Why do children cry and how to calm them down - psychologist

Why does he roar! I have been shaking the son of a six-day-old for the third hour. Outside is a deep night. This is our second night at home, the first child, and there is no one to ask for advice. A sleepy husband consistently offers to “feed him”, “dress him warmer”, “undress so that it is not hot” and — by climax — call an ambulance. At this moment, the baby suddenly subsides and falls asleep.A photo: GettyImages— Silence on my hands, I just let go of my hands — sobs, I complained to those around me. - He seems to be mocking me, honestly. Our expert is Alexander Audren, a clinical, children's and perinatal psychologist, head of the happy motherhood club MammaMia:- Let's immediately take the axiom: the baby does NOT show his character, does not mock his parents and does NOT manipulate others. Any crying of him for at least three months should be taken as a request for help, and should be responded to immediately. He, like any person, from birth has his own needs, how else to attract attention and report them to mom and dad, if you still can not speak? Imagine that you are lying on your side and your hand is numb, and you cannot turn around, what will you do? Right, scream and call for help!

Feed? Change clothes? Put to sleep?

After a couple of weeks we could already clearly distinguish the shapes.baby crying: sharp, piercing - it means the tummy hurts. Persistent, increasing - the son is hungry or uncomfortable, it's time to change the diaper. Quiet whining - the baby is tired, wants to sleep. But there were also days when it was impossible to determine the reason for the crying. At these moments - young mothers will definitely understand me - I wanted to put the child in the crib, plug my ears, leave the room and close the door tightly behind me. I will say right away that I never fulfilled my wish. Although my grandmother advised me to do so. They say that he will cry and calm down, and at the same time develop his lungs. Alexandra Audren:- After a while, you will already understand whatthe call is to run as fast as you can, and to what - first raise your voice: mom is here and hears you, and then come over. But you shouldn't resort to such educational measures as letting the baby "scream" out. This is cruel. He is helpless in the huge world, and only mom can help him regain a sense of peace and security. He himself is not yet able to cope with this.

I want to handle!

Why does a child cry if herecently ate and nothing hurts? Our expert names a number of possible reasons. - He is hungry again. And it doesn’t matter what he ate half an hour ago. - He is cold. The fact that you are not cold is not an indicator. Babies have a special thermoregulation. - He wants to pee or poop, sometimes crying can be a reaction to unusual sensations. - He was scared of something, for example, a loud sound. - He is uncomfortable lying down or his diaper is full. - He wants to sleep, but he can’t fall asleep (has this never happened to you?) - Or, on the contrary, you persistently put him to bed, but he does not want to. - He just wanted to be held, the need for physical contact with his mother. - Increased skin sensitivity, he is uncomfortable in the clothes he is wearing. - He reacts this way to geomagnetic or atmospheric phenomena. And one more important thing. If all possible reasons are excluded, and the child is constantly crying, this is a reason to consult a neurologist. Especially if the birth was difficult. Also interesting: