, what is most sad, by the brains.A photo: Getty Images You can tell about trust only if it already exists between you. Otherwise, this is a pure theory. Tell about your mistakes, for example. Surely you did stupid things too. No, I do not urge to share the physiological details of your experiences. I am about emotions. How can it be unpleasant if the guy turns out to be a talker. Or stop calling. Or what it feels like to feel frustrated if it turns out that she hurried. Or the first experience was not as romantic as it appeared from books or films. But do not try to intimidate the teenager. A very common mistake, just in the spirit of the grave Soviet legacy, when there was no sex in the country: trying to imagine a natural process and, what is to be confessed, pleasant, like something dirty and shameful. Hello, frigidity, “you, the peasants, only need one”, visits to the psychotherapist and, as an apotheosis, a feeling of shame for the pleasure. Do not curry. And this grimace of disgust - no, it is not necessary so. Seriously, you are so not confident in your child and so do not trust your daughter, that you think that she will get it? If so, then do not meddle with her talking about sex in general, it is better to slip a book.

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