Actress "Real boys" Zoe Berber told about the education of her daughter

- Nadya turns three in June. Every minute when I'm at work, it seems to me that I'm missing something. After all, she has a new face every day, manners change. A daughter is a little me. Persevering, firmly stands on his own. It happens, we argue, I say: "I'm an adult and I know how it's better." Nadia responded: "And I know what I want!" As a result, Dad separates us (the actress is married to the scriptwriter of the series "Real Boys" by Alexander Sineguzov.) - Note: "Antennas"). He and my grandparents have "good cops", we are forced to keep the defense and educate with the nanny. And while this scheme works.Photo: Roman Kuznetsov

I'm trying to make my dreams come true in Nadia

— I used to think that I would become my daughter’s friend.It turned out that I copy my mother's upbringing exactly. Her phrase "I'm not your friend" is on the tip of my tongue when Nadya doesn't listen... And I restrain myself from saying it to my donya (that's how the actress affectionately calls her daughter. - Ed. "Antenna"). And I hope I never say it, since I myself hated her as a child. If something happens, I say sternly: "That's it!", and she already gets tense. At the same time, in matters of upbringing, I try not to pay attention to other people's opinions. For example, no matter how much they persuade me, I do not plan to send Nadya to kindergarten. What is it for? So that the child can socialize, communicate with peers. And I think clubs can help with this. I will take my donya to dance and martial arts. Everyone is surprised why a girl needs karate, but I understand that I am trying to make my childhood dream come true in Nadya. I wanted to be able to stand up for myself, and martial arts are also very beautiful. Our dad insists on swimming. And I'll add drawing to the mix. I think we'll go together - I'll be happy to learn how to work at an easel. Another small plan is to pierce our ears. Neither Nadya nor I have earrings. When she turns four, we'll pierce all four of our ears at once. It turned out that I'm exactly copying my mother's upbringing. In the TV series "Real Boys" I'm a movie mom to a son and I don't raise Nadya as a girl. I don't see her as a princess, rather just a child, a person. The main thing I want to teach her is patience. Of course, she can whine and demand a toy. Sometimes I can specifically say: "But I forgot my money. Another time." And she won't start banging her head and throwing a tantrum. Patience is an important quality, it will bring her many fruits in the future. Well, dad emphasizes a good mood in his upbringing. I think if each of us brings something of our own, we will raise the right person.

Want to actress - send it to "all the hard"

— I already notice artistry in my daughter.When she and dad turn on cartoons on a big projector on weekends and act out mini-scenes from them together, I see how cool Nadya transforms. It doesn’t matter what role – male or female. My daughter gives 100% in any image. If one morning she wakes up and says that she wants to become an actress, I’ll send her straight away “to hell”. I’ll send her to a children’s theater – so that there will be three-hour rehearsals in the evenings and final performances on weekends. I was also immediately thrown into the water, without being taught how to swim: after school I ran to rehearsals at the children’s dance theater three times a week, and on Sundays, instead of rest, we had concerts for which tickets were sold. I have rather negative memories of school. I was a C student… If Nadya wants to continue after such an immersion – then it’s hers! And if not, at least she won’t waste time. I have a plan for her to finish first or second grade and then switch to home schooling. And focus on sports and acting, for example. I have rather negative memories of school. I was a C student. But not because I was stupid or lazy, but because I needed to explain things from a different angle or tell them one more time. Mom hired different tutors, but in the end my self-esteem only fell, and I was even afraid to say something in class so as not to be ridiculed by the excellent students. With Nadya, I decided: if she studies well and manages to do everything, then great. No - I will not insist on A's. It is more important for me to give her the opportunity to open up and not undermine her inner self-confidence. At 8-9 years old, by the time she finishes elementary school, she will already be an adult, and we will come up with something together. Since I was 14, I have already worked as a waitress in a summer cafe. I myself moved to Moscow from Perm. But I won’t make any conscious deprivations for my daughter so that she learns to appreciate what she has. Firstly, she’s still little. And secondly, I think I can convey this to her in words. For example, I had everything until I was nine. We found a holiday on any day of the calendar to buy me a present. And then my mother got sick, my father got a new family, and I quickly adjusted. One conversation with my mother was enough for me to understand: everything has changed. But at the same time, I grew up happy and kind. And I like that Nadya is already growing up free, she can fantasize. For example, I was very surprised when she said that the shadow of a chandelier and a lantern looks like a tree. How great that my daughter already thinks creatively. We thank Amedia Production for help in preparing the material.