When relationships deteriorate: rules of conductPhoto: Getty

When do relationships deteriorate?

In this case, we need to look for the root cause of such a crisis. It is important not to confuse the consequences with the causes. Outwardly, the cracks in the relationship appear standard:

• stupid grievances;
• meaningless quarrels over trifles;
• offensive misunderstandings;
• podkolki and ridicule;
• complete disregard;
• unreasonable reproaches.

As a rule, the couple is looking for a reason in each other, butit is worth looking for the cause in yourself. Often, we expect from our half of what she simply can not give us. There are no ideal people, so do not expect stars from the sky from your companion.

Relationships are spoiled: we search for the reason

If a half does not give us what we want, wewe feel inner discontent and emotional discomfort. Then every little thing, word, behavior, look and even silence irritates. People are inherently selfish and self-centered and expect others to admire and serve, not realizing that others suffer from the same shortcoming. A man is looking for a scapegoat. They are the one who is always near. Internal discontent develops into conflict. An armistice does not solve the problem, and anger, resentment and irritation accumulate inside. Then a spark is enough to spark a quarrel again. It turns out vicious circle. It is necessary to change yourself and your attitude to the environment, and not to blame for all the dissatisfaction of the partner.

Why relations deteriorate: mutual accusations

Two persons who have grown up in different families,sooner or later they will begin to clash. We must learn to find compromises, tolerate and respect each other, no matter what. Most often, mutual accusations sound like this.

I do not spend as much time as I want.

I do not accept this or such, what or what I am.

They do not help me if I do not ask for a favor myself or myself.

I am not entertained or provided.

Yes, this can be the cause of discontent. But because of these little things you should not break the relationship, especially since all this is exaggerated. We need to talk frankly, find out the misunderstanding, try to understand each other, go to a consultation with a psychologist and put everything in its place. This is hard work, but if it succeeds, there will be no joy. Also interesting:

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