How to help your child find his calling - expert

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Sometimes it seems like there is nothing left in our livesspontaneity. We plan our lives a week, or even a month in advance. Some things – even a year in advance. If something falls outside this schedule, irritation rolls in: like, again, not according to plan. But we are used to this. But when you look at children who live according to the same scenario, it becomes scary. Drama club, photography club, and I also want to sing... It seems as if a child is some kind of project for parents. Which must certainly be successful. But is it right to plan a child's life down to the second? - A child must have personal time and personal space! Many parents think that if a child just sits and does nothing, he is wasting his time. This is not true. At this time, a serious thought process or processing of some previously received information is going on in the child's head. You need to give your child some time to just be alone... and let him choose what he will do during this time, - Elena Pindzhoyan is sure. According to the artistic director of "Neposedy", it is better to try to make a daily routine and a schedule of classes together with your child. But do not just pretend that you are listening to him, but really sincerely empathize with the opinion of the child. - Many children are very disciplined by the schedule, but you need to listen to the child's opinion. And you need to subtly feel at what point the child gets tired in order to give him a break in time, - says Elena Mikhailovna. And how can you understand whether you have overloaded your child? - If the child refuses to go to some class - this is already a signal that something went wrong. You need to understand, figure out what the matter is. What exactly your child does not like: the teacher, the classes themselves. Or maybe he is just tired and needs to rest. I repeat - the child needs free time, space to develop self-awareness and to know himself, - advises Elena Pindzhoyan.

Observation without pressure

Photo:GettyImagesBut maybe fanatical parents are right? And children who work from dawn to dusk from infancy grow up to be more successful? - Children who are used to working, to achieving their goals, certainly achieve a lot in life. In my opinion, a successful person is someone who enjoys doing what they love and makes a profit. The parent's task is to help the child find their calling, choose a profession to their liking, - Elena Pidzhoyan is sure. Here is another pitfall - parents need to be very careful when helping the child understand what their calling is. It is important not to impose your interests on the child - otherwise, their true talent can easily be stifled. - Listen to your child, carefully observe what interests them and what is not so interesting, - says Elena Mikhailovna. And if the child does what they like, that's great. And do not be afraid that you will distance yourself from each other because of your constant busyness. On the contrary, you will miss each other, the more joyful your leisure time together will be. - The main thing is to be interested in what the child is doing, ask questions, advise something. And in fact, it is very important for children when parents consult with them about their problems. And sometimes you can really get useful advice from the mouth of a baby. It is important for the child to see and feel that you are interested in his life and his activities, - our expert concludes. - And sometimes it is even very useful to miss.