- In the first broadcast, I rather boldly stated thatI, as an accomplished father of many children, will probably find it much easier to find a common language with small participants than colleagues. It seems to be rushed to conclusions. It turned out that it is equally difficult to enter the child’s zone of trust, whether you are a parent or not. In my opinion, we succeeded. We quickly found a common language and feel the mutual joy of communicating with each other. I admit, every time I admire how children perceive the world, express emotions ...A photo: Maxim Li / Channel One True, the boys still had to make comments. I was taught in my childhood that the first hand should be given by the elder when meeting. I remind of this even to my Costa. I, as a man, rather strictly raising sons. I think that in the future it will be useful to them. At the same time, I behave differently with my daughters, I indulge more. But if necessary, they also make comments. This also applies to the participants in the project - it is a bit easier for me to find a common language with them, apparently because I only say compliments, admire hairstyles, dresses, accessories.

To school with makeup - in no case

— Although as far as the girls’ appearance is concerned, II am sure that children should remain children. I think that girls at school, even in high school, should not wear makeup and dress up. The beauty of children is so good that it is pristine and does not require any additional means. You can fool around if girls really want to, but only inside the house. You can’t go outside like that. I have always criticized this and forbade my daughters. I am very conservative in this matter. But on the project, I must give credit, all the participants looked quite organic, I did not notice any excesses with makeup. I was afraid of something else: that the children would have a certain affectation. After all, no one gets into “The Voice” from the street, most of the participants who come here have already gone through many competitions, worked with different teachers, received a lot of advice from adults - necessary and unnecessary. And so I expected that they would sing the way they were taught, and not the way they feel. But surprisingly, I practically did not see this affectation. With a couple of exceptions. Everything should be natural, or at least look that way. When a child tries to act out something, to play, I don't like it as a mentor, and I suppose most of the audience doesn't like it either.A photo: Instagram by Inga Meladze In general, a scene is a serious psychological test. I am kind of glad that my children are not located to her. I didn’t even hear them singing, at least they hesitate to do it with me. And if I suddenly want to sing not at the stage, but at home, they will not welcome it either. Because they perceive me only as a father, and not as an artist Valeriy Meladze.

Cooing also has its place

— If we talk about my relationship withchildren, when it comes to upbringing, I can be strict. Simply, in order for the child to remember and take seriously what you want to convey to him now, you need to talk to him as an equal, seriously. There are topics that should be discussed repeatedly - for example, bad habits. I remember that in childhood, our parents forbade us some things: climbing construction sites, running around garages, but they did it in doses. And as for bad habits, here they were persistent and categorical and repeated many times: "There are things that are absolutely unacceptable in life, never and nowhere and under no circumstances should you do this, that, that." Now I repeat some things to my children every day, without ceasing, just like my parents once did. And despite the seeming tediousness, I am not going to stop. Because sometimes some small addictions can ruin a child's life. But I don't want that. I won't hide the fact that cooing also takes place in my communication with my children. I love them. When I come home, I definitely want to kiss them, hug them and spend as much time together as possible. My youngest son Luka is still at that age when you can only play with him and protect him from something. Since he doesn't have a sense of fear yet, he learns from his own experience, gets to know the world and you need to keep an eye on him. I want to give my children as much warmth as possible, and it's impossible to get tired of it. But even such a little one sometimes has to be explained what is good and what is bad. And although he is still a little boy, it is already clear that he has character. I can't stand to see children's tears at all. Even Dmitry Nagiyev admitted that he is a crybaby and a sentimental person. And I am the same. I feel terribly sorry for the children on the project when they leave it. Unfortunately, we have to play by rules that we did not come up with. And so, in one day we make someone happy, and upset someone else. But I believe that, firstly, a child's psyche is more flexible than an adult's. And all these shocks will pass less noticeably than defeats that happen at a more mature age and can already affect the sense of self-confidence, character, and so on. And secondly, it depends on the parents how their child will perceive this or that trouble. I always tried to pity mine a little, but when all the gingerbread was exhausted, I began to talk sternly. As soon as parents show that they no longer perceive tears, then it is simply pointless for the child to continue crying. With girls, of course, this number is more difficult, they still need to be calmed down longer, spoken to kind words. With boys, you can attack almost immediately. There is no need to relax. Now, if Luka falls or hits himself, he will never cry. This has been in him since birth. But he can be offended if left without attention. However, I think this is age-related and acceptable for a two-year-old child. In this case, it is even a good reminder to parents that it is time to pay attention to the baby.

Study to six years

A photo: Maxim Li / Channel One - Actually, I realized that the most difficult childhood age is from 6 to 9 years old, oddly enough. Take, for example, the participants of the "Voice". First of all, children under six years old remember songs and melodies with lightning speed - they cannot be compared with adults. We can't learn texts so fast. And secondly, they can so maturely perform a composition, pass through themselves and give out to such an extent talented that at this age it is simply impossible to teach such a thing, because there is not yet the necessary life experience. It would seem that in order to perform some kind of musical work, you need to know the letter, to be able to create a sound, to round it out - a lot of tricks. So kids up to six years do it all on a whim. And it turns out so well in them that two things can be assumed: either they have already done it once, that is, they were able to sing in past lives, or, most likely, children perceive much more in the first five or six years than later for the remaining, say, ninety. They have all channels open, they easily learn all life skills, learn languages, sports movements, including art forms. Then they are taught, and only the most talented teachers manage not to break a child, but to leave everything that he knew. increase it and help put into practice. But, alas, there are few such specialists. In just three to four years, adults have time to make so many mistakes that then they can not be corrected. And all because teachers do not always understand children, do not hear them, impose their method, breaking their natural natural perception of the world. But children, psychologists advise, you should stay even adults. It seems to me that so far exactly what has been given from birth is helping me: the voice and the brother and sister.

If only I did not grow bore

— Our parents always set good examples for usboys from some neighboring yard. Kostya and I were really annoyed by this. That's why I don't compare my children with anyone, not even with each other. I only try to personally serve as an example for them. The most important thing I would like to convey to them is that it doesn't matter whether you plant potatoes, or fix electricity, or perform on stage - any person who takes their work seriously deserves respect. Just being a good person is, of course, great, but in the future he cannot be completely happy without his favorite thing. So hard work is above all. My son Kostya recently turned 13. He is very interested in technology, electricity, Tesla's experiments, he has already read a couple of books by the brilliant physicist Stephen Hawking. We even ordered a cake for Kostya's birthday with various formulas from physics and chemistry. In addition, he knows languages. I can be quite pleased. You should have seen how tall he is, he is already as tall as me, so I have long since stopped perceiving my son as a child. And only sometimes I remind myself that I shouldn't behave with him completely like an adult. When he's naughty, for example, I can reprimand him. And then I remember myself at that age - we fooled around with Kostya for much longer. After all, Kostya is still a child, he was 12 just a couple of months ago. In a good way, he can and should still allow himself to be naughty. An overly correct person, even in adulthood, causes only melancholy. We try to raise our children to be ideal, to make them correct, but God forbid that they grow up to be bores.

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